Which do you think is worse, murder or rape?

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tartaarsaus · Accepted Answer

Hmmm if someone gets raped, this will in probability have really bad impact on their life regarding their well-being, how they view themselves and more. Basically, it would be extraordinarily terrible for their entire life (especially if access to counseling or quality is poor).

Murder also obviously may ruin the life of the people who are especially close to the victim. Also, why did the person get murdered?

I’m quite sure this externality on people around the victim would also occur with rape. That said, I’m not sure how it compares. I suppose it could be significantly less harmful for them in the case of rape given that a person was not just violently eliminated. However, if that rape victim also becomes suicidal, acts completely differently and that sort of stuff, they’d also be ripped out of their normal life as people close know him/her.

Then it also becomes a matter in how we define “worse”. Do we care for people around them or predominantly the first victim of the crime itself? That will also depend on the relationship of the victim of the crime to others.

Furthermore, do we only care about the heinousness of the crime or also tangible consequences for people?

I think it depends too much on quite a few things, such as inter-personal relationships, damage suffered by rape, defining “worse” and that sort of stuff.

If we define worst as heinousness of the crime, murder. But if we take in account tangible consequences for people, there could be other factors that make either worse than the other in actual impact.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Strictly on the basis of logic, most men will say that murder is worse because a rape victim has the opportunity to recover from the traumas whole the victim obviously does not.

However, as a man, I can't fathom what it is like for a woman to be raped. I think that most women will respond to this question on the basis of emotion, not logic, and say that rape is worse. But if you post a poll:. Rape victims, would you have preferred to have been murdered when you were raped, I would expect most would answer "no."

Rape and murder are both horrendous and I don't really think there is much to be gained by trying to decide which is worse.

19magic · Accepted Answer

Depends what kind of each your referring to, there's what people to believe to be murder is more of a nice thing, and same with rape nowadays people say rape is all kinds of things despite being into it. I remember reading about this girl who had a hook up in a bar, who then said she was raped and underage, despite faking age to get into bar leaving guy to assume she was legal by the way in court she was found guilty and him innocent.

But in turn of full on rape and murder then I'd say murder is worse as sure your dead and you can never achieve what you wanted to or be who you want. Then you got to think of everyone your connected to and how they're going to feel, your children, parents, siblings, friends, aunt/uncles, grandparents. Sure all these people would still be effected if you were raped but not quite in the same way. So murder for sure

BreakingSound · Accepted Answer

I personally know people who think otherwise, but objectively, I don't even see how this is even arguable.

Rape, while being a horrible, world-destroying violation that you carry your entire life, still leaves you with a life to live. You can still go on to live in relative normalcy. There will even be times that you forget it ever happened, and you can still experience happiness, joy, in other things in life.

If you're murdered, though, that's it. Everything has been taken from you. You have ceased to exist. There is nothing for you to carry your entire life because it has been extinguished.

How can rape, impossibly bad as it is, possibly be worse than that?

TheLawAroundHere · Answer

I've been a type 1 diabetic for 30 years. Bilateral below the knee amputee. Nerve damage out the ass. Death doesn't hurt. I've been dead. Dying hurts.

I can't even wrap my brain around the idea of rape. I mean, jesus christ. When my wife had her iud in, i bumped it one time. I lost my boner so god damned fast that it wasn't funny. How anyone can commit that heinous act.

The problem with torture is that, if done properly, you dont die because of it. It makes you wish you were dead.

This might be obscure. So check youtube if need be. Remember the "Under Siege"? The crew was being moved into a containment area. One of the sailors jumped one of the bad guys. The bad guy recovered his weapon and shot the sailor. Tommy Lee Jones then pulls his pistol to shoot another guy. He then says "Know this. Defy us and I will shoot you and the man next to you." That is a prime example of murder being used as a torture method. Sure, you die. But knowing your buddy will join you in 10 seconds would have to suck ass.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Rape is over rated. I have been raped, I have nearly been killed as well (stabbed in the head), I'll take the rape over being dead any day. People who think rape is worse have never actually had to face their own mortality, its like asking whether or not its worse to lose a pinky, or your entire arm, their is in fact a right answer to that and its not the pinky.

