Should paternity tests be mandatory?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think that they should be available to anyone who wants them, but I don't think that they should be mandatory. I just think that requiring them would plant seeds of mistrust between partners, and that's that's not good for their relationship, or for the child.

I just know that I would be pretty insulted if my partner were to ask for a paternity test. I would let him have one, of course. But I would be pretty hurt by the fact that he didn't trust me.

So for the government to mandate something like that... it would be a pretty big slap in the face to women.

Also, if you were to mandate it, what would the consequences be if people refused? Are you going to take their kids away? Because that's not okay. And what if the father isn't in the picture. What if he left, or the mother doesn't know who he is? How is she supposed to prove that? What about kids born through sperm donation?

Paternity tests are already commonplace for men being asked to pay child support. And I think that that's completely well and good. I also think that if a man thinks that he may be the father of a child, he should be able to request a paternity test. (If he has sufficient grounds for believing it, that is, because otherwise paternity test requests would very quickly become a method for stalkers to insert themselves into the lives of their victims. I say this as someone who has had stalkers before).

But to require them of single mothers, or parents who have been in a committed, monogamous relationship for years. That's not okay.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think I sort of understand the issue here. If a man asks his partner for a paternity test that could offend the women who maybe has been faithful the whole time and would be hurt that her partner doesn't trust her. However, a man who's been burned before might not want to pay for, and love a child that's not biologically his. So making it mandatory would clear up any hurt feelings on either side, neither would have a choice in the matter, so there is nothing to be offended or hurt about from each other. I think what some of the other users are talking about is that it sounds like too much goverment overreach and all of that which I understand as well. However, who says the goverment would be allow to keep the DNA on file, it should be destroyed once the answer is revealed.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

I see that the majority of naysayers are women. Funny, it's like they are trying to hide their own mischievious behavior. Any woman who thinks it shouldn't be mandatory is someone I will assume to have something to hide.

If you got nothing to hide, then you shouldn't have an issue granting your man the privilege and HIS RIGHT to know 100% that the child he is about to take care of for the next 18-21 years to actually be HIS. Whether it is a baby daddy, a boyfriend or a husband. If you truly did love your man, you wouldn't have an issue granting him his right.

Paternity fraud is a SERIOUS thing. Any woman who has an issue with this is either a cheater herself or she is an enabler. Don't come to me with the bullshit of medical bills or the government being "too engaged". Because you wouldn't have an issue running to the government for alimony or childsupport. But you do have an issue with giving the man his basic human RIGHT to know that the kid is indeed his.

Yes. Make it mandatory to allow men to know who their kid is.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

Hell yes. It would stop paternity fraud, and it would let kids know who their real fathers were instead of just the richest guy Mom could accuse.

MzAsh · Answer

I think it would keep men from trying to deny fatherhood or getting away from fatherhood responsibilities. We need more fathers actually being fathers instead of jacking around m. I want to see them changing diapers, burping, feeding, pushing strollers, taking them to the doctor and doing all the mom shit. A man’s money is no longer enough.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I think they should be available upon the request of either the mother or a putative father, but I would not favor government mandates when both mother and father may be quite content without going to the trouble of the paternity test.

Anonymous · Answer

While it's refreshing to see that 44% of women agree this is a good idea, it's still disgusting that 56% don't, and that is indicative of the continued lack of support for fairness in gender equality and rights for men. There is literally only one valid reason why a woman would not support mandatory paternity testing and that is her desire to retain her ability to cheat and commit fraud.

"Paternity fraud is very common in the United States and around the world. According to the American Association of Blood Banks, a research report was submitted by accredited parentage laboratories. The results showed three out of every ten men tested were found not to be the biological father. There were about 300,000 DNA Paternity testing cases analyzed and roughly 100,000 men have deemed not the father. It is important to note, the DNA results submitted for this study were Legal DNA testing results. No peace of mind DNA tests as part of the study."

https://immigrationdnatestonline.com/paternity-fraud-2/#:~:text=Paternity%20fraud%20is%20very%20common,to%20be%20the%20biological%20father.

