Ah, the Famous debate: Pro-Life vs Pro-Choice. I am strongly Pro-Choice for several reasons, the main one being that IT'S THE FEMALES' CHOICE.
A lot of the anti-abortion fanatics support life, and that's all fine and dandy but I've noticed these people fall into at least one of three categories: religious, naïve or male. It's noble that you should want to support life at all cost but at the end of the day? It doesn't affect you, it affects the woman and the parasite that is using her uterus as an extended stay vacation.
The religious people are pretty much hypocrites on a lot of topics, but for the sake of this myTake I'll keep it relevant. The same people that believe premarital sex is okay are the same people who are vehemently pro-life. How do you break one law and uphold another? Either obey all, or none. A lot of Catholics/Christians pick and choose which rule they follow whenever it's convenient for them and it's just really grating.
Naïve people are just that: naïve. They don't know what challenges and difficulties there are being pregnant. You're at your most vulnerable and helpless. A parasite is growing inside you, sapping your energy, food, vitamins, minerals, brainpower and on top of that making you gain weight and feel unattractive. It's not like a headache where you can just take some Advil and it'll go away, it's there for the better part of nearly a year. It's not all sunshine and daisies for a lot of women, or even just a slight case of morning sickness that the media portrays. It's the most dangerous thing a woman will do in her lifetime. If you wouldn't force someone to play with an AK-47 why force a women to give birth? Just because the death from childbirth rates have gone down doesn't mean the danger is nonexistent.
And lastly, the men. The reason a lot of women are put into this situation in the first place. This is the section of pro-lifers I'm still struggling to comprehend. I can kinda see what twisted logic the other two come from but men will never, as far as current technology goes, ever be able to bear the brunt of pregnancy, labor and oftentimes child rearing. All they do is make a relatively quick deposit and that's it. It's all on the women now. Whether you stay by her or bail is anyone's guess. So men saying that a woman should just carry the parasite to term and adopt/raise him/her, possibly with no support, financial or otherwise is dense at best and heartness at worst. It's not your body that goes through the painful, awful and potentially irreversible changes of pregnancy (this goes for women too), so I honestly fail to see how you should have a say.
Now that that's out of the way, let's talk about the other section of hypocrites-- the abortion clinic protestors. Oh my gosh, where do I even begin? If every single one of them had to pledge to adopt the child or pay something akin the child support to prevent the "MURDER!" of the breeding parasite with no way of backing out, I'll bet that the amount of protestors that stay outside trying to convince women that they're making a mistake (ugh) would drop really quickly. In fact so many of these protestors have had abortions themselves and yet go back to calling the doctors and patients "MURDER!"ers.
Um, what? Weren't you in their shoes like a week ago? Either these people are so delusional and they are projecting or they believe their abortion was "different" or "okay" or "I had to!". I guess you're an accomplice to "MURDER!" then. Pull your head out of your butt and see things from another point of view. The women entering that building have no choice, this abortion is their last option, just like you. Why would you deny a fellow woman that option, the same one you were given freely? "Oh you can just adopt!" Adoption is not an option for everyone. Sure the child might end up in a good home but it's usually a hit or miss.
We have an overcrowded and underfunded foster care system for a reason and a lot of kids stay there until they age out at 18. And what if the child you put up for adoption comes looking for his/her birth mom and/or dad 20 or 30 years later? "Oh I never wanted to have you but I was forced to so I gave you up for adoption and hoped you would never contact me. I don't want to remain in contact with you, sorry have a nice life." Pretty heartless right? The parent(s) gets an unwelcome reminder of his/her/their past while the child feels unwanted and excluded. Nobody wins.
Many times keeping the child is no better. Imagine caring for a child you never wanted after being forced to carry him/her to term. Feeding it, bathing it, entertaining it and caring for it for years on end, often with no support. The father is not involved (due to rape, incest or simply disinterest). Your body has permanently changed, your career/education is forever postponed and all you get is a few hundred dollars a month for child support, if even that or at all. Your family helps every once in awhile but it still seems like it isn't enough. You can barely make ends meet and you quickly become one of the leeches of society you always mocked after applying for government aid.
When you eventually get back into the dating game your options are limited-- not a lot of men want to date a single mother and take on the responsibility of parenthood. And who could blame them? Others crash and burn, far too often for you to handle. This hate builds up and manifests itself in neglect and abuse of many kinds-- emotional, physical, mental, physiological-- the list goes on, onto your child. And the child turns to self harm, bullying and searching for the acceptance that you could never give. And that's often the best case scenario...we already know how the others turn out.
Sure pro-lifers, you may have saved a life, but is this what you or a loved one would want to go through? Is this a life worth living to you?
Many pro life people don't see the bigger picture in their beliefs. If no one 'murdered their babies'/s (aka, aborted) imagine how much harder it would be to get and keep jobs. How many more people would be "soaking up the system" or become a drain on society? Or how the government would spend millions more to give support to all the unwanted and unloved children that would exist. Employment rates would go up, more people would go hungry and starve to death. More people would live lower quality lives, more poor people, etc. Who really benefits, the mother? The child? Society? Or just you and your beliefs? Do you even care what happens to the child and mother after birth, or are you satisfied you can sleep easy at night while they struggle for years to come?
Concluding, abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. It should be used as an absolute last resort. For the many women reading this who are on the fence on whether or not to abort, adopt or raise, which would you rather have in 10 years? Looking down and seeing a child you resent and wish was gone, fearing the day your biological child comes seeking you, asking why you gave him/her up, or wishing you had a 9 year old to read stories to at night? Either a month of pain now, or potentially decades of regret and resentment for the rest of your life. The choice is yours.
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