As long as she got help or is getting help, then I can tolerate them. Hopefully, they heal quickly. But if she's still doing it and/or doesn't plan to stop, then it'd be hard to see a future with her if she may be dead soon. Apparently, she doesn't seem to value her life much. Don't get me wrong, I'll try to help her. But it would appear she has serious issues to get resolved. She should do that first before being in a relationship. People should be happy in relationships, not sad or anything. I know sometimes it's not happy, but they should make every effort to be (happy).
I have. and I'm a normal, jocky dude, who's usually weirded out by stuff pretty easily. Like I wouldn't date a trans person for instance. At the same time tho, any decent guy wants to help and wouldn't disqualify for scars.
tbh... i wouldn't... i used to suffer from depression and cut myself as well (but only a few cuts... you can't even tell as i have no scars)... so i know that someone with that kind of emotional baggage can be tough to handle... especially if you're someone who already went through it... having another person like that in your life can be tough... so personally, i wouldn't
a As weird as it may be to say, those that self harm in that manner typically aren't suicidal, just using real pain to deal with emotional pain. People in general do all sorts of stuff to deal with pain and things like depression, but I'm not going to punish someone for going through that or assume that they are now some undateable leper.
Most people struggle with mental illness. They're a part of you and they're a part of your history. You're stronger for having gone through hell and come out on the other side.
Scars don't mean they're any lesser than a human being. If I date someone like that, I'll make sure to show him more care and concern.
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I voted B), primarily because I just find it awkward that someone cuts their wrists with razors just because that's what they learn from media to do when they feel down about themselves.
I don't mind because we all have personal demons that we have to face. Some people's scars are not physical but still exist. As long as she didn't have fresh ones; if she did, I'd be more concerned in getting her help or finding a way to help her. Scars remind us that we can overcome difficult times.
probably not, because i run the risk of ending up with a person who might be too depressed for me to handle or relate with
You have an ace boyfriend!! That's what any guy should do for any lady!!
He's a star, so don't let him go!
Yes, I would. They don't take away from a wonderful personality.
That's such a nice signal from your boyfriend :D
Of course, I would check with you if that self harm problem was under control now... such things need treatment.
But I would not let you down, no way!
If someone used to cut themselves then that person has been through some pain. If they stopped then they're incredibly strong because self harm is a really dreadful addiction. I'd never think badly of someone who suffered through something like that
In my defense I was only trying to see how sharp I could make my pocket knife. Wasn't depressed at all. But i can't remember anyone saying anything about them or refusing to date me because of them.
I used to cut and still do occasinally. Even if I didn't, I would still date someone who self harmed and help them get trough it. Stay strong.
Well I'd worry about them and want to know they're okay. If I think they're stable enough for a relationship then sure I'd give her a chance.
I would because I've had moments like this so I know how the person must have felt.
If I knew a girl harmed herself I'd feel like giving her a hug. It's not gross or anything. I'd date a girl like that and try my best to make her feel loved
Having dealt with suicide threats before, that's a kind of emotional torture I never want to experience again.
No fucking way for me.
Yes, I have no problem with that. I actually used to find them pretty cool. So much that I have some myself :P
If they were not recent ones then sure, I mean we all have traumatic pasts, scars and wounds.
All a case by case basis, no hard fast rules here! I'd still give her a try. #NobodyIsPerfect
If the scars were old and faded, yes. Not if the scars are recent.
Yeah I definitely would. We all have our own struggles and obstacles in life. You have to accept people for who they are and if you do then you accept them for their history too.
yea why not aslong as they stop or dont cut anymore
Yes
And I'd to keep you from doing it ever again :/
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