this is a serious question. sometimes i wish all girls would get together and let ourselves go so guys know what it feels like lol
guys please tell me why? girls tell me if you feel the same or I'm i alone on this one?
Where do you live exactly? I think the demographics of where one lives plays a good role in the lifestyle choices that are there to be made by either genders. I live in LA and there's SOOOOO manydifferent sub-cultures, lifestyles, attitudes going on that it creates a good diversity of styles that look good on either gender. Its a matter of picking one or the complete opposite of not picking one. I personally, take care of my self. I buy cloths that are in season at times and all year round. I have colognes, belts, jeans, slacks, shirts, tshirts, hats, watches, shoes, boots, and some high end personal hygiene products for days! I just don't know where you are or to what style and attitude you are looking for but maybe a change of scenery might be what you need. Just saying.
I do see what you mean and it's honestly odd. I think it's because guys aren't really told to try these days. Instead, they're told to buy girls gifts and all that stuff and expected to see women as a gender that doesn't have any physical attraction almost. But the truth is they are like guys and do need physical attraction.
As a guy I do feel girls focus on their appearances yes, but in all the wrong ways. They never exercise and just hide their imperfections with makeup and stuff.
lol you def don't know me then:P
You're anon.
They do. you're maybe somewhere you don't see much classy men. I lived between them my whole life. but being good looking in men is different than women. they don't have to necessarily try as hard as women to look good. their beauty is in their simplicity. beautiful men are generally more beautiful than beautiful women.
You'd actually be surprised if you saw how many guys actually do take awhile to get ready these days tho! there is actually a lot that care about their appearance, they pree much have do have a slight friendlier competition against each other, especially if they like a certain girl :)
Thats actually not true I've seen girls that let them self's go completely and look like shit they are guys pout there that do take care of them self's
i totally feel you. that's why i hated living in america. i’m in japan now and it's so much better.
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Several reasons:
1. Because in life, there are things that are more important than appearances e. g. a caring nature, hard work, dedication, professionalism, honesty, loyalty etc. When I deliberately don't care about my appearance, I'm sending out a very strong message that I would much rather be admired for these other qualities.
2. Appearances fade with time. People get old, bald and wrinkly. But a beautiful, caring heart will never lose its beauty.
3. When I was a kid, I was taken out shopping for clothes a lot by female relatives. The comments were endless. This isn't "nice", that doesn't fit, this doesn't match, that's too expensive, this is too cheap etc, etc. I got so utterly sick of all that that I became determined NEVER to care what I looked like again! I'm a slob and PROUD of it!!!
4. In every country, there are medals given out for bravery. The highest honour for a soldier is not going to the palace in crisply ironed kit and polished boots to receive a medal from the King. The highest honour for a soldier is to have his medal or promotion handed to him immediately "in the field", grubby kit and all, because what he did was so outstanding that the reward can't wait. It must be handed to him immediately.
we do. or at least, i do. i resent that gay men are the only fashionable ones, straight men need to be on their game more. i'm sick of hearing masculinity used synonymously with ugly. But style is more than just what you wear. A couple weeks ago, i was on the bus in my leather jacket and aviators, i decided i'd just stay motionless, meditative, for the entire two hour trip. Apparently people can sense a sort of aura, because the moment this guy got on the bus he said yo man i just wanna say you got some style, most people are out here fiddling with their iphones and can't stay still. So its more than just what you wear, its how you present yourself and most guys are clueless to this.
because I am not standing for an hour in the washroom or in my closet deciding what to wear. if I wear a dress shirt it is to something important, not some restaurant. I hate wearing jeans and dress pants, they are uncomfortable, and oh, so are ties of any kind, shirts with collars, doing my hair with gel or anything makes my scalp itch (but that's probably more personal. I feel really uncomfortable in dressy clothing, I have better things to do.
besides what does dressing well do for me? nothing.
A lot of guys care about how they look. And just becasue a guy cares about his appearance does not mean he is gay. Like seiously, where does that come from? But no, honestly, most men do care about their appearance. It's just a lot of us are bad at it.
agreed
Apparently you haven't seen @rthomas43 and his carefully groomed beard.
lololo
Many guys don't put much effort into their appearance because women tell them that it's not that important, or they know that appearance is important but just don't have a clue what the fuck women want, or they don't have much interest in the modern promiscuous woman and just don't give a fuck what they want.
It is partly to do with society. Society puts less pressure on guys to look good than it does on girls. Some guys do care tho. I care. I try to look my best (clothes that look good together), smell good and try to make sure my hair looks tidy and good. :)
You're complaining men don't dress good and are not attractive yet you make a statement about how you find yourself looking at "hot as fuck" girls?
Okay now I would guess you're attracted to girl looks. Have you thought about you know... maybe trying that out instead because it seems like you're more interested in girl booty than what guys offer.
Because women don't care.
Gay men look good because it gets them laid.
Women focus that much because straight men care.
If women cared as much than men would put the effort in. Instead women care a fair bit about things like your job, which is why men go after high paying jobs which is a fair bit of effort too
I take care of my appearance, I make sure I dress well, my hair style looks good, my clothes fit and that my body is in shape, but I don't got OTT like certain Men and a lot of Women do.
Also Women have the luxury of hiding behind fakery such as make up and hair extensions where as Men don't have such a luxury.
Men are lied to en mass by society and told only their personality will matter to women.
Seriously, most men think women don't care or barely care about a mans appearance, which is completely retarded.
I care. Currently phasing out my old wardrobe for nicer and better looking clothes. I get my hair cut weekly, I shave every other day. Shower twice a day. Appearance and hygiene is very important to me! Not just to impress the ladies, but boost confidence! It's awesome to look in the mirror and just be like damn I look sharp!
cause I want her to see whats inside and not whats on the outside. if a guy goes gym just to make them girls melt when he passes by I think twice if I want to train to be like him or not. my oppinion is I don't want to be seen as object and if I do I am ok to be seen as cheap.
Feel free to not wear make up or shave and so on - I won't complain. I'd certainly rather girls spent less time fussing over their appearance then be expected to that myself.
Anyway I find it attractive for a girl to have the confidence (or whatever you'd call it) to walk about and present herself without spending hours tweaking her appearance.
I agree 💯. 1 out a 100 men take care of their appearance, and I am being generous here. A good number of women put the effort in and look more than presentable. Guys (the ones I have come across) only complain but do nothing to improve their appearance.
I'm not sure what you mean by care about our appearance. Do you mean watch our weight? Workout? Have certain outfits? If girls are hot to you I think you may be more into them.
I care about my appearance but i make sure i also don't look generic. I always make i sure i look good enough when i go out.
thats nice thanks for your answer :))
Guys are practical we sacrifice being stylish for comfort. If u want a well dressed man go get one. Most will be no or gay
thats really saaddd
unlike women? lol well I'm sure if you had the same criticism that women have you wouldn't be so "comfortable in your own skin"
Most guys try. You just happen to find them ugly. Sure you're not gay? :p
they do? oh ok... and ya pretty sure thanks.. you sure your not gay?:P
lol but you seem like the kind of guy that goes to the gym and always "be miring" on other guys..
lololhaha I'm kidding... but thanks for the answer :P
Seems like the real question is if you think guys even lift?
no not really buff bodies aren't the thing i notice to be honest
You are quite rare it would seem. Not many women say buff bodies aren't the thing she notices.
i like a nice face or trimmed beard with nice masculine groomed style.. body is next.. but as long as your not fat a six pack is def NOT necessary
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