Polls: Relationships

They're attractive (at least to you) in real life, but they always seem to look bad in photos -- Would this have any affect on your attraction to them?

I was being chatted up by a guy who left his wife of 30+ years bc of menopause.

I suppose things were said... but they have three great kids together. he supports all of them...

According to him, he had to leave her bc she was crazy... and according to her, she wanted him to leave bc she was so bored, bc life was too short, blah blah blah.

Personally I can't see how a marriage that lasts 30+ years would suddenly just fall apart bc of menopause. Why not try counseling?

He told me they were high school sweethearts... that she was the love of his life... and he was hers... but that doesn't add up since he was sitting in front of me chugging J&Cs like they were shots.

So I was with my partner for quite a few years. I will do bullet point form to make it easier.

- we had the same values
- we sometimes were on the "same wave length"
- we both enjoyed exploring and chilling
- he helped me in so many ways
- we had the same love language which one of them is quality time
-he made time for me
- he was cheap and forgetful
- he was selfish and wouldn't go out of his way for me sometimes
- he always cut me off
- he was always late
- he really valued his moms opinion vs mine sometimes
- he was a good guy to my family even if he zoned out sometimes
- he wouldn't look out for me during stressful situations and i was always the one being in charge.
- we had our future planned out and were talking about the next step
- in some ways he was my cheerleader and helped in certain ways

I believe he has some undiagnosed neurodivergent which i feel like he had adhd and he's always had some memory problems and just sometimes wouldn't fully listen. Which there were conversations we had many times throughout the relationship and he would work on it a bit then it would go back to square one.

If you were in any competition and you'll get paid millions for that (and even get publically recognized as the winner) but if you lose you get a lot less for participating and you'll remain just an average person.. would you

- Cheat and win the prize; knowing very well you didn't deserve. You cheated your way to win.

- Try your best but lose with dignity. You get paid a lot less. You only get money for participating.

So I’m going to try and make this short and sweet.

My ex and I were together for quite some time, we shared the same values, we had things in common and I thought I found my person.. until I kept asking for the bare minimum and helped him in so many ways. Let’s just say he was a good person but not a good partner.

We kept having the same conversations every few months, things got better and back to the conversation. He basically took advantage of me, it took me awhile to realize it.

Anyways our conversation last year he was emotional and didn’t want to take a break and wanted to work through it. Which basically didn’t last long.

Before we had our recent conversation we were both excited about our future and talking about the next steps, we had a plan and things were good. Then a few days before our conversation I sent him a note that explained my thoughts since I have a hard time expressing myself in person.

The next day we met up and he basically took my words and basically copied and pace my words saying he hasn’t been happy for awhile as well and things I boosted about what he was good at made it seem like I was being too much for him. So we decided to take a break and he asked me if he was still going to the event that was a month from then and how my family was.
He is very influenced by his mom’s opinion and she’s very strong opinionated. So he most definitely read it to his mom and apart of me thinks his mom told him what to say