Don't get me wrong I am not against marriage, in fact I am from India, here marriage is celebrated like a festival. But I don't see the purpose of it.
What does it bring to the table which is more positive than being in a relationship?
Now I know if I ask this question here in my country my elders would smack me with all the religious books they can find and tell me relationships are not good or pure without marriage. But who decides what's pure or not?
I mean I don't believe in God but even if I did I don't think God would have time for such small things like checking a marriage certificate of a couple living together.
No offence to believers of God.
I don't believe in a god but even atheists can get married at a courthouse, at vineyards, at resorts, at beaches, etc. Perhaps you'll never really understand it from a woman's view. For it isn't just about the legality but rather deeper stability, security and that fact that I can publically (symbolism) refer to him as a husband rather than just a boyfriend. I would feel more motivated to work on issues within a marriage vs just a boyfriend I've been dating for a couple years and no interest in marriage. I just don't feel a boyfriend is a family to me and by now it would be very insulting if a boyfriend were to call me ''oh my beautiful wife'' and lovebomb me like that.
Unlike a relationship that's base on a verbal agreement, intimacy and romance, a marriage has more than that. It can also include being included as the person being able to make important medical decision if they were ever in an accident or them included on your health insurance and it being cheaper.
Perhaps this isn't the best example but I'll give you this analogy:
Imagine you've been applying for a management position for years and your superiors praise so you much and even say you're the future manager or even call you a manager, how you're the best and blah, blah, blah but they never give you the position ever, it's just words and not actual recognition. Wouldn't that make you feel incomplete and you would wonder if you're at a dead-end going nowhere? Similar concept.
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Stability, security, freedom from being always tip toed so that any action of yours could end relationship any time. Strength to take strong decison whenever required without thinking about consequences. These all are benifit of giving it a bond which can't be broken whenever we want.
It's like difference between coalition government and single party government.
Marriage is a statement and, in fact, a legal one.
When you are just shacking up, that's like "playing house". Society doesn't respect it and the law doesn't really either since it's no different than teens dating.
Marriage - which is a LEGAL thing - officially means that the couple is saying:
"We declare the following:
- We are committed to each other for the rest of our lives.
- We are each other's best friend.
- We will make decisions that are in our best interests.
- I trust this person with my life.
- We are a new family."
In short, it tells society that you are serious and not just fucking around (in every sense of the word). Society recognizes that you are each other's most critical person in their lives. You are the "back-up" for the other person from society's perspective and it respects your choices regarding your spouse if your spouse cannot make those choices.
Society won't do that if you are not married and will, instead, go to next of kin.
This is why marriage isn't "just a piece of paper".
I’d don’t perceive any but then I never plan on marrying. My queen has I love her for every day of the 13 years I have been in a relationship with her , and always will until my last breath. Marriage would change nothing positively other than an excuse to celebrate our love which we do as much as we possibly can anyway. My heart has been promised already and no ceremony can improve on that. Any legality enforceable by marriage makes no difference as I have enough respect as love for her to always support her even if we ever were to part.
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Diving into your question, lovebird, let's explore the colorful spectrum of marriage versus relationships. Beyond the legal paperwork, marriage often carries deeper emotional commitment and societal recognition. It's like upgrading from a thrilling fling to the full “happily ever after” package. Marriage can provide a stronger sense of security and partnership, making navigating life's rollercoasters a tandem adventure. Plus, in cultures celebrating marriage like a blockbuster festival, tying the knot can strengthen community bonds and family ties, creating a support network sprinkled with extra love and care. But hey, love's essence isn't bound by a ring or a certificate. True connection thrives on commitment, understanding, and mutual growth, whether you've got the official stamp or not. So, while marriage adds a unique flavor to the relationship recipe, the main ingredient will always be pure, unadulterated love. 💖 Let's keep celebrating love, in all its forms!
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A lot of people in relationships don't live together. If you want a traditional marriage you would meet your future partner and probably date them for a while and after some time you would get married and move in together. Marriage is a duty and there are lots of responsibilities that's the biggest difference between just dating/being engaged and getting married.
Now if you're not in a traditional relationship where you live with your partner before getting married the signing of the papers wouldn't probably make that much difference other than legalizing things.
The whole point of marriage is the blessing of god to the married couples, making a promise in front of god, also so that god make them as one and a family than comes the usual governement paper so it becomes official...
Without marriage in my opinion, the couple are still strangers and do not have rights towards each other!
A real marriage is a sacred marriage, if it was just a civil marriage which is man made that no big difference between a civil marriage and being a boyfriend and a girlfriend!
I believe in God, but yeah I don't believe in marriages.
Marriages are important for people, coz it gives security nothing else.
Otherwise most of the people cheat each other in the end. And u will realise how most of the relationships are fake and hollow, and are just lusty. Nothing else.
Coz no one in the world , have guts to be in that relationship which have no future (i. e marriage).
Everyone will run away if u say them that u can't marry each other.When celebrated correctly, a marriage is not just a contract. Which is an exchange of goods. A marriage is a covenant, which is an exchange of persons. You are saying that you give yourself to them and your spouse give themselves entirely to you.
It is radically differentI guess some benefits would be: reduced tax, citizenship status, medical and employment benefits, loan benefits, you’ll also get a lifetime partner that will be by your side no matter what (ideally that is… relationships are much more fragile bcs it’s easier to walk away from).
Brilliant and well worded question. Marriage is a partnership. The trade off for this arrangement is lack of passion. Everything in life has a trade off.
Physical duration and mutual legally-binding contractual commitments, cultural obligations & inheritances.
@Vesuvius87 said it all, but it sounds like you are not marriage worthy anyway, judging by your negative attitude.
Your elders are attempting to prevent unfaithfulness by use of religion. Cheaters will cheat regardless of a certificate or religion it seems. Depends if the person is a cheater to begin with.
What makes a relationship " legal"?
And: is a girlfriend then ' illegal'?A marriage gives the other person legal rights.
Marriage is a symbol of lifetime commitment that doesn't exist in other relationships. But that difference is minimal today, especially among women, given that half of marriages end in divorce and women file 80% of them. Women as a whole have shot themselves in the foot when it comes to marriage.
You should ask married couples this question.
I think it's good to get married for the purpose of raising children. So they dont end up a monster.
Permanence. Commitment. Finality.
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