I got a lot of hate for my last article
Real women can do these 5 things
which was in direct response to
@Wowgirl30q ‘s article Real men can do these five things
it was somewhat of a success, but not completely, on the bases in practice it’s very difficult for both sexes see the others POV. So many women didn’t understand how offensive the original was, even those that complained about it; with notions such as “ok the original was sexist, but this is so much worse”, etc.
We are not going to see eye to eye on this, for we can only see and experience it from two completely different angles. You’re tired of being treated as a sex object, and how men just don’t understand? Most men are tired of being treated as success objects, and how women just don’t understand why.
One woman actually responded
“your post comes off much more malicious than the original, as it is much better for someone to want you to be successful than for someone to want you to be a sex doll”
No. We cannot have this conversation until women start granting men the same courtesy men have given women for decades now. Women have said we can't understand the female experience because we can’t live it, so you have to sit down and actually listen to us.
In the same way, you women can't understand the male experience. Norah Vincent came closest, and even she couldn’t experience it to the full extent.
If you really want to understand the male experience then you have to sit down and actually listen to us.
To you our roles might seem like freedom, such as our careers, but to us it’s not freedom, it’s an obligation.
Do you think men view sexualizing people as a negative thing? Of course we don’t, because to us that represents freedom.
It’s not uncommon for heterosexual men to go to gay bars to get chatted up.
Our experiences are so different, and that is why we’re not going to see eye to eye until we all accept that. While the conversation is “well this is bad, but”, then we’re not at the point of acceptance.
Because so many thought I criticized women too unfairly, and because so many women were genuinely blind to the male experience, then I shall create a list for men. And just so we’re clear, my last article was not a joke and neither is this one. I mean my women’s list was a joke to some degree, in the sense it was a mockery of the men’s list, but that doesn’t mean they’re both wrong.
What we’re doing is looking at this from a very up-close angle, to the point some of the information is lost in translation. We live in a very complicated world, yet our brains can only take in one thing at a time.
These are the simplistic roles between the sexes, but both the roles and the sexes are far more complicated then that. I can’t explain it more simply then that.
1. Be a high-status provider
Unless you as a man know how to compete with other men and win and clime your male hierarchy, then in all practical terms you are useless.
Men are interested in the top 80% of women, when in reality women are only interested to the top 20% of men, with the bottom 80% of men not eligible to be considered “Mr Right”.
Reproductively 1 woman can do the job of 1, but one very happy man can do the job of 100s, 1000s. Consider that of the 8 billion on Earth, about 0.5% of that are direct descendants of Genghis Khan. Of all the populations on the planet, all of us can trace twice and many female ancestors than we can male ancestors.
Men's job is to kill each other, so only the strongest males are left standing, and hence only the genetically strongest males are left to reproduce. The role of the male sex is that of a genetic filter, of purging genetic errors from the gene pool that inevitably build up every single time your cells copy themselves. That also explains the bottom 20% of women, being the most genetically unhealthy.
As a man if your wife has the option of fucking one of top 1% men (like a gold medal Olympic athletes, or an incredibly successful man in business like Trump or Schwarzenegger), she will cuckold you if she can get away with it. If she knows you’ll find out, and won’t stick by her after she’s given you another mans kids, then she likely won’t. Women instinctively have to weigh up the pros and cons of all of these things.
A real man knows his job is to succeed in male hierarches, and know his only value is how much use he is to women. Depending on your success will depend on how much value a woman will put on your worthiness to reproduce. And considering such a small percentage of men can call themselves a sure thing, then that only leaves your ability to provide.
The modern woman pretends she wants equality, but really her offering to pull out her purse is just mere insecurity… she doesn’t actually want to pay, she just wants to offer so she doesn’t look weak, as if that’s not in her interest.
The exception would be much older women with a lot less to offer, so he becomes a sort of gigolo.