That doesn't mean rape is good by any means, but on the list of bad things to happen, its not that high on the list. Any one who says it is has lived a very chushy life and/or has no imagination.

Saturnxox · Answer

Rape is a very scary thing.
You realise how small you are and how you have no power at all. People can do whatever they want with your body and you have nothing to say about it.
Then you start to wonder. Was it my fault? Did I lead him on? What was I wearing? What face expression did I have? Did he think I wanted to have sex?
And it is really tough time. I'm not sure if you ever really get over it..
When you're killed you don't have to deal with all of this trauma.
So they're both bad. It is really hard to say that ang of them is worse.
But I guess when you get raped you are still alive, if you're killed you lose everything and it harms everyone who loved you.
So murder is worse I think.

Liz_thorne · Answer

I don't think that one is worse than the other. However there are instances where murder could be justified i. e. if you kill someone to save your own life or the life of a close one. That can't be said for rape.

MCheetah · Answer

Can't vote on it.  One is potential lifelong psychological abuse and the other is literal death. It's like asking would you rather be shot in the head or tortured for several years.  This assuming it's actual, legitimate rape and not the SJW bullsh*t version of  "rape"  in that, "she had a beer or two, so all of her accountability as an adult goes out the window, unless she's behind the wheel of a car" or "she didn't like the sex and didn't verbally utter a literal 'yes,' to the guy but gave clear physical ques for acceptable, but it's "rape" anyway. If you're talking about actual rape, and not third-wave feminist "rape," then yes, that's psychological torture and in some cases, it'd almost be more humane to just kill the person.

Aguysopinion4799 · Answer

Well... They are both terrible acts, but I would say the worst of the two is Murder.

My reasoning is pretty much the same as with @JosyJosy who said because they would be dead.

While it is obvious that rape is a horrible crime, often causing the victim to have psychological trauma afterwards and many other terrible results afterwards, there is still the fact that the person is alive and has the opportunity to recover from that trauma and live on.

I am not saying rape has not caused death, there are cases of rape victims who have taken their own lives because it caused too much psychological damage to them.

My point is that with murder, that's it, you're dead and there is nothing else, with rape you have the possibility however small it is, to recover from it and even get the criminal in jail.

My heart goes out to victims of both these crimes

jgokgotit · Answer

I believe rape is worse. Both crimes affect the victim's family as well as the victims themselves. However, in the case of murder, the victim is not suffering anymore (unless they did not get right with Jesus, but for this question, we will stick to this life). In the case of rape, the victim is living and has to navigate through the pain and might, in some cases, have to endure contact with their rapist and maybe even watching the asswipe go free. The one thing that I would say might make murder worse is if the victim's family cannot find the body because then the family holds a false hope of finding their loved one while the rape victim is around to mention what happened.

AzureGirl · Answer

I’m leaning towards rape. With murder you have a murderer and an obviously dead victim. With rape the victim is alive and not only has to deal with legal issues such as charging the rapist and trying to convict them should they (hopefully) go that route, they also have to deal with mental trauma, possible emotional trauma, possibility of pregnancy, physical wounds/trauma, etc.

Ellie-V · Answer

I’ve been lucky enough to never have been raped but as a sexual assault survivor I would have chosen to die than to be violated and left with scars that I’m somehow responsible for when I didn’t do anything.

G3tAClue · Answer

As a former rape victim, I still say murder is worse. I was able to mentally recovery from my trauma. Yes, it took years to not be afraid of my own shadow, but at least I’m not dead. I wouldn’t ever wish to be dead either after what I have been through.

Murder is worse, period.

Alivegirlll · Answer

Death is irreversible and the end. If the first option is death, I don't even need to listen to choose the second option since survival is one of the main purposes of human life.

We cannot ignore the physical and mental effects of rape (and all other crimes) but there is always a reason to live.

I think the idea that being a victim of rape is worse than being dead is related to the mentality of honor killing.