In every case of paternity fraud, and there are clearly many, there are three primary victims: the man who is lied to and told he is the father when he really isn't, the actual father who is robbed of his right to know and be a part of his child's life, and the child who is robbed of his/her right to know his/her father and have him as part of his/her life. Injustices like this are not tolerated today when a woman is the victim. Why do we as a society still not recognize and care about these injustices to men?

To those complaining that a paternity test would create distrust in a couple, that is not true at all if the tests are mandated because it's not the father who is requesting it. In fact, they would only serve to build trust because the father would always know he is the real father and have no reason to doubt his wife / baby mamma.

To those claiming it is an invasion of privacy, it is an invasion only in the same sense that enforcing any other law is. That's an absurd argument against fighting crime.

This should be a no-brainer to anyone who cares about equal rights and justice for both sexes. But it's sadly no surprise that more than half of women do not care about "equality" unless it benefits them.

England4eva · Answer

I think it’s a good rule for both parties tbh.

Some guys go years paying and investing emotionally in a child that’s not biologically theirs, whilst others miss out all together on an experience because another guy took his place unknowingly.

I believe it would also make women think twice about straying, or deliberately choosing an incorrect more “suitable guy” for his money, or because he would make a better farther than the actual dad.

Then you have the dead-beats who deny the paternity all together, to avoid child support.

It’s a win win on everybody’s account. Especially if the paternity checking price can start that low.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Absolutely, I can't imagine what it must feel like caring for your child for 18 years, working hard to provide and caring for them only to find out that your wife banged some other guy and the child was never yours. It's one thing to adopt, it has already been established that your child isn't yours, and its another to be lied to by someone you trusted and would give your life for.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

In my state, if a man and woman are married... and she gets pregnant, the father is automatically on the Childs birth certificate.

Even if he isn't actually the father, say she cheated... so when/if he finds out he isn't the father and files for divorce, he is now stuck with child support.

I'd say, if it was legally required at birth it would prevent that, or at least it should. Rather than have the 'husband' automatically be the father... how about see if he is actually the father first.

I know cheaters hate this idea though, cause they love their man and don't want him to find out, and they are okay with him raising a kid that he thinks is his, even if it isn't.

Moose304 · Answer

Oh, this is a hot button subject! Last year there was news out of the UK that almost a third of children born with the man listed as the father was in fact NOT the father. As DNA testing gets more and more common place I see no reason to not test before a man's name is placed on a birth document by administrative means. With copies of the testing made part of the document. Then in other situations, a Judge can do it. I think it is VITAL that when a child is born that their biological parents are part of their birth records for medical reasons later on. The trust argument goes away when the process of DNA testing is mandatory and done by the hospital BEFORE the documents are sent to the government that handles vital stats. Does paternity fraud happen? YES, it does! I know a man that lives in Williamsburg Virginia that has recovered close to $25,000 from a man that got his wife pregnant and she baby trapped him. It's about accountability and I see NOTHING wrong with that!

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly don't understand why some women are against this unless they have something to hide. If they have nothing to hide then they have nothing to worry about. What breaks my heart the most is kids not knowing who their real father is and fathers not knowing they have a kid. That's just wrong.

worldscolide · Answer

Considering that up to 20% or more fathers are unknowingly raising children that aren't theirs I would say definitely mandatory. Or at the very least the mother should not be permitted to stop it. In France a man can go to prison for getting a DNA test without the consent of the mother.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure.

Just gives women the right without any hassle of calling the police because the loser won't get lost, suing him for damages, etc., to throw a cheating boyfriend, fiance or husband out on their ass when the cheap hoe they were screwing says she's pregnant & guess what buddy boy you're the father.