The real man understands that without his wallet and status to get what he wants, he has nothing. Correct mentality can take a man far, but mentality on its own doesn’t mean very much.
A real man understands he is a success object, and his dreams for how the world is supposed to work doesn’t mean shit.
2. Embraces stoicism. He Mans Up, shovels shit and doesn’t complain
One of the differences that psychologists have found between the sexes is that women score far higher on neuroticism, while men score far high on stoicism. In modest amounts they have their pros and cons, and it would appear these fit our sexual biology very well.
In practice men aren’t attracted to stoic women, anymore than women are attracted to neurotic men.
What use is it to a woman to be stoic, when she lives in a world full of men more than happy to work for her, especially considering biologically a year+ for every pregnancy she’s not exactly what you’d call “an independent women who don’t need no man”.
Likewise, what use is it to a man to be neurotic? As a man you live in a world that does not care about your safety and wellbeing, and why should it? Your role is that of genetic filter, success object. If you can’t take care of yourself, how are you supposed to take care of anyone else?
These instincts are so ingrained, that even the most equality minded parents are actually more likely to help and soothe a crying baby girl (and more quickly) than a baby boy.
It’s called male disposability. As a man if you’re in pain and need help, you’re more likely to get help by not complaining and saying you’re fine, than you would if you did actually cry and ask for help.
A real man understands this, that he has to be strong at any cost. If you allow yourself to be as weak as a woman, you will not get the protection that she will get, all you will get is hurt even more.
A real man doesn’t have the time to complain about how hard life is while they’re breaking their back at work, that role belongs to women such as mothers complaining about how motherhood is the most difficult job on the planet.
You man up, shut up, and focus on dealing with the issues in front of you, and if you succeed, you may be rewarded. That is a real man.
3. Die like a man
Your role of genetic filter means if you’re considered the worthy man, it’s still not your life that is worthy, only your ability to pass on your genes, even if that means giving your life for hers.
Equality is bullshit; one merely has to look at any situation in which it’s a life or death situation between a young woman and man, the woman’s life will come first every time. The man is expected to save her and kill himself, at any cost.
If a man were to kill a woman to save himself, if he got caught, he would get lynched by society. He would be placed in the same box as a paedophile, those we send to jail, for them to be murdered by other prisoners with the guards looking the other way.
The only exception to the rule, would be a young woman from the other tribe that you’re currently in a total war with, to the point your own women are encouraging you to view her people as vermin.
In all other cases, if it comes down to it, if it means saving a woman, your job as a man is to die for her, and to do it completely following point 2. That is a real man; a Protector.
4. Knows how to slap a woman, and how not to slap a woman
I can already hear women screaming at their computer screen, with the husband saying how much he’d gladly kick the shit out of that guy (good protective husband, following point 3... you know he’s gonna get some head later).
I can also imagine that same husband no more than an hour after telling his wife how much he’d love to kick the shit out of me, slapping said wife’s ass as he’s riding her, pulling her by the hair and giving her what all these terrible women’s magazines just cannot. You know you’re doing your job when you lady O’s on your dingerling through penetration alone.
Of all the books we’re privileged to have access to at the click of a button, from the great works of Aristotle, from the beautiful works of Shakespeare, to all of the latest in revelations in science… it’s funny that women’s top selling book of all time is essentially rape porn.
by the way, “Fifty Shades of Grey” is dogshit. The 2002 film “Secretary” is way better.
There is one story that predates all of these rape (cough, sorry); “romance novels” for women; “Beauty and the Beast”.
A very old story, going back over 4,000 years, from multiple cultures from all the corners of the world. This story is known as “A tale as old as time” … which has a nice ring to it, a bit like “the worlds oldest profession”.
Beauty and the Beast has the exact same structure as all other lady porn that has come after it. The sweet innocent virgin taken by a beast, and she then applies all of her womanly weakness and nurturing skills to tame this beast, and bring the man out of him, and live happily ever after.
