Have you ever overcome a serious fall out over something that you didn't feel was a big thing with your partner. If you have how did you achieve it?

[CubaPirate]

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I stopped being pissed off and letting myself get emotional, and I started trying to find out what the bigger thing was that actually got her mad.

Chances are, if someone freaks out at you over something little and won't explain it to you, it's because they don't know how to explain it to you in a way you'll be receptive to.

[Chazmatazz269]

If you’re dating someone who can’t tell you what you did that upset them, you better be a child. Because you’re dating one.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@Chazmatazz269 it's just human nature. All age groups do this. Happens every day in the work setting.

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s absolutely not human nature for all age groups. You’re surrounded by immature people if you think that’s even remotely true.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@Chazmatazz269 alright, only children avoid difficult conversations and everyone who has ever partaken in this activity is overall an immature person who probably can't accomplish anything meaningful.

What were talking about here is something that happens all around us on a daily basis.

It happens when somebody says something racist to a gas station attendent, it happens when celebrities get interviewed, it happens when clients know they're asking for too much and it certainly can happen when a partner is having trouble knowing how to approach a frustrating or difficult situation.

It's immature not to acknowledge it.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

And it doesn't change the fact that if you want to be an excellent communicator, pick up on the fact there's an underlying problem and investigate.

[Chazmatazz269]

I never said it didn’t happen. I said it’s childish. Literally nothing you have said challenges that simple fact. It doesn’t make a behavior less childish because LOTS of people behave like children.
Another thing that is childish, is trying to turn the characterization on me because your feelings are hurt. Get over it and grow up. Stop spending so much time with immature people and justifying their bad behavior. You might actually get a glimpse of how good mature, adult relationships can be when people are intelligent, responsible and respectful.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@Chazmatazz269 you said that people who act that way are children. In the context of our conversation the implication of your word were that I was giving bad advice because if the person the asker was referring to wasn't childish then there couldn't be an underlying issue. Or at least something similar enough to start this conversation.

You're being disrespectful and childish with your lashing out style of communication you've displayed here. Making assumptions about who I hang out with. It's clear you have little real world experience when it comes to working with different types of people.

You don't have to take my word for it, just read a little about psychology. Read about coping mechanisms long enough and you'll come across what I'm talking about here. Even start recognizing it if you pay attention.

[Chazmatazz269]

I’ve got plenty of real life experience and i’ve read plenty on personality types and the DISORDERS you’re vaguely referring to. Adults behaving like children is dysfunctional. How is that not clear to such a worldly and well read fellow like yourself?
I’m not lashing out. You’re overly sensitive. Clearly you have difficulty accepting that you’re wrong. YOU talked about a great many people in all aspects of life that you come across daily that don’t communicate effectively. I made no assumptions whatsoever. That’s information you offered freely. I’m supposed to ignore that just because it defies the narrative that you’re trying to spin now? Ell oh ell! You’re out of your league, friend. You’re clearly not going to admit you’re wrong. So just drop it. You’re not equipped to win this argument with me.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

@Chazmatazz269 lol OK buddy. You've got a sneaky way of spitting half truths but they're still pretty obvious to anyone who smart enough not to trust CNN lol. So maybe not all that shabby.

But the fact is, I'm the one making concrete statements which may be directly responded to and you're just going on what are effectively the same thing as name calling rants.

By the way, coping mechanisms aren't disorders, they're just how our brains work and when you're unaware of them and don't train yourself, they act often times without you being able to precieve them.

Our minds lie to ourselves in this way... Again, not a disorder, just how the brain works. These are fairly easy things to look up on Google.

Tell me how I'm not equipped but you are?

[strateguy632]

impossible i wouldn't DO "serious fall out over something that you=i feel was not a big thing". her way is acceptable even if i disagree.

[jennifer_bloom]

I was rude and inconsiderate with the guy I talk to now around 12 years ago. A lot of people would have ghosted me after that but he forget about it around 7 years later. I've know him for around 16 years but we did not interact regularly online until around 2021 or 2022.

[dustybiker2]

If they know you it shouldn't become a big deal. Each other's weaknesses should long be understood. Point out if something bothers you and explain why in a kind way.


Anything that turns into a fallout is long standing suppressed emotions. Poor communication.

[dustybiker2]

Thanks for mho

[Chazmatazz269]

No. When there’s such a huge disparity in values that one person has a conniption while the other doesn’t see a problem, the relationship is doomed. Fighting for it is futile.

[lorenzomichael]

Here’s the trick listen never get attached to anything quickly. Be caring but stay somewhat shallow, have something of a Calus heart.

[NathanDavis]

never had a big fight like that with a girlfriend...