SiberFox · Answer

This one is for the women who are against it:
What if the nurse made a mistake and switched babies? Would you not want the assurance that its yours? Testing for paternity will solve both issues.
Women don't tend to see the issue men have with fear of the child not being their own since the child comes out of the mother so maternity is always assured.

hahahmm · Answer

Uh, I see where you're going but I disagree. The reason people want paternity testing is so they can work with the system by the system's current rules that say the dad needs to pay child support. So the dad is wondering, 'is this really my kid or not'. But if we go back to traditional ways it doesn't matter cause then it's 100% okay for a parent to disown a kid or reject a kid. There's no obligation to support a kid regardless of the circumstances and I support going back to the old ways in many areas.

KrisPW · Answer

I'd be okay with it, but I'd rather it be legally tied to child support or something. The test is not invasive, so why not? I don't think most couples would need it that information, but if it was a legal matter, and just one of the many myriad of tests that happen with childbirth, I don't think I'd even notice.

Adam1978 · Answer

Mandatory in all countries where there is a legal responsibility from the father. Otherwise the legal responsibility should be forfeited. Ie a woman should have the bad choice to go out and get a kid without involving the father. No need for a sperm bank.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Yep, I do..
That way, once it's proven he's the father, he'll do the right thing and step up and take 50% responsibility for something he's 50% responsible for creating whether he's with the "mom" or not.. And will take away the "how do I know it's mine" off the table...

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I'll answer this question first and say yes it should be mandatory.

@hlopinionated_ For blocking me, I will just say it here. It seems to me you don't know what "ignore" means either. I mean im not the one who is trying to run away. You are. So why am I the one who should stop? LOL. And yes resort to that cliche "block because i don't know how to ignore" tactic. by the way that's a self solving problem for me. Because I love it with morons block me so I don't have to deal with them.

meetkitty123 · Answer

Honestly I don't think there's a reason to.
That's just ridiculous I'm sorry do you really want to give the government that much power to the fact that now they're going to have everyone's DNA? Shoot no need for fingerprints that would be a law that would just open up a Pandora's box the government having every single person DNA ever born or whoever has had children not a good idea. It just seems wrong imagine the things they could do or attempt to do the odd experimentations... No thank you.
it's kind of ridiculous besides nowadays it's very simple just to go to Walgreens grab the swab swab the child's mouth swab you're own with no one ever even finding out you send it secretly to a lab (hope that they're an honest company when you select the box that says no they cannot sell your information) and you get the results in a few weeks at the privacy of you own home.

Anonymous · Answer

Mandatory implies you'd be forced to take it whether you wanted or needed paternity information or not, so no. There are a lot of guys and women who are well aware of who they are sleeping with so mandating this, I'm sure at cost, would be a waste of time and money.

Legally speaking, at least in my state (I had to look this one up), a mother or father can request a paternity test be done in court. Over the counter paternity tests are not admissible. The tests must be performed by a lab as mandated by the court and one must have consent to do so, meaning you can't just swab the child or the father against their will and submit that as evidence. If the father refuses or is unavailable, a court can still run a DNA test with closest match relatives to determine paternity.

Anonymous · Answer

There is literally no valid reason not to support mandatory routine paternity testing. It's extremely inexpensive and very accurate now. There would be no hard feelings between the mother and father because it's mandatory, not at the request of the father (unless the mother is lying or truly doesn't know who the father is). Privacy is not an issue if the results are kept confidential, which should be perfectly acceptable.

Fathers absolutely deserve to know whether they are truly the father of the child, and children deserve to know who their real father is. Anyone against this is either an idiot or a woman who wants to retain the ability to lie and defraud men into providing for a child who isn't theirs or denying the father the right to know he has a son or daughter.

Exterminatore · Answer

Nah. We should just believe women like the leftists say.

After all, EVERY woman is a paragon of virtue and far be it from ANY woman to ever slut it up and get knocked up and then trick some guy into raising that baby.

Believe women!

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