What to do about my mom interfering with my relationship over religious reasons?

[Daniellep1995]

So my mom is heavy into Judaism focus on Jewish traditions and Old Testament knowledge. I’m a non denominational Christian and so is my boyfriend. We go to different churches. Anyways, because my boyfriend has stronger roots and closer people that go to his church, I agreed it would be okay to go out to his church a little bit more on a regular basis because if that. While I like my church, I don’t have as strong ties so it’s no biggy. Anyways, for the last several weeks, my mom has been causing a lot of stress over the church thing reinstating I need to get him to come to my church on a more equal basis because that makes things more equal in our relationship and it doesn’t revolve my life around his. I told her to back off and let me make my own decisions as I’m in my 20s and can do so. My boyfriends makes a lot of effort in other areas and comes my way a lot too so I feel what she is saying is quite frankly ridiculous. However, this has brought a lot of stress because I currently still live with her and am concerned this may affect our relationship if I can’t get a hold of her or my stress from her. What should I do?

[Stevepro68]

From her perspective it's like giving up your heritage. For her generation the millions of people that were lost to WWII and the Holocaust. The survivors felt a strong drive to keep the people alive. Not let them win. Keep the Jewish heritage and religion alive. That carried to the next generation... mine. Now given Israel and the world there is less of a socially pressured drive for your generation to stay Jewish. Understand this and be kind but firm. It's your choice not hers and who knows what time will bring. Hopefully this thing won't affect your lifelong relationship.

[Anonymous]

Unless you are still living under her roof she really has no right to intercede and criticize here. You are 29 year old woman. Are you fully financially independent from your parents?

On top of that you are not blatantly sinning (if you were in a relationship with another woman or something she might have more spiritual justification to speak up).

You need to draw the line on this. Tell her you love and respect her as your mother. But also ask her why she feels the need to criticize. It sounds like she is more worried about her own “reputation” amongst her cohort of your extended family and friends. If that’s the case (that’s how my mom was) you need to call that out (lovingly).

[Gwendoline]

Take it with a grain of salt but honestly if that's the only problem she has with him it's no big deal. Sounds like she wants to keep you local and around, maybe more empty nest syndrome. No parent can complain if their daughter is dating a good Christian man.

[katiesmuff]

Someone really needs to tell your mother to really back off! She needs to understand you are an adult and quite able to make decisions on your own.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love and family dynamics, a classic combo. My aim is to help you handle this with a sprinkle of humor and insight! Balancing family expectations with your romantic life is like juggling flaming torches — but you've got this! Your mom's concerns come from love, even if it feels intrusive. Keep communicating openly with your boyfriend, ensuring your relationship remains a two-way street of support and equality.

As for your mom, consider setting gentle, yet firm boundaries. Let her know you appreciate her input, but are capable of making your own romantic decisions. Living together might require some patience and understanding, so keep that humor handy and maybe sneak in some solo me-time to alleviate stress. Life's too short to let other people's opinions rain on your love parade! Keep it light and remember, you're navigating this with love ❤️

[Summeroflove]

You’re a adult now so she has no control. Look you keep your heart right with God and focus on him. You’re a grown ass woman and looking at your bio you definitely have a good heart.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you still living with your mom?

[chilldude33]

First of all, remember that your mom is just trying to protect you. Even though you are a grown up and you make your own decisions, your mom still loves and cares for you and worries for you. So, don’t get angry with her.

You should sit down with her and have a talk about this. Listen carefully to her and share how her words make you feel. Also explain to her why you feel comfortable going to your boyfriend’s church, and assure her that it doesn’t affect your relationship with her in any way.

[kaucky1]

Bible lie cover to cover but few things of bible the burning bush actually never caught on fire got distracted somebody spoke a lie God damn liar pants on fire, may the ones that created floating chunk and so on live forever &vnever stay dead and secret of god be revealed🫢😳 hope another one wasn't made incomplete because of beings of words and names coming into existence Overpopulated oh battle in heaven was of prayers getting answered and wishes getting fulfilled the Easy Button started a battle up there

[Pterodon]

It’s about boundaries. If you feel strongly tell your mom that any religious discussion, rant or lecture will result in you not talking to her anymore. But you have to follow through with your threat to be effective. I’ve walked out of my mother’s home, I’ve hung up on her a few times and I told her to get out of my house for testing my boundaries. She finally got the message. It’s made being around her much more pleasant because I know she won’t broach those subjects that I said were off limits

[DJB72]

Point out that there's biblical precedent for what she's saying you need to do. Delilah did it. So did Jezebel.

