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I actually felt sad for this infidelity story I've once read at Reddit. It was written 2 years ago. The woman was 39 (she must be 41 by now) and her now husband cheated on her with a co-worker. He spent some of his wife's money on the affair and took her homemade meals and desserts to secretly feed the other woman. He cheated as a 40 year-old married man with 3 kids. He ended up having a mid-life crisis and supposedly wanted to see what it was like having sex with another woman, even briefly fell in love with the other woman. She forgives and agrees to marriage counseling. She felt she owed him one and clearly wants to save the marriage.

Flashback to 2002 when they were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

When the woman was much younger (then 19 years old), she cheated on her then boyfriend (now husband) with his best friend Tony. He caught her in a compromised position, both asleep in the couch with the TV running on. Supposedly the guy was in boxers and she was with jeans on but only with bra on top. Apparently they had already finished doing the deed by then and there was alcohol. It was an affair going on for 3 months. She's been repentant for all those years, never cheated again and was faithful as a fiancee and wife. She got forgiven and (yes he still proposed 5 years after the cheating incident, claiming he forgave her completely and wouldn't bring it anymore) they still got married.

https://www.reddit.com/r/survivinginfidelity/comments/yozb12/my_husband_40_m_and_i_39_f_are_working_things_out/

On the woman's previous post, she actually is full of guilt all over again and feels she deserved it. Did she deserved to get cheated on 20 years later? She cheated in 2002 as a 19 year-old girlfriend with no kids. He cheated as a 40 year-old married man with 3 children?

If a friend or relative invited you to a commitment ceremony (not an actual wedding) would you come or not?

The reason I've asked if because my parents were invited to a relative's commitment ceremony recently. It was a private invitation with just them and their close friends that knows about their situation. The woman is disabled and gets benefits from that. If they get married, they'll remove her from those benefits so her boyfriend is trying to work harder to get promoted so he can add her to his policy, they'll get married afterwards, she'll continue getting benefits through his insurance and they can file taxes together. They have no kids but would like to adopt.

Due to the specific nature of the case, my parents are coming to the invitation. However, if it were done for the simply reason of hating marriage or the typical ''I want marriage and he just wants a commitment ceremony'' and no one is struggling financially nor suffering anything, other than refusing to married, then nope. In that case, my parents wouldn't be driving 2 hours away, excusing themselves from work and go out of their way for a ceremony that's not an actual wedding. I think he same too. It depends on why. I'm not missing school for nothing.