Do old emotional wounds secretly shape our views on love and commitment?

[coachTanthony]

[Bricealan]

@coachTanthony I will have to answer this way. I have honked up and voided what would have been good relationships but confess my past errors do shape my view of love and commitment.

[WonderingManII]

I think they shape everything we do in life, because once you get hurt you don't want to get hurt again.

[ohsheeT]

They do
and really do
if you can't learn from them and move on.

They are teachers to help us experience and to grow from
To be like a trigger

Like hunger you get hungry , you eat and you're good

When you meet somebody, if there's a trigger\nThey come back to you and you have to make a choice. I don't want this , so you walk away.

But if you are in constant pain, it is a constant everyday trigger happening, and you can't get over it.\nIf you can't fix that wound you're going to have a miserable life. It's not meant to be that way. It's just for learning experiences, acknowledge it accepted and move on. Otherwise it'll just drag you down

[jennifer_bloom]

I notice a lot of men will choose friends that like them a little over those that like them a lot. I think it’s because they do not believe they deserve great kindness after previous rejections and criticisms by people.

[OlderAndWiser]

We are the sum of the genetics we have at birth, and all of the experiences that come after that.

[Smart_Monk]

Commitment, sure.

But does not really affect love. I believe that love is a conscious act that heals those wounds. ㅤ

[OneViewpoint]

Absolutely. Childhood. The early years of adulthood. Failed relationships. Divorce. Death. It all leaves scars to some extent. For some it's a learning experience. For others it's a crippling experience. For some it breeds empathy and sympathy. For others it breeds bitterness, cynicism, and hate. Some just curl up in a ball and withdraw from life. Or they crawl into a bottle.

We are all faced with events in life that demand choices from us. Choose wisely which lessons you carry forward with you in life. And choose which broken things you will discard on the side of the road of life and walk away from.

[MontBlanc]

Absolutely.

Old emotional wounds often shape the way we see love and commitment , sometimes without us even realizing it.

They can influence how we trust, what we fear, and the boundaries we set in relationships.

Healing those wounds takes time and self awareness, but once we do, we can approach love with a clearer heart and a wiser perspective.

[PolarPoint]

I think it liberates. Because you are how very much you suffer , That is grown you. And at the and. When you suffered enough, You dont afraid of getting hurt or having your heart broken. . That time You act as you are and You experiences this love with your own choices.

[purplepoppy]

Wounds no matter how small never heal. We push them into the vault, let them pile up, and forget about them. But they're always there gnawing at us.

[Smart_Monk]

That's a really good way of putting it. Ironically it brings hope and courage. But only if you are willing to learn.

If anything in existence could just be "erased" like it never happened, it would be depressing that we have to clean things up just to get to the same place we would've come had they not happened.

If you can't erase a painful experience, you can use it to learn from.

According to you, our only option is to learn from everything.

[RavVid]

Oh, I don't think anyone retains the same till death do us part expectation after our first dumping/cheating experience.

[exitseven]

How could they not? You get burned enough you stop touching the hot stove.

[douride2]

Even though we know these old wounds affect us We still deny it.

[MysticDevice]

They absolutely do. You can pretend they don't but they do.

[worldscolide]

To an extent, yes. I do know that my ex almost turned me mgtow, until I met my wife.

[Anonymous]

Yes totally
My life began wounded
I don't know why
Things went bad bad
Even though from the outside it looked like the perfect upbringing. I still don't know

Anyway in many ways things have worked out despite my mistakes

[Billlewis]

You better believe it.

[katiesmuff]

Likely have much to do with it!

[Staximus]

Of course they do

[Cidknee]

I would say most definitely.

[Agape93]

Yeap absolutely