Why do serial cheaters insist on being in relationships/marrying, when they know they’ll be cheating on their SO?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because serial cheaters are selfish people that only care about themselves , they seek constant validation from others , especially when things don’t go their way in a relationship , they have selfish mindsets thinking they can never be wrong , they always assume they are right , they can only point fingers at someone else for their actions , usually their partner , instead of pointing fingers at themselves first, they constantly feel justified for their actions. When a cheater is busted red handed , they continue to lie and try to play a victim instead of just admitting they were wrong and a POS. Most cheaters have manipulative personalities and. Manipulative behaviors and live their lives based off of lies and enjoy lying to others to make themselves feel better about themselves , they get off on trying to make other people feel sorry for them and they constantly try to play a victim. They think they were put on Earth to be catered to. They love the attention they receive from others and the thrill of getting someone else to fall for them. They usually have low self esteem about themselves , so they don’t really care if they hurt someone that actually cares about them. They constantly think grass is greener on the other side , like they are
Missing out on something , they think they deserve better than what they already have right in front of them when things don’t go their way. People cheat for a lot of reasons but all cheating is a selfish act period , Men usually cheat when he feels his partner doesn’t value and appreciate him , and she treats him like shit , she with holds intimacy and affection from him like he has to earn it from her , or he might cheat if another girl is hitting on him that he finds more attractive then his current partner that treats him better than his current partner does. Most men usually cheat for lust first , while weighing his options on whether he wants to go back to his current partner or leave his current partner for the new girl. Girls that cheat are mainly looking for Love first , when she doesn’t feel valued or appreciated by her current partner or she finds the other guy more attractive then her current partner , she will be drawn to the other guy if she feels he is more put together , and treats her better , than her current partner does I had my fair share of cheating girls’ that admitted to me why they did it , all and all it all stems down to selfishness , selfish mindsets

KostasKouvalis · Accepted Answer

Believe it or not, some women are cool with that. I don't know if you've ever heard of the concept of an "Open Marriage", but it's a real thing. Like it or not the truth is that humans aren't naturally monogamous, and emotional attraction and sexual attraction don't necessarily go hand in hand. Most men aren't demisexuals like women. But my best theory is they like the idea of having a spouse they can talk to and who will cook and clean for them, but when it comes to sex, they like to change it up. I know, it's messed up, buy that's how a lot of men are. But married women cheat just as much for the same reason. The study I've read said the average human gets bored with their partner after 12 years. At least women can keep it fresh. They can change their hair, pubes, nails, style to look like a completely different woman. Us men don't have that luxury. We can pretty much only shave or not shave. I've had married women straight up tell me they want to experience a new dick, but want to stay loyal to their husbands. You'll be amazed how many married women sext and swap nudes, but most draw the line at sex.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Cheater's are ruthless! They don't care about their real relationship and who they hurt.
It's all about them. And if confronted about it they just lie.
Some of these women they cheat with call his wife, girlfriend, whatever and want to talk to him.
That actually happened to me. The day my boyfriend moved in with me this lady had her best friend call me and asked if I was his wife. I said yes. And the chick he banged said "But he told me he likes me so much" then I told her, yeah, he is also a liar!!

KittygosMeoWW · Accepted Answer

My experience is that I was very desirable as a partner and was such a positive and healthy person that I made him look and feel better. He was scared to be alone, live his truth, and I was the strongest candidate to be his wife if he really wanted one. Of course cheating is a major character flaw that no one but him could change and he’s also struggling with his sexuality sooo I would never fulfill the role of a tranny or man because I’m not one.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

One of the reasons people cheat is BECAUSE it involves breaking the rules, and that is what makes it exciting for them.

Apple1996 · Answer

No idea. They might as well be in a open relationship if they constantly want to cheat

Logan-5 · Answer

They can rationalize that they're not really cheating. It's instead that the other isn't satisfying them. So while the casual observer would call the conduct disloyal, the cheater will point to another object of loyalty: her feelings. (Source: Sadia Khan, fwiw)

staximus, msc, and Jacob have all alluded to the heightened sexual pleasure of doing something taboo. So cheating can heighten the rush and anticipation as others would use, say, bondage or public sex.

Some feel one relationship gives them "only" love, and they need another relationship to get good sex. I suspect the less intelligent are more prone to such either-or thinking, rather than to imagine a path toward getting both from the same relationship.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

For the cheater... talking someone into a relationship serves the purpose of eliminating the partner's other sexual options while they keep their own very open.

Basically, they're selfish and greedy when it comes to sex.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Because if you can get away with it, what does it matter?
The one you are with will always forgive if they truly love you and stay loyal. So you can keep playing around and they will stay with you. Win, win. There might come a day where they leave but oh well that doesn't really matter to the cheater, there is always a replacement.

Miristheiss · Answer

They are selfish. They get the perks of being in a relationship. The social credit for being "married" the status and class they get by having that title. They get the resources and support of the relationship, the legal extortion to get alimony and be cared for via state enforced enslavement. They get their cake and eat it too.

They are selfish so getting all their wants and support is all they care about.

sean1234 · Answer

The question really is Who says it's wrong? I mean as others here have said, MANY DO IT and like it.

The other question... what religion or lack there of likes doing it? 🤔 hmmmnn

Where do laws like to not steal, rape or kill come from? There are those who really don't think those things are bad.

Do laws not really come from God?

JacobJordan · Answer

How are you supposed to cheat if you are single... you do understand that the entire concept of cheating is literally based on their being someone to cheat ON. You can't cheat if you are single. Cheating while single is just being a hoe (male or female)

billmunch · Answer

Personally, I think it's fine if my SO wants to see other guys on the side. I wouldn't end a relationship over it. So long as there's no pregnancy, I can handle it if my SO has guys on the side. She can even bring them home. Honestly, I think women should feel free to have a separate dating life from her SO without worrying about ruining a relationship.

aceleon · Answer

they have no sense of emphaty. they are not even human for me they are closer to a reptile than mammal for me.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Some want that security the fooled spouse can provide while they try to tame that infidelity itch.

molonski2 · Answer

They like the security of the back top to their activities , known many of them , one literally in the 100s type area , that takes some work.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

I don't know Maybe they think "It will be different this time" ? or maybe they can't stand being alone?

Staximus · Answer

Because they are stupid and want drama in their life, I don't know. Maybe they get a thrill from it like people addicted to stealing or something. It's scumbag behavior.

MemeSupreme · Answer

i don't think cheaters go into relationships planning that shit lol it just happens

DryGermanGuy · Answer

The relationship is the base of operations. The affairs are daytrips to other locations.

msc545 · Answer

A lot of cheaters as well as other people want the advantages of marriage including security, but also do not want to give up the thrill of cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

They might enjoy the thrill of it. To some, it's an actual kink or fetish. I doubt they'd get the sa. e dexual gratification if they just remained single.

Still-alive · Answer

Those types tend to be narcissists or psychopaths thinking they can get away with it

laly520 · Answer

selfishness low morals they want to get everything at once

Kelly6 · Answer

As @apple1996 said. more chance they are in open marriage

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Don’t know. Don’t care. Not a problem for those who don’t get involved with cheaters.

zagor · Answer

Because all they care about is their immediate needs.

Carly2005 · Answer

Cause they want them to belong to them while playing.

elaphe · Answer

They want to have their cake and eat it too.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Some people find it sexually thrilling.

Elena_Stewart · Answer

Because they are selfish.

douride2 · Answer

Because they just don't care.

jahaims · Answer

They are mentally ill

kingmaker21 · Answer

Because cheating is fun. Cheating is smartness.

Minahh · Answer

They like to hurt people

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