Should we promote "chivalry" and being "ladylike," or should we just promote being polite? (Page 4)

SpiderManFan2002 · 2020-06-11T10:24:49Z

Inspired by a question @ultimega just asked: Have any of you heard this rule before? But seriously! What's the point in telling boys to be "chivalrous" and girls to behave "like a lady" when instead we could just cut the crap and tell everyone to be polite? Like if a dude opens a door for me, that's cool, I'll say thanks but I'm not going to expect him to open a door for me, or wait for him when he's miles behind just so he can open a door for me- and chances are if he's behind me, and I'm in front then I'll hold the door open for him, not because I'm trying to make a feminist statement and he's not opening the door to be chivalrous for me- we're both just being polite . And then as for all this "lady-like" stuff, I hear dumb things like that rule above, because firstly that's just rude not to finish your plate and it's wasteful too. Secondly, I hear things like: "don't chew with your mouth open, it's not ladylike" but that's just stupid to say, because it's rude and off putting for a girl or a guy to chew with their mouth open. Again, if I chew with my mouth closed I'm not trying to be ladylike and if a dude chews with his mouth closed he's not trying to be "feminized" or whatever, we're both just being polite. Honestly, if I have a son or a daughter I'm not going to fill their heads with those labels, when I can tell them both to just be polite, decent human beings. So do you think we should promote chivalry to boys and being ladylike to girls or do you think we should just promote being polite to both boys and girls? And why?

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GlitterFairy16 Follow
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Just be polite, considerate and respectful of others and yourself no matter your gender.

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HereBeSteph Follow
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Chivalry promotes the idea that women are weaker in my opinion and promotes the idea that men need to be stronger. just be polite.

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- ThisAndThat
  
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  Women not taking the dangerous and dirty jobs that men do also promotes the idea that women are weaker too.
  
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- HereBeSteph
  
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  yee you're right it does
  
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Jackblue Follow
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If I have learned one thing in my 30 years of life it is that kindness and a good temper are the highest virtues not some arbitrary etiquette.

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Radio4men Follow
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Teach boys to be weak and SIMPS so we can watch our world get destroyed. Just how we are not seeing the effects of that in Japan, Europe, Canada, UK.

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BlackCatBone Follow
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Being polite.
I'm not pro traditional values which promote any form of sexism and sexist prejudice.

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Paul09 Follow
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It should be common sense as an adult. Treat people the way you want to be treated. It isn't that hard.

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Numbnuts89 Follow
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i've just always heard, if she's a lady in the streets, she's likely a freak in the sheets, but, i dk

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I prefer being an equal, so politeness is my route.

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Today id just settle for people being civil to 1 another.

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ThisAndThat Follow
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Feminism and Metoo killed chivalry. Chivalry is a thing of the past.

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Chivalry is dead, the invention of the arquebus killed it.

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alance99 Follow
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Teaching both being polite as we are in 2020 now

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- SpiderManFan2002
  
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  Agreed :)
  
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Sadly I haven't seen many girls who deserved to be called ladies

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- sunsetdreamer
  
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  Might be true. Sadly it's the other way around too.
  
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We should teach boys to be "chivalrous" and girls to be "ladylike." Just being traditional and polite is what it truly means

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Asianguy123 Follow
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i think that you should teach it to new comers too. We don’t do that in Asia.

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  What do you mean by "new comers"?
  
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- Asianguy123
  
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  New immigrant
  
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I think being polite is good

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- SpiderManFan2002
  
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  Same :)
  
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I will automatically become chivalrous if a girl acts feminine or is ladylike

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do whatever you want, just dont fight chivalry haha

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Being polite.

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- SpiderManFan2002
  
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  Agreed :P
  
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hardcore feminism all but killed chivalry.

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- Reaperbot666
  
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  I do not mean feminism itself is bad. but the ones who take it to the extremes. and ruin it or make it worse for all women in general. are the hardcore ones.
  
  throughout history forms of Feminism and MGTOW have popped up now and then. typically over miner things so most people don't notice it. however when the major things start to get affected by one side or the other. creating an in-balance between the genders. that is when they other starts to rise in power to counter them. until a mutual agreement can be made between the two primary genders.
  
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