I said in my last article that there's a saying that
"there is no virtue in not knowing how to commit evil, only knowing how to commit it and choosing not to".
And that’s as true for men as it is for women. The old idea of the jerk or the nice guy, it misses something quite important. Do women like a jerk or a nice guy? The answer to that question is yes. They want both in a man.
A man who only knows how to be nice is useless as a man. And a man who only knows how to be a jerk who can’t be tamed, is the kind of guy asking for trouble. The difference between a jerk and a nice guy who’s capable of being a jerk, is the difference between a woman loving you, and having rape and domestic violence charges thrown at you.
There was one book I read by a woman named Jordan West, called “All Men Are Assholes and All Women Are Crazy”.
It was the memoir of a woman who essentially failed the game of life, with nothing to cuddle up to at night but a couple of pet cats.
Of the numerous relationships in her, one of them was of a guy who openly had multiple women on the go.
Now these two kept going on and off for about two years, until it reached a point they decided to go back to being friends… which I think I code word for he got tired of her constantly going crazy on him for not being his #1.
The last evening that she saw him was over his place talking as friends, until he asked her to leave, because he had one of his women coming around later. She went ballistic, screaming at the top of her lungs an inch from his face, and he responded by giving her a single slap across the face, to the point she fell on her knees, looking up at him with moist eyes, and her hand cupping her red check. And the two just stared at each other in silence for like 30 seconds.
Now this man slapped a woman, and it wasn’t consensually in the bedroom, it was domestically in an argument. But here’s the kicker, depending on whether or not this is domestic violence in a criminal sense, doesn’t depend on the fact he hit her, it depends on what he does next.
If he were to look at her, and his look of anger slowly turns to that of concern, to the point of touching her face to look at what he just did, get some frozen peas to put on it, and then make a bit of a joke like “this doesn’t mean you’re getting an apology”, in all probability she would laugh. And then he realises he actually does love her, his actions showing him to his own surprise that he does actually care more about her safety then any of the other women he’s with. Then he cancels said woman coming over because “something just came up”, then spends the rest of the night just watching movies with Jordan in his arms, and then they live happily ever after.
I should be an author, because that story would sell.
He hit her, but if he responded that way afterwards, she wouldn’t give a shit. She likely wouldn’t even categorized it in her brain as domestic violence at all, but rather just an argument that when too far. But even if she did call it that to herself, she still wouldn’t care, more than likely she’d consider it to be the most romantic moment in her life. And the same thing goes for the bedroom. The difference between being a rapist and being a fantastic lover, 9 times out of 10 is what you do afterwards.
But of course, this man did not end it that way, because he did not love her. What he actually said after said 30 seconds of silence was “GET OUT, you crazy bitch!”. And naturally she ran out crying, and as she was getting into a taxi he ran after with “stop, I’m sorry Jordan”, which was greeted with a “GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME!”.
By that point he already proved he didn’t love her, likely only running after her after realising he’s now up shit creek if she decided to go to the police, and that’s why she gives a shit he hit her. It wasn’t because he hit her, it was because he didn’t care about her.
You want some relationship advise? If you really want to abuse a woman you loves you, hitting them is a lot less effective than merely ignoring them. Take it from me, I’ve had at least two women in my life now tell me they’d rather I hit them than ignore them, and that is the honest truth.
A real man understands that women being the submissive longing sexual beings that they are deep inside with the right man, not only don’t mind being hit by him, they rather enjoy it within the right context. What they don’t like, is men that treat them like shit, that when push comes to shove (quite literally in the above example) they will put said woman’s interests as of no interest to their own.
My only theory for why they enjoy it, when there’s more than likely far more to it, is that for a man to hit a woman is the ultimate form of commitment. It’s either a sign he loves her, or it’s a sign he’s a self-destructive idiot.
