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How come you don't want kids? How do you know that having children is not for you? (ChildFree or Anti-Natalist)? (Page 2)
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I don't want to spend twenty years working and spending all my time and money on a mini me. I'd rather enjoy money and have pets. It's foolish to assume everyone should be a parent
@WhoDatGuy Never forget that a child is irreplaceable should something horrible and tragic happen, you can only take chances and invest in some life insurance policy, and that's about all you really can do. Should something bad happen, once they are gone, that's a reality you'll have to face and take chances with. By choosing to not have any kids, then you had just save yourself that kind of a possible and horrible outcome. Agreed?
Totally not the reason I'm opting out. That just sounds like your afraid to try and that's no way to live.
@WhoDayGuy What do you mean by that's no way to live? Anyone can choose to live how they want to live.
Your living in fear of what could happen and that's your choice.
We all have something to fear, even MORE SO when and if we have somebody to lose or something important to lose. Especially if the loss would be a permanent loss.
@WhoDatGuy?
You scared to even live for fear of pain. I just don't want children. There's a massive difference
More like I figured it's already troublesome that I have to go through is, but I refuse to ever pass this on to the next hypothetical person, thus I'm not gonna have any kids. Other pain and miseries are completely unavoidable, the whole relationships, dating, marriage, kids thing, that can be sacrificed and forfeited altogether, since you don't NEED those things to live. And besides I know for certain they aren't going to make me feel "happy" or "fulfilled" either way, big commitments, things more often than not do not work out between people and they split up, seen it enough times from other people I know (co-workers, friends, classmates, etc.) that I completely gave it all up without giving it much second thoughts and without wanting to try, and it's not like I had quit a few months or years, it's been much longer. I also agree with rather have money and pets to enjoy that's still a better deal than the traditional shit that society expects you to conform to: married with kids etc.
Ffs stop bumping. Let the question die. I don't want notifications for ever
You can disable the notifications, worked when I did it.
So I should disable all notifications coz your annoying?
Could have sworn you can pick and choose and filter out older questions?
I don't have any woman trustworthy enough for that responsibility in my life.
I don’t want to have kids because it is an economic burden and I prefer freedom
Kids are expensice and i can't afford them. But I alsp have hpv and have choosen not to spread it.
See, that's what I call being responsible and considerate. Don't give somebody something they don't want and can't change and pass it onto them.
I am more likely to raise them to be horrific monsters than to be people, the only fatherly instincts I have is to ditch the little bastard or bitch down a ditch, sorry
lack of time, money, patience, privacy, and earplugs my simple reasons for not wanting kids
Life is full of suffering yes. But it is better to experience something than nothing. And people who believe that all there is is suffering forget that there are beautiful feelings and sights that make it all worth it. Overall I wouldn't have children myself but I believe life is better to experience than to never experience
You gotta take chances in life just be careful which ones you take.
I'd have to think otherwise. Joy and pleasurable things only have value, meaning only AFTER you have experienced miseries and suffering first. If you weren't bored in the first place, then would you have looked for something to do? If someone never exists or existed then they aren't deprived of anything good or bad.
No! Almost had me there! Ok. I think that it is better for them to exist so they can experience the joy. Because it is the best concept a human can imagine. And a humane thing is to share the opportunity of joy to others. Or create other people to feel it
Creating a life is at the same time creating a possibility of a death. Everyone ever added into this world will eventually and inevitably subtracted. But take your pick, if one day you had a kid and something bad were to happen to them and they're gone forever, what I had said might haunt you forever. Bad things are going to happen unexpectedly and can entire be beyond your control. Take your pick. Play Rusiian Roulette with someone's well being and gamble away or simply don't play at all. I pick the latter and refuse to take those chances of what the outcome might be.
If they died then I don't think it would destroy me. I obviously don't know, but the fact that they had joy is better than them having no joy or life at all for me
I'd have think otherwise, parents that loses their own child to something so horrible and gruesome, that will fuck them up emotionally and scar them for the rest of fucking life. It never completely goes away. Like I said, take your chances. I already made up my mind firmly on this matter a long time ago, although I choose to remain celibate and abstinent indefinitely instead and stopped seeking anybody else for a relationship or anything at all altogether.
Opinions change, you don't have the same opinions on things 10 years ago. Get back to me in 10 years and Ill beleive you
10 years is quite a way to go. But I'm more than certain since I'm actually in my mid 30s approaching 40 soon. Assuming you'll still be hanging around here on this website in 10 years or that this website would still be around the next 10 years. I never change once I made up my mind on things, especially on things like this.
@nuffsaid If you thought I didn't feel or think the same way about the things 10 years ago about the stuff I mentioned here, then you're wrong, I've been that way for more than the last 10 years.
I don't like children
That's why you are one
@GayHowellMeme They aren't for everybody.
I don't know that it's not for me in general. I know right now that I don't want any, but I may change my mind in the future. I don't want any right now for multiple reasons, some of which are: I don't have a job right now, I'm single, I don't have my own home yet, etc.
And if none of those conditions ever change or improve by the time you are 30 and beyond?
For me it's about age: if I make a child now, how old will I be when it goes to college?
i totally agree with you there.
Most don't though. I don't expect anyone or everyone to agree. Techically even a person that had kids can become and feel this way. The video is from True Detective, the character Rust Cohle had a daughter, but then she died in a horrible tragic accident and that made him felt much regret over her death and wished they he had reconsidered and never had kids in the first place.
@decentguy?
sorry man, i forgot to reply not that.
yeah you are right, i think most people want kids because they love them a lot when they are babies, but as they grow older, they start to value them less, but i have seem some parents loving their kids a lot, even when they are totally grown ups.