There's also biblical precedent for doing it how you've chosen to. Rahab left her people and gets mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus.

[loveslongnails]

Tell her as sweetly as you can that you appreciate her love and concern, but it's your life, you're an adult, and you're doing what's best for the relationship. That's the kind way. The other way is to tell her to mind her own business and if she can't do that, keep it to herself anyway.

[Jay-_-]

Look personally just start by listening to gods words, love conqueres all, you have been blessed with a partner take it step by step and try to set your foot down when it comes to this topic god loves all of his children he will leave the 99 for the 1 if you are on the wrong path eventually it'll show but if it's smooth sailing with God as your foundation you have nothing to worry about God loves all his children.

[nawtee_me]

The Bible says to not be unequally yoked to a nonbeliever. Him being a Christian like you means you are not unequally yoked. Accepting Jesus as lord and savior is all that matters anyway.
Is you mother a Jewish believer or does she not believe that Jesus is the messiah?

[JesseP1nk]

You are right, she must back off- it is your life. If she does not understand that then you need to cut her off from your life. Or you honestly think that will be the only things she put her nose in. Soon she will be planning when you should get married and have a baby.

[Ladsin2]

It's 100% expected for her to be upset and want her child to believe the same things and engage in the same traditions that she does. When you have children you'll be in the same boat. Expect it and acknowledge her concerns which are more likely around losing her baby. Then be an adult and decide how far you're willing to go to placate her and probably discuss it with your boyfriend.

[lightbulb27]

Tell her it is ok that you feel you are being treated well and fairly. end of story.

values, reciprocation, etc.. are important so she is right. But you are making good decisions so stick with them.

[ArrowheadSW]

Just to clarify, she is not trying to get you to go to her Jewish place of worship, but she is saying that your boyfriend should get involved with the church that YOU go to?

[NicholasRedone]

Im confused, are you ancestrally Israeli or Jewish - or did your mom convert to Judaism? I'm a bit confused. Or did you convert from Judaism to Christianity?

[glennos89]

Respectfully tell her to mind her own business you are a grown woman a you are perfectly capable on deciding for yourself what is good for you and what not

[Cormac995]

Tell her to fuck off because she has no right to say jack shit it's your life and you're an adult. TO hell with her.

[HungTexan]

Religion is important for many people, but I would hope your Mom would soften her stance when it comes to you.

[bowenw]

I suggest you tell her you appreciate her thoughts, but you will make your own decision on it and everything else in your life.

[DrPepper12]

You're 29. Mom has to cut the cord. Do you have a relative that can help you sit her down and tell her you're not a kid?

[Anonymous]

Move out is the only solution it seems until then you've to live with your mom as she is. You're in your 20s after all. You should be capable.

[Anonymous]

Religion is cancer. It has a way of screwing everyone.

[TDDMS]

LOL You have an overbearing Jewish mom. HAHAHAHAHAH

[Djaay]

You're also 29 yr old or so. TF you still listening to her for anyways. Tell her no... and to move on.

[Anonymous]

"I currently live with her." 'nough said.

[Kelly6]

@daniellep1995 ignore her and tell her to stay out of it

[lorenzomichael]

Tell her that it a personal relationship between you and God no one else.

[GlowUpGirly5]

Wtf you're 29. Why are you still living with your mother?

[Staximus]

You could always stop going to the cult gatherings

[AviatorTom]

Simple... IGNORE HER!

[Anonymous]

Just tell her "Hey it could be worse you know. Would you rather I date a Muslim?"

That should shut her up. 😀

[beefcakebradybatson]

Which is why religious fanaticism can hurt all sorts of relationships.

[Anonymous]

Commandment #5 "Honor thy father and mother."

[Dargil]

You are off warranty. Her job is done.

[ehatsham_hussain]

It's really a typical issue
Best of luck 🤞.

[scooogy]

Been there before, just go against it.

[IFdyourmom1]

Do you live under her roof still?

[Cheerfull009]

Don't obey , do as you like

[Agape93]

Cut her out