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Boyfriend said he will never be Christian, gave me an ultimatum, what to do? (Page 2)
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The first thing you should have done was prayed for him to find the truth, to be saved and to find Jesus. Ideally praying with another 'where two or three are gathered together in my name..' would have been what I recommend. The issue was you trying to change something spiritual in the physical realm. You need to do so from the spiritual realm. But I have no idea why you would get with an atheist in the first place.
You need to make a choice.
He's given you two very reasonable options.
You need to accept him for who he is, as he has done for you.
threats aren't reasonable. dress how i want or we are through?
@strateguy632 What threat? He just told her to accept him for who he is or they can't be in a relationship together, which is common sense.
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
—2 Cor. 6:14
Oil and water don’t mix.
Nice that you quoted this.
I was thinking about that too — the passage about being unequally yoked. If the OP is serious about Christianity, she will let him go so that they will not be unequally yoked.
Like a carnivore is just not going to pair well with a vegan that’s against killing animals.
A theist is not going to pair well with an atheist.
It’s just how it is.
It’s very clear that you two are not a good fit for each other. You need to back off him, because his beliefs don’t line up with yours. He doesn’t believe in “being saved.” My advice would be to find a Christian boyfriend whose beliefs are more compatible with yours.
Leave him. Do not be unequally yoked, but pray for him. You've opened up your heart to him so it'll be tough but it's not worth staying. You're going right he's going left. Ben there done that
despite you feel attracted, the fact he said ultimatum shows he can leave easily so dump him first. like pulling of a bandage. find someone else you will like.
You should respect his wishes you can't make someone a Christian if he doesn't want to and you're not saving someone he's the ones who knows what's best for him. If this is such a deal breaker for you just let him go.
make? she invited him to church. not threaten him. he threatened her.
@strateguy632 seems like he reacted that way because she keeps pushing religion on him when he's already expressed he's not interested. Imagine someone offering you your least favorite food over and over again at some point you would probably have to be more assertive if they keep pushing that on you, no?
Well, you must accept his wishes. If you push him you'll lose him, if you can't accept his beliefs he'll lose you. Imagine how you would feel if he made you choose between your faith and him? That's essentially what you are asking of him.
nope, she didn't say accept faith nor choose, only non Christian gave the ultimatum.
Your boyfriend has drawn a line in the sand. You have to make a choice. Requesting that you respect his beliefs by not trying to convert him is a fairly reasonable ask of a romantic partner.
convert? she invited to church. without being converted can spend time with her. His own religion ALLOWS him to do so he Atheist
@strateguy632 From OP's question: "However, his atheism has always bothered me a little, especailly as he's such a good and moral person I can't see why he wouldn't want to be Christian and be saved, so I've slowly over the years tried to lead him down the path, "
She's actively tried to get him to accept jesus into his life.
That's not a healthy union.
Break up.
Accept him for who he is. Anything else will most likely result in him leaving you.
Why bring religion into a relationship? You either love him for who he is or you don't! Screw religion!
He told you how he felt and you refuse to respect that. You are lucky he even puts up with you playing make believe just because you need something to cope with reality.
He obviously did nothing wrong here and very straight forward.. while you're not sure and all over the place.. you won't fully accept him unless he's on the same team.. So, definitely not compatible..
he threatened. you don't threaten your lover.
@strateguy632 no, he didn't threaten.. quite the opposite.. he doesn't want her change to be with her.. she wants him to change to be with him 🤷♂️..
I could be wrong here but, isn't it "unchristian" to not want/have kids. Aren't christians all about "starting families" and shit
Why the fuck would you want to marry an atheist?
It's like marrying a thief but never expecting to appear in court.
There is no problem with being atheist... read about bhagat singh
You can't force the Christian Faith on people. It doesn't work like that. You will only push him away even more.
You're dating a child of Satan who won't even acknowledge the Almighty God, a atheist?
You have to be smarter than that.
Get rid of that moron ASAP.
You have to pick one
Your behavior so far I'll take break up for 200 Alex