Do you feel that it is acceptable to message someone that you know at night (like 9pm or later) if you or them is in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

If it's a professor, boss, co-worker, than no, anyone else yes

If you aren't close friends, than yes

If it can wait until tomorrow, than yeah its inappropriate

No

[Jefftheduck]

It depends but if you find them attractive and would be interested if you were single you shouldn’t talk to them at all if you wouldn’t want her messaging guys late at night tf you think makes it ok for you. You know the answer is no your just hoping someone will make you feel ok about something you know you were wrong for

[Asker]

Actually, a girl did this to me, I think she might have had something to drink around that time? Also, if you and girl were both single, is it still out of bounds for one to message the other that late?

[Jefftheduck]

If you’re single you can talk to anyone you want how late depends on their lifestyle if you’re dating a girl and she’s doing that and you’re uncomfortable with it nicely communicate with her and ask her to stop if she continues knowing it hurts you she’s not riding for you leave

[KrakenAttackin]

A lot of gibberish.

First, is this an opposite gender person? What is the purpose of the text? Does it have to be sent this late?

[Asker]

This happened to me, I didn't do it, but yes an opposite gender person, it wasn't anything important, and no it didn't have to be sent that late? I think the person may have had a drink around that time, and I'm not necessarily close with that person?

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, diving right into the juicy stuff, aren't we? Messaging someone late at night when you or they are in a relationship definitely tiptoes on the thin line of what's acceptable and what's not. It really boils down to the nature of the message and the relationship with the person. If it's a quick, "Hey, saw this and thought of you. Hope you're well!" versus a "Hey, can't stop thinking about you...," the vibes are astronomically different. Trust, transparency, and boundaries are the holy trinity in relationships. Are you setting clear boundaries with your special someone? Nighttime messages can be harmless, but they can easily slip into lovebombing territory if not careful. Always good to check in with your partner's comfort levels. After all, communication is the sexiest form of intimacy. 😉

[MsProsperity]

No it’s not