It doesn’t matter what culture or time period we’re talking of, unconsensual male on female violence has never been an ok thing. The only examples that even come close, are areas like Afghanistan where men die every single day by going outside, so it’s not very hard to understand why said women are kept under lock and key, in doors out of harm’s way.
For a man to hit a woman, he is relying entirely on whether or not she accepts it. If she accepts it, then nothing happens, other than she is telling you that she accepts you. If she doesn’t accept it, then all she needs to do to cry to her girlfriends and the nearest “good man”, and at very least you are socially ostracized, and at worst assaulted, prisoned, maybe even killed.
Christ, in the late 1800s it wasn’t uncommon for wife beaters to get punished by public whipping post, with said wife usually allowing the sheriff to do it for her because he had a stronger arm… both being a physical and a social punishment.
To hit a woman as a man you are taking a massive fucking risk, and men always have taken that risk. That’s what I think at least part of the appeal is for women, that this man that you’re already interested in, is demonstrating that he’s willing to take such a massive risk to make you his.
And this behaviour does also explain some of the research on domestic violence, and why so many women go back, even when society throws all sorts of money and therapy at them to get them to not go back. In the majority cases of DV, something like 60 to 80% of it is consensual, in the sense both of them are violent towards each other, take turns, and keep going back to each other.
The most common situation is that of a woman who either doesn’t know how much her man that she’s invested in cares about her, or she’s unsure if he’s strong enough for the both of them (which is his role). Hence said woman takes arguments to the put of violence, and she will not stop until he asserts himself.
That means slapping him, punching him, throwing dinner plates at him, whatever it takes, she will not stop until he makes her stop;
with a single punch,
a single slap,
if the argument hasn’t accelerated enough yet, a simple aggressive stare might just be enough.
All that is required on her part is for him to assert himself as being strong enough, and proving his allegiances to her and the family.
A real mans knows this, which is why a real man is never engaged in domestic violence, because he knows how to assert his strength and prove his allegiances long before it ever gets to that point… and if it does, he is prepared.
A real man also knows you don’t slap a woman in such a situation that you don’t love.
In the bedroom might be an exception to this rule, providing protocols are taken before hand, laying out rules and such. Only with a woman you love and are committed to (most importantly vice-versa) are such rules and protocols redundant. If you wake your partner up with bit of sex, and they feel like it’s a bit rapey; that’s when you know it’s time to end the relationship, for that partner of yours doesn’t love you. If they did, such a thought wouldn’t even cross their mind.
A real man doesn’t hit a woman he’s not in love with, even if she’s throwing dinner plates at him. In the modern age, she only needs to hurt her wrist assaulting you, and then turn on the water works in front of the police, and you are the one who will be charged with domestic violence, not her.
A real man is not only not stupid enough to hit a woman he doesn’t love, he’s not stupid enough to get into a situation where a woman is hitting him to begin with.
It’s not fair, but it’s life. As stated in point 3, if you are in a fight with a woman and she doesn’t accept it, it doesn’t matter if you are far stronger than she is, you will lose. A horse is so much stronger than a man, but a man isn’t risking getting shot in the head for whipping said horse.
If a woman hits you, you will not be helped, you will be laughed at for being a pathetic useless man being beaten up by a little girl. You even lay so much as a finger on a woman without her letting you, and you will be lynched.
For a man, to slap a woman you’re not in love with, is like going to war with a nation with nuclear weapons, while you have none. The only way to win is not to play. A real man doesn’t get himself into that situation in the first place. That means a real man doesn’t play with a woman’s feelings, and he doesn’t fuck women who doesn’t have her shit together. A real man doesn’t use women, at least no more than said woman uses him.
A real man acknowledges that there are very few real options he has when it comes to defending himself from a woman… he acknowledges it, and willing accepts that shitty deal.
That is a real man.
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It’s not a great world to be a woman… and if it’s not already clear, it’s pretty shitty on this side of the grass too.
As the Buddhists say; “life is a bitch, and then you die”.
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