Is it bad to dm boyfriends family I never met?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been dating six months. His family is flying distance away and he also recently went through divorce, so we’ve just been giving it some time. He did say he told his brothers and sister about me though.
This weekend, he was arrested for a parole violation. I haven’t been able to contact him (sent messages but no response), and the only other person I have contact for is his ex wife who hates me and tries to keep saying they’re together and harass me. I want to just know what’s going on and how long he’ll be in there. Is it weird if I message one of his siblings on instagram to ask? Or is that too much since I haven’t had contact with them before?

[Finchie40]

Are you sure your boyfriend has been telling you the truth? Do you know for a fact that he is divorced? Why would his ex wife tell you they are still together? That sounds pretty shady to me , Are you sure he is in jail and not just saying that he is? Whatever the case , you do have a right to know , so yes contact his siblings and see what they have to say , nothing wrong with that. If he is in jail , he won’t have access to his cell phone so definitely message his siblings to get as much info as you can

[Flatmanlewis]

There is so much to say here. I’ll just start with saying you will probably not have a lot of stability and security in a relationship with some guy who:
Still has his ex in his life.
Has been convicted and sentenced to prison and still is involved in violation worthy criminal activity.
Has started a relationship with you while the ink on his divorce paperwork isn’t even dry yet.


Far be it from me to judge but I’d give some serious consideration to your situation. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.

[bobalife]

Yeah, of course, it’s an urgent matter… I hope he’s okay.

[Summeroflove]

I don’t really know but what was his parole violation for? Yes it’s fine to DM his family over something like this.

[Mr_twoface]

Even if he hasn't said anything to his siblings, you should be able to dm them and ask. As a girlfriend, you shouldn't be in the loop wondering how it is going with your boyfriend. Reach out and ask.

[lightbulb27]

sounds like you could dm brother or sister. that's it.

this is sounding... weird and not good.

[blkgold33]

Yes especially since you never meet them unless it an emergency that involves your boyfriend

[Vick2828]

No, that makes you an awesome girlfriend. So long as you are loyal. That shows the family you care whether their reaction is good or bad.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes that's bad. You should wait until he makes the introduction

[Dreamclouds]

Wow dont know do what you feel its right i guers

[BoopBoopBeep]

Looks like you picked a winner.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao please DM me. I’ve been there

[laly520]

its fine u can text em

[Jamie05rhs]

What did he do? 🧐

[he-takes-a-part]

Haha