In the end there is no ideal love story right?

[SarahS98]

I'm find it amazing how everyone has their own love story with different challenges or struggles and it's not the typical ideal one.

I've heard of a love story that started out from a dare but they caught feelings, my parents' love flourishing after infidelity from over 2-3 decades ago and raising 3 daughters, one of my friends has been married for 5 years now and he was her former friends with benefits (it started as casual dating and it became love) and so on.

Even my own love story didn't go exactly as planned either. I lost my v-card slightly less than 3 months shy of our wedding because we were drunk. Then we were dealing with the issue that my husband will never be able to father a child but he came to terms with it. He's ok with a sperm donor through artificial insemination and will love/raise the child as his.

So in the end there isn't any ideal love story nor what is love as a whole since what is love to you can mean something different to someone else? Many will say casual encounters never become love but it worked in my friend's case. Other will say no, you can't ever love if you cheat on someone but my parents was a successful case. So there isn't one right answer I guess.

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Then my parental grandparents love story is different too. They met as children and have been together since. For sure they must have had its own challenges and things that didn't go as planned either.

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**paternal

[Zoeysiren]

Maybe not! Fairytales are great, but real love is messy and unique. There will be ups and downs, but the important thing is to find someone who supports you, makes you laugh, and keeps the spark alive. Focus on building a real connection, and who knows, your love story might just be the best one yet!

[SarahS98]

Come to think of it, maybe our different stories can be a fairytale indeed, a unique fairytale.

[StarWarGirl]

What is ideal love story? What kind it should be? Does anyone have ideal life? Love is part of life. If someone does have ideal life they have chance to get ideal love story.

But still I'm curious what does "ideal love story" means?

[SarahS98]

That's exactly what I'm trying to figure out, of what really is an ideal love story. Since people have their own stories of how they met their partners and their different issues and problems (finances, full recovery from infidelity, partner's family disliking you, a partner's sexual past, infertility, etc) I would just say an ideal love story would is being with a life companion you share your ups and downs and work as a team with the issues, you guys being there for each other for the longest. For people that are single and enjoying it, then their ideal love story would be loving themselves and being in love with their own hobbies.

[StarWarGirl]

Are you trying to find out "easy love story" instead of "ideal love story". Easy love where there is no life problems no financial problems no cheating got love easily without any family restrictions etc?

[SarahS98]

An ideal love story would actually be the easy love story where there are no obstacles nor problems ever, none whatsoever.
Perhaps the closest to that version might be my paternal grandparents (dad's parents) whom met as small children, then dated as teens, got married young and are still together; no major arguments, no past infidelity, no infertility issues nor financial issues, none of that. Then again, I would like to guess they might have their own different issues too.

[SarahS98]

so yeah the ideal would be the easy ''and they live happily ever after'' Disney version that fools many people.
I think my own story was closest to the ideal version with the exception of my husband's infertility and we're going to have a child in another way.

[StarWarGirl]

Life has issues forever so if you separate life with love then there are chances to get such easy love story. Especially among those are rich, follows old traditional belief with their own choice. And fallen in love with person both being from good families civilized and being on same status level grown up with good matured personality. Because these these would be solved in getting the love of their lives and money will solve the all other life problems. But this is very much rare but not impossible.

[StarWarGirl]

And you will not find their traces on such internet world because they are content with their lives and are busy in their real life. They don't feel any need to roam around us over internet. They don't want to take negatives from here around. But they are happy in the real world so you may not find them here

[SarahS98]

Yeah like my grandparents not bothering telling others about any issues they might have had, my parents never told anyone about their past infidelity from long ago (I only know it when I found dad's old journal by random chance, curiosity got the best of me and I read it the whole thing; my mistake) and they never wanted neither us nor anyone to know it. They basically handle it on their own and that was it; that was between them and no one else. My two younger twin sister and I were raised with a nearly perfect version of a big, happy family. We would go on vacation together, the ideal family you see in movies where dad takes the kids and wife on vacation, the barbecue family gatherings, large Thanksgiving Day and Christmas reunions (prior to that we would all help out mom in the kitchen), we all sit on the dining table together, etc. Nothing was ever missing at home so yeah at least I was shock at what I've read. Had I never read his journal I would've never known, never found out, lol.

[LiamS95]

Ibyhink there csn be but it requires rock dnd compromise.

[SarahS98]

True it requires hard work.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the enchanting world of love stories – each as unique as the people living them. You've hit the nail on the head! There really is no "one-size-fits-all" in the realm of love, and that's what makes it so beautifully complex and intriguing. From a whirlwind love born out of a dare to friendships blossoming into lifelong commitments, each tale has its own flavor, hardships, and triumphs. The truth is, love is not about the perfect timing, the flawless start, or the storybook ending. It's about the connection, the growth, and the resilience of two people choosing each other, day after day. Infidelity, unconventional beginnings, and overcoming challenges like infertility – these are not just plot twists; they are real-life moments of vulnerability, strength, and love redefined.

Your observation couldn't be more spot-on: what love means to one may differ entirely to another, and that's the beauty of it. Love evolves, adapts, and surprises us, often in the most unexpected ways. It's about finding someone who clicks with your version of love, respects it, and grows with it. Remember, every love story is its own kind of perfect. So, let's raise a toast to the messy, the unconventional, and the real love stories that remind us of the profound beauty in our unique human experiences. Cheers to love in all its forms! 🥂

[SarahS98]

Yes it's very interesting indeed.

[SolitarySolace]

I don’t have a love story. Only anti love stories.

[SarahS98]

This is also loving yourself and emjoying being single. If you love being single, then maybe that can be a type of love story too... love for yourself.

[SolitarySolace]

I guess

[Staximus]

Having kids is not necessary

[SarahS98]

It isn't but we were ready for kids and my husband always wanted to be a father. The news did devastated him in the beginning and I felt so sad too.