Jayrock24w · Answer

Rape because not only does that person get dangerously hurt physically but they have to live the rest of their life mentally scared and always watching their back almost paranoid.

FR_Ruby · Answer

Well murder might be a consequence for something. Rape never has a good reason & creates lives that are either cut short or lived without a parent and with less love. Also, murdering a rapist is actually a positive thing so Rape is worse. Besides, I'd rather be dead than to create a ruined life.

Twinrova · Answer

Imagine actually answering "rape" for this question. Would you rather someone you love be raped or murdered? Well, if you want to see them again, I'd assume the former.

Don't just ask yourself what you'd rather happen to you, ask also about how this will effect other people in your life.

Quackthulu · Answer

Rape, without a doubt. If someone gets murdered their life is over, end of story. If someone gets raped third life is ruined but they are still alive, and empty shell of what the my used to be.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I think rape is worse for the victim and murder is worse for those that are still living.

Those that have been unaffected by either are just guessing.

In the case of rape, there is still a chance for the person to go on living and the pursuit of happiness.

Apple1996 · Answer

For the victim rape is worse since they have to recover after and try to go on a live a normal life. at least with murder after that they don't have to suffer anymore once they're dead.

RateThemBabe · Answer

Well think of it this way: most people would think death as an “easy way out” and would much rather die than be tortured. Rape is a form of torture sometimes. So I’d much rather be murdered than raped. Therefore I think rape is worse in a way.

cheapshotbob · Answer

murder because murder can be slow and painful and never ending , rape isn't because the guy who does can't last more than a minute or 2 and has to use some tools too finish what he can't. and while that might last longer it is not the same though the self diluted guy might think it will. what a looser he is XD

matchrestore · Answer

Murder is final, rape can potentially be recovered from. I in no means want to discount the drama imposed by rape. Rape is no doubt abhorrent, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone, even my worst enemies, but forced to chose between the two I'd say rape is the lesser of two evils.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

It depends on what death holds.

When I think of bad crimes, something like rape comes to mind first.

If death means you're back in the state of none-existence, then rape is worse, because there's a high chance the victim is mentally ruined.

I think the above is for the victim itself, for others, death is worse, like I'm sure one would rather their loved one be raped, than killed.

None-existence > alive and ruined, for me anyway.

Levin · Answer

That should be a fairly obvious question.

They are two horrific, despicable crimes.

But if your nearest and dearest is raped, least she is alive. Least she has the opportunity to try and rebuild her life, be happy, and be around her loved ones.

JimboGB · Answer

To argue rape is nonsense. That's like saying cracking my screen is worse than losing my phone. People are stronger and more resilient then such people would have to believe.

betaTester · Answer

The first lesson I taught a mentally challenged child was: "not everything in the world can be ranked from best to worst".
And the second lesson was "there are stupid questions, their answers give you no knowledge, if you let them occupy most of your brain, you become stupid"

DanaeAdam5 · Answer

Rape.  Raping someone means that you are leaving a person scarred for the rest of their life.

mariahjustineb · Answer

I've been raped, and I still haven't mentally recovered or forgot about it, and I probably never will, but murder is definitely worse. At least with rape you'll get to move on with your life, but if you're murdered, you get your life taken away from you, and it takes a part of the people who loved you away from them too.

msss98 · Answer

Hard choice but ultimately murder id say. If u rape someone u are leaving them scared for life and having to live through that, but they can ultimately recover and get to be happy again.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

It's murder. Once your life gets taken away, you can't do anything else in life. If I were raped at least I can still benefit from several therapeutic and counseling sessions. At least I'm still alive and a survivor.

admles · Answer

To me, it's comparing apples and oranges, they're both horrific.

The rape victim has to live with that having happened to them every day of their life, but they can still live, and some people can heal.

The murder victim will never live again, but at least they aren't suffering.

Parnian · Answer

In my opinion 100% murdering !  By saying that I don’t mean rape is not bad but I’ve witnessed myself having orgasms during the rape... And I’ve seen people who likes to get rape..

