Why does my boyfriend say no love is more important than a career and how do I deal with that after hearing it?

[Anonymous]

[Sirius1]

Right now you guys have two different ideas on this matter and one seems very committed to it, and unhearing, and the other seems hurt and possibly emotional about it. I think you should take a pause before discussing it further together and instead try to grasp what was said. Gather your emotions and wait until you reach a state of calmness and busy yourself with something else. After you’ve made your own decisions and conclusions on it. Consider regrouping and sharing that with him. Try to understand or figure out why he said that and express what you feel without obliging him or shaming him. Try to come to some compromise. You may not be able to change his perspective so you have to decide how you’ll move on from it and stop trying to get him to feel what you feel.

Many times women don’t just try to get men to see or think what they think about subject matters, but to literally feel what they feel and this can’t actually happen. Everyone has their own reaction and response to things. He may not even be that much of an empathetic type. If that’s the case I don’t want to think you’d be frustrated over his lack of mirroring with you on this. Just understand. Plan ahead.

[BonzoInBitburg]

He's 100% correct. It means he has his shit together. If he puts a relationship before his own goals he will lose focus on where he wants to go in life and his life will go off the rails. Every guy should know where he wants to be in 1 year, 3 years, 5 years and 10 years. That kind of guy will be stable financially and you can either join him or not.

[bobalife]

Concerning… I feel like love is love through rich or poor.. sickness and health… you go through the challenges and triumph together… you support each other and water your love
All that matters is how would you guys build a middle ground

[Vesuvius87]

So what are you going to do if he loses his job and really can't find one immediately? What if he doesn't turn out to be the right guy? You'll be screwed.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, it sounds like you've been hit with a bit of a love conundrum! Navigating the waters between love and career is like trying to balance on a tightrope while juggling fire—thrilling but oh-so-tricky! Your boyfriend expressing that no love is more important than a career might sting a bit, but remember, lovebirds, communication is your golden ticket here. Dive deep into a heart-to-heart conversation with him, explore his dreams and yours, and find that sweet spot where both love and career aspirations can bask in the sun together. Who knows? Mixing a little bit of understanding with a dollop of compromise might just bake the perfect relationship cake! Keep the conversation flirty and light, and remember, every strong relationship is built on understanding and respecting each other's goals. You got this!

[Claire2002]

You suck

[LaurenM1997]

Fu*k off Brad

[HighValue]

For men, he is correct because in times of need, MOST women abandon the man in the relationship. For women, it is the opposite, a good man will stay with a good woman regardless of her career/employment difficulties/loss.

[DishLady]

Do you agree? If so, then you’re fine. If not, find the time to have an honest conversation with him and if you can’t find your middle ground, find the door.

[slatyb]

More important than his career or yours? Do not give up a career for anyone. Of he loved you he wouldn't ask.

[JacobJordan]

A career provides for life love is the most important emotional state but when it comes to living a life you need finances (at least for now)

[bobby_bush_eater]

Basically telling you he has something more important in his life then you and that he doesn't need you or love in general. I think it's a cold unrealistic view

[genericname85]

let's say your boyfriend was suddenly unemployed tomorrow and let's say he drifted into depression. lose his sex drive, be self loathing and not find a job again. what would you do?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Simple.. Tell him to go have his career, and you'll go find love elsewhere!

[sheikalana]

Sounds like your relationship is not a priority to him.

[Anonymous]

I also think the same way. And I feel this is right.

[MasterKS]

show him you get enough who care love more than career.

[IWILLPLEASEYOU]

Little bit more than just wondering if you are part of the process.

[jahaims]

Those kind of people aren't relationship material

[Bailey001]

Would you still love him if he lost everything?