I think I'm ready to tell my girlfriend I love her.

[Anonymous]

I've been with this girl exclusively for a month but weve been liking each other of like two and a half. I know it doesn't sound like a long time but it just feels like I love her, and it's been a fantastic. How do I know if it's just infatuation? Is there any way to tell?

Another question: How do I know when she's ready?

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+1 y

okay, thanks, I can't best answer you both but you both had points that are vital to this, thanks

[Anonymous]

I think it's sort of hard to say because its different for everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend now for about 6 1/2 years. I love him soo much. I think he told me he loved me like 6months in but he says he knew he loved me in like 2 weeks.

Ask her how she feels with using the "L" word. You don't want to scare her off or seem obsessed with her. I think it also depends how much time you are together and how long you've know each other.

when ur not with her...are you thinking about her?

do you go crazy if you don't see or talk to her for a day or two?

i guess when ur ready to tell her you love her don't be afraid and don't say it in a joking manner either...but don't be discouraged if she doens't reply.

If it helps maybe write her a letter or an email.

good luck

sg

[Asker]

Im always thinking about her, I also go insane when I don't see her.

[ahsra]

That is not really someething that we can tell you..

You will know if you are in love.. if you have to question it your not.. ( personal opinion)

and as far as her being ready my boyfriend told me he loved me several times before I said it. you just need to make her feel as though she doesn't have to say if she does not mean it..

[Asker]

Im scared to tell her on account of pressuring her into saying it, because I of course want her to mean it and say it when she's ready.

[Anonymous]

That one I'm not sure about...i guess you just have to put yourself out there and hope for the best. Try telling her you like her a lot and that you hope this relationships goes further. Watch her reaction.

[darkscorpio]

Ok here's how I know if its love or infatuation.

Love is a gift that's given without wanting anything in return. Infatuation is a really strong passion that needs constant gratification.

So ask yourself would you do anything for this person if you got nothing in return?

If yes you are probably in love. If not then it's probably infatuation. Everyone is different though and there is no one answer which tells you for sure.

Not sure what you mean by the second question? You mean how do you know when she's ready to say I love you? You wont, she probably doesn't know and is wondering the same thing you are. But that's half the fun lol ;)

[Asker]

That makes a lot of sense, I would do that.

half the fun, most of the stress haha