If I don't want kids, but, something happens, and she gets pregnant (we're in a no abortion state), what happens?

[Anonymous]

I'm in Ohio, where it's now essentially illegal. Not totally but, yeah. I don't want kids. I never did. I'm an only child and male, and white, but, I just don't. So, what happens if something goes wrong, and she winds up getting prego. What do i do. Do i give it up for adoption?

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10 mo

This is just hypothetical.

But, if I did, i would not have the money to go to another state. I'm pretty poor

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10 mo

Why is nobody giving me legit answers

All i see is republican bullshit

[razelove]

The only choice you had was when you got off. Cross your fingers that she cheated and get a paternity test.

If a woman really didn't want your kid, she wouldn't have unprotected sex with you. Anyway, your state is pretty permissive on abortions with a quick google, like if it isn't possible there, you'd have to go to California or something.

Get ready for a maybe baby, being a dad, or running. I'm going to take a wild guess that you two aren't married. If you knew before that you didn't want any kids, why not get a vasectomy and just not tell anyone about it?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why you told us that you’re White. That’s... weird.

Oh. Never mind. I just read where you’re whining about Republicans. So you’re probably just some shitlib with internalize md White guilt who sees the world in nothing but racial colors. And rainbows.

Since you don’t seem to want to reproduce (thankfully) I’d suggest just using contraception. It 99% effective. I know that one percent bothers you. It seems to bother all Liberals. For some odd reason you have a preoccupation with absolutes... except when it comes to whether or not men can be women.

Speaking of which you could always go on hormone replacement therapy and because a woman. Flood your body with exogenous estrogen. I’m sure that will do something for your fertility. And your sex drive.

Cheers.
✝️🇺🇸☝️

[razelove]

Abstinence is 100% effective, or getting with a woman you do want to have kids with...

[Simslover92]

Why can't she get on birth control? Also Illinois is two states away where she could get an abortion if it came to that. I know you said you're very poor but you could maybe try to drive out to Illinois. That's about four tanks of gas there and back maybe?

But she should really consider birth control and are you using condoms? If you're not then you definitely need to. Also, adoption is definitely an option too. But hopefully it doesn't come to that.

[Uannoyme]

Ohio is not a no abortion state. The ban after 6 weeks is on hold by the courts. Right now, abortion is legal in Ohio up to 22 weeks. If it weren't legal, she could go to another state. She isn't a tree, she can go elsewhere.

[AmandaYVR]

This is why America is in decline. The heyday is over. Monkeys are running the asylum now.

Use condoms. It's your only saviour.

[Asker]

Thats my point. If it fails, i have a kid

[razelove]

Hey hey, that's not fair, he could think positive and start saying things like "we're pregnant" HAHAHA!

[AmandaYVR]

@razelove Sex is a biological desire that is stronger than ideology.
Not everyone wants kids and it is a personal choice, not governments'.
The world cannot support endless people. Economic hardship and disparity between the 1%ers and everyone else grows more by the day.

Still, there are ways to prevent pregnancy. Or... there were... until the U. S. started outlawing birth control!!!

[razelove]

Birth control is still on the table, as far as I know. Some states blocked planned parenthood, like Arkansas and Texas, but under medicaid still have zero co-pay for hormonal preventative birth control from your doc. Most private insurance will have no co-pay for it as well.
I agree that regardless of consequences like pregnancy or STDs people will continue to have sex, his case doesn't seem like a lack of access though, but like she wants the kid, and he needs to buck up. A man's decision in having kids is to get a vasectomy or not have unprotected sex.
As far as states blocking birth control goes, there will be tons of saber rattling, but when it comes to doing so, few of them will actually do anything, especially broke states like Louisiana where I'm at.
The politicians still want to get elected, so they'll talk about reductions to appease the right, but then say it simply can't be done to keep the status quo with left and center. Mifepristone was an excellent example there, tons of noise on outlawing it, then when it got out of the news cycle, ensure it can't be outlawed.
Straight up in his case, he chose not to use condoms, she chose not to be on birth control, in their state abortion is legal up to 22 weeks. 22 weeks is not "a no abortion state". I'm not hearing an "all my children" scenario where she was in a coma for 5 months.

[LiamJHayden]

Whatever she wants. The choices are all hers before birth. As for adoption, you must both agree in Ohio, unless you fail to acknowledge paternity with the court within 30 days of the birth. If you do fail, she can unilaterally give up the child for adoption, but she can still decide to keep the child and get you put on child support.

[Asker]

So, im fucked, if i don't want kids, basically

[LiamJHayden]

Pretty much.

[Astarlessnightsky]

There only a few options,

Either accept it and raise the kid.

Give it up for adoption.

Get an abortion somewhere else.

[Asker]

nope
apparently i legally can't
i wouldn't be able to afford it, let alone, legal. As many states are trying to make it illegal to travel elsewhere. fucking republicucks

[Avicenna]

You can't give it up for adoption- only she can.

If you know you don't want kids, get a vasectomy.

[Asker]

i shouldn't have to modify myself to prevent kids

so, as a male, im fucked?

Isn't that a little messed up, and why outlawing abortion, is wrong

[Avicenna]

Well, I'm here to give practical advice rather than to wax philosophical. You can try condoms if you don't want a vasectomy, but those break and also aren't 100% reliable.

[Avicenna]

And the availability of abortion in another state doesn't necessarily get you off the hook either- if she wants to keep the baby, you have no say so. Hence the advice to get a vasectomy.

[Asker]

But taking that right away to get one, was wrong

And like i said, I shouldn't have to modify myself, just to please myself

[Asker]

All im saying is that as a guy, i guess im truly fucked here, if i don't want kids?

[Avicenna]

No, just be careful or get a vasectomy. Have sex with women that also don't want kids.

[Asker]

Yeah, good luck with that

ANd like i said, it was wrong to take that right away. I should not have to modify myself, to prevent kids

[Avicenna]