I want to have children but not now. I want to have a stable job and a house of my own.
It doesn't interest me.
And it's simply one of those things where you can't take back and reverse the decision you had made once it's been made. You know what they say? You can't put the genie back in the bottle once you let it out.
True.
Most people don't think about how serious it can get, and then later they may regret the decision when they may realize maybe it is a mistake that they had made. I'm pretty sure for those parents that created a child that turned out to be a fucking monster would feel that way. Parents of people that turned into criminals, rapists, murderers, mass shooters, etc. They simply do not realize this world is chaotic and filled with chaos, we simply have very little to no control over what the fuck will happen in the reality, and what can happen. Despite even the best of our intentions, despite all of our good intentions, bad, horrible and tragic things can, will, and still happens one way or another.
Yes that's true. But it also ignores the fact that those awful people who do awful things are still in the minority-- most people don't do those things. And just as many people are artists and musicians and builders. Chaos is inherent, sure, but men also have amazing capacity for fellowship and brotherhood and love. Yin and yang.
u werent kidding about being pessimistic
i wouldn't want kids either. i have no patience when it comes to kids, fear of losing the baby, losing my life during child birth and bring a kid into a world with no mum, have their father leave me, i dont want to them to ever say stepdad to a new person, i think thats too much to ask of a kid, they might not love me back, they might die before me, i can be insensitive sometimes and thatll scar them for life. those r the main reasons.
@boulshyte How does my pessimism make you feel? Does it bother you much, if any at all? Or it doesn't really matter?
doesn't bother me too much
@boulshyte You are a rare exception then. I'd expect it to bother most people and pessimism would be a huge turn off to most people. But I guess you and I do have similar thoughts and concerns and look at both the good and the bad things in this world and weigh between them to make an informed decision and an opinion.
@JudgementDay k
I don't like kids, I do like money.
The world is overpopulated
Yup, and it's going to keep becoming overpopulated.
Yep because people are told they are supposed to get married and have litters of kids to determine their worth as people. And if they can't afford those kids , don't worry because the government will just tax single childless more and after keeping most of the money, they will give some of the money to the irresponsible parents so they will vote for the system that they are dependent on and raise their children to be dependent on that system , and give more power to the corrupt system.
Only a world where no more humans can ever be born would ensure a corrupt system come to a crashing halt, and those that abuse their powers in the system would eventually lose their power and control. How can they rule over the population and abuse their power anymore if that population is going to die out? Perhaps one day that might just happen, a massive infertility plague or sterility plague that rendered no more possible human births permanently. Only then those at the top of the system would eventually lose their power, their positions and place in the world.
@shawn4512 ?
Oh I definitely agree.
@shawn4512 Maybe one day people will finally stop giving a shit anymore and completely stop expecting people to have kids and constantly nag or give people a hard time for not conforming like they had. Same goes for those that have negative judgments and prejudices or discrimination against those that would rather be single, don't date, is a virgin or plans to stay one, etc., However, the way I see it, something very terrible, catastrophic or cataclysmic has to happen first before those that just don't get it would finally begin to see the world differently and understand why some of us had already called it quits on ever having family and offspring way beforehand. Things have to be desolate, hopeless, and really fucking bad enough for them to learn and understand a different perspective. Because it's still all too comfy and easy right now, and nothing horrible, cataclysmic or apocalyptic has occurred yet.
They cost a fortune
I like my freedom
And would cost you your mental health if something horribly went wrong in their future. Imagine if your kid died in a horrible accident or was a victim of a horrible crime, that both their life and yours are shattered and changed forever all simply because they had been in the wrong place at the wrong time and that you couldn't do anything to change it because it was entirely beyond your control. I mean it must be horrible to be a parent to lose their child no matter how hold their child is, even if they've grown up and are an adult.
Or similarly, perhaps even worse, something happened, and your very own child some day turned out to be a fucking monster and hurt, killed or destroyed many other people's lives; causing great harm and suffering to other people, and once again, you're also powerless and couldn't possible stop, known or prevent it other than choosing to not take the risks at all by choosing to never have any kids at all. I mean can you imagine that, if your very own child one day turned out to be a murderer, rapist, thug, criminal, etc. whatever you want to name and call it, I mean wouldn't that be of great disappointment, embarrassment, grief to you as well? I sure believe that it would and so I refuse to gamble with another person's existence if they had not been brought into existence, it merely means that they have no need to come here into existence to this world.
Because with either negative and very bad scenarios of what could possibly go wrong and happen would meant not only would it cost you a fortune, but think about how that would impact them, yourself and others for the rest of your life and others' lives as well?
no matter how *OLD* their child is, even if they've grown up and are an adult.
GaG really should add an edit switch to post to correct typos.
I couldn't be bothered with the responsibility
I never understood why so many people prefer to be childless. I would always want to be a father.
Did you even bother to read my description and explanation? One's outlook of life and reality can and will affect one's choice such as this one. I know that by choosing to never have kids, I'll never have to worry or face the possible reality that I can lose my child if something horrible were ever to happen to them. There's plenty of that on the news.
@ConvertedCondom-User?
I want kids but no one wants them with me
I want 3 children maybe 4
It comes with risks, you acknowledged it yourself earlier about how sad and terrible this world can be. But if that is what you really want and you believed that having children of your own would make you feel "happy" and "content", then so be it, because that's what you believe in and want to have.
Ouch!
@theFantasticJ Too deep for you?
No deeper than your asshole
You think I'm an asshole?
I wasn't before but think about it you are called JudgementDay...
And?
Having fun with trolling, I see.