Soleful-b3ing · Answer

Murder. Yes, getting raped is bad, but at least you’re alive for starters, and the future ahead might work out for the better. Being murdered on the other hand completely eliminates the potential for a happier ending. You’re dead, so you can’t enjoy what your remaining life had to offer, and the last breaths before you die will be the most painful moment of your life both mentally and physically.

Clayaya · Answer

Rape is worse for sure. Think of men being rapped also. They’re forever shamed & probably question their sexuality. Most men & women are Scared to tell anyone. I’d rather die than be raped & left to replay those thoughts repeatedly.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I would rather be killed than go through that again or at all. So clearly rape. Death compared is a blessing.

Ripper_E · Answer

Murder
This shouldn't even be debatable. Death is the end. There is no coming back. As traumatic as rape can be, that person can still live a long healthy, fulfilling life.
If a person is murdered. It's over. Nothing.

MrKinktastic · Answer

Murder, you universally end a life and all it’s potentials. With rape that sometimes happen via suicide but the final choice was the victims compared to with murder

DIRKINOFF · Answer

Rape because the victim will spend the rest of her, or his, life wishing they were dead. They'll have to deal with shame, hatred, I just guilt, sexual fear, distrust, counseling, questioning, anxiety, panic and more than likely PTSD.

makriks · Answer

Generally speaking both are worth than the other.

Rape: Is a spiritual murder to the victim and very hard to recover after the horrible incident.
Murder: Is a spiritual rape to the family of the victim.

HOAAH · Answer

Murder is worse because the person is dead and can no longer live their life with their families and friends.

Tamera952 · Answer

Let me think about this... Hmmm, ... well one you survive, and one you die. -- I'm gonna say murder by far.

modelUN242 · Answer

I'm a female, so I picked rape. If it was rape and then murder, that would be better.

petrichor9 · Answer

If you get murdered, you don't have to live with that.

devilish-cutie · Answer

rape, wouldn't want life after that so id rather be murdered

1truekhaleesi · Answer

Tough to say. Rape tore me in half but it didn't end me. If my parents knew about the rapes, they would be equally horrified as if I got murdered.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Murder. Recovering from psychological trauma can be hard. I have yet to hear of someone recovering from murder.

Bandit74 · Answer

I think it depends on how aggressive/painful the spefic scenario is as well as how quickly/slow it happens but generally I think I'd rather be raped than murdered.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Murder is worse. Rape is awful and horrible, and while the scars remain people recover from it. With murder there is no recovery.

Many of the answers seem to assume that murder would be quick. Lots of murders are slow and painful.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

It blows my mind that most girls will give their pussy away but they think "rape" is worse than murder.

acooke-13 · Answer

I mean it's quite clearly murder, because they'd be dead?

hellish-kitty · Answer

R*pe, because the victim has to keep living and recover.

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Depends on how rough each of them are, but generally it's going to be murder. Rape victims who went on to live normal lives until a ripe old age are a plain example of why murder is generally worse.

blutwolfe · Answer

Well murder, cause they're dead, rape at least they're still alive, I mean trying to look at the bright side

codyccc · Answer

Obviously the worst crime list goes teaching religion, being religious in anyway, treason, drunk driving, attempted murder, murder, rape of children, assault with a deadly weapon rape, thief

DogEatsCat1973 · Answer

I am sorry but you can't go to therapy and talk about your murder but if someone rapes me I can still live and go to therapy and talk about being raped.

jkm1864 · Answer

Rape damages one life where as murder damages multiple lives.

Don-_-Don · Answer

It's crazy how divided we seem to be on this topic, lol.

Thatsamazing · Answer

This is one of the dumbest questions that people consistently ask each other.

Omar5881 · Answer

Rape is worse it kills your soul and make you live in fear and depression that’s no way of living sometimes death is a dignity

myhaiva · Answer

Rape leaves the victim wanting to die. Many rape victims commited suicide due to it. In that case that person got both murdered and raped.

sweet87 · Answer

They're both vile crimes I don't think you can say ones worse than the other!

Wise4myage · Answer

Murder is worse in my opinion, because its permanent.

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