Could you forgive your spouse for sleeping with your friend? Why or why not?

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Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

My gut response would be a very decisive NO ! But never having the experience I really can’t say with absolute certainty assuming you mean forgiving them and trying to continue the relationship.

Why? , because it’s not an accident is it? , in my head there is no justification for cheating in that sense and I would never be convinced it would be a one off and never happen again. The pathology / psychology of cheating just cries “ I’m broken “ and in such a way that I’m too close to be of any support to them , and so I’m OUT.

In that scenario both the “friend” and wife would be out of my life … forever.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Accepted Answer

NO, divorce incoming. I have zero tolerance for infidelity no exceptions.

Unless your open and practicing a lifestyle such as swinging, and in an expected monogamous relationship, the relationship died the moment I find out you cheated.

beenherebefore · Accepted Answer

Nope. Never in a million years. I'm not forgiving my Husband for sleeping with anyone else outside our marriage. That's a non negotiable and a deal breaker. Needless to say that the friendship would also be over for me and my friend.

missindiana93 · Accepted Answer

No. I dont condone cheating he made this choice it wasn't a mistake.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Yikes, that's a massive red flag waving right there 🚩! As a relationship coach here to sprinkle some magic on Girls Ask Guys, trust me when I say forgiveness is an individual journey, but betrayal like this rocks the foundation of trust and respect. It's like stepping on a LEGO barefoot, no fun! Healing takes time, communication, and sometimes professional help. Ultimately, it's your heart and your call. Be true to yourself and what you need in a relationship to be happy. 💔💪

ShellyB · Answer

I have not been in that situation, so maybe it is easy for me to say no, but I will say it anyway with a note to say “maybe I would think about it differently if it happened.” But, the answer is no, I might like to forgive them, but I don’t think I could, either him or the friend.

Finchie40 · Answer

No because that is cheating , why would you forgive them for cheating on you?

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

I probably could, but i wouldn’t. Rewarding bad behavior has never ended bad behavior in the entire tragic history of humanity. If you disrespect me, you permanently lose access to me. Full stop.

AviatorTom · Answer

It would depend on how strong our relationship is overall. It would be difficult to figure, but not forget.

princeofromance · Answer

Cheating is unforgivable whether it is with your friend or a random guy.

Avicenna · Answer

Hell no- that is unforgivable

adventurous-1 · Answer

if she did it without any discussion or for selfish reasons then no, as she has disregarded our relationship boundaries and trust, if we had discussed it before hand and agreed it was acceptable then forgiveness would not be needed. It depends on your lifestyle, sexual practices, honesty, and transparency.

DonaldDarko · Answer

It wouldn't matter if I did, that's who she is. I fell for someone else, not a woman that would do that. In fact I wouldn't be friends with a woman like that and I wouldn't even want to do business with her.

Petra07 · Answer

If it was before we met dated sure. A relationship no it be weird.

glennos89 · Answer

No I can't. You don't screw the person you are suppose to love like that. I don't forgive that shit

Oldschool1981 · Answer

If my wife sleeps with another guy, I generally don't get upset, so long as she doesn't get pregnant. She currently has a side guy and I'm okay with it but this might be a bit much.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. I could not. That’s unforgivable. Cheating is a deal breaker even with just a boyfriend or girlfriend, let alone a spouse, let alone with a friend.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No a friend is one of the worst betrayals.. but I don't think I could forgive it, even if it was a random person either.

EmmaMary · Answer

NO ... ABSOLUTELY NOT ... Divorce papers would be immediately drawn up and issued .

DrPepper12 · Answer

Tired: Marital monogamy  Wired: Ethical non monogamy If we change our views & expectations of what marriage is then the question is moot. The war is over (if you want it).

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I can both forgive and ‘forget’ her as I hand her the divorce paperwork with the prenuptial enforcement clause.

wkhan_87 · Answer

I will leave her for my friend, if they both love each other.

Kelley1 · Answer

It depends on whether he is just having fun or if he is seeking a relationship.

Vevv123 · Answer

That’s even shadier than sleeping with a stranger, of coarse not.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

No! That's a complete betrayal of trust by both of them

Miristheiss · Answer

No, I would divorce them and have nothing to do with them.

soe11 · Answer

I don't know, never had any experience. I gave no spouse too. I live with my loyal. girlfriend

WonderingManII · Answer

Can you forgive your spouse for sleeping with your friend? Why or why not? no, because the hurting emotions will never leave me.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! After I sleep with his best friend and maybe a brother.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Nope, I'm one and done. Cheat on me once and you have just earned the ex prefix.

exitseven · Answer

I am thinking no. I would not forgive my friend either.

fivebyfour · Answer

Depends, if they had a big dick it's quite understandable, but I'd like to be invited to watch and join in next time,,,

nawtee_me · Answer

Forgive? Yes, forget? No remain together? No….

douride2 · Answer

Don't you mean my former spouse & former friend. Both would be out of my life.

SotiCoto · Answer

Just sleeping? That is fine.  Also when. When is important.

RingOfFire · Answer

You mean you would have to explain why not? What has the world come to?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

H**L to the NO !!! She was unfaithful, and he violated the Boy Code of not going after your bud's wife or girlfriend !!!

Danael31 · Answer

Never. That must be the second worst case after after being cheated on with someone from your family.

Rosexøxø · Answer

Easy. Never, ever. 😂

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

No. Absolutely not.

Anonymous · Answer

yea but honestly I'd send her to a psych ward to figure out why.

Jay-_- · Answer

No and no explanation either not for you or her. 😂

Courtney7 · Answer

If it was just sex before we met a relationship no. And depends on how I found out.

Anonymous · Answer

I could. I am not a backward person, and I have complete trust in my spouse.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single, but if I were in a relationship, I suppose I would forgive her.

KateCrombie · Answer

I don’t think i could

Jennz6 · Answer

Open relationships are great

DarKnight36 · Answer

This is unacceptable and should not be forgiven...

strateguy632 · Answer

I can forgive not angry and divorce.

Shiprex · Answer

NO neither would be in my life again

Anonymous · Answer

Nope , I’d leave him

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nope, that would be grounds for a breakup.

Staximus · Answer

Fuck no, I don't care how drunk they were

jahaims · Answer

No, i have self respect

Blackcat1952 · Answer

Is women will never keep it in their pants 👖

msc545 · Answer

No of course not.

CubaPirate · Answer

The hell nooooo

Godihateyou · Answer

I could not. Because they'd both be dead.

MasterKS · Answer

I dont mind i am poly.

Anonymous · Answer

Hard, because she told me details of why

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yeah I can

Amy_2000 · Answer

NO..

Xalooo · Answer

No no no

Glamourous_Stacey · Answer

What?

zombiewoof · Answer

Sure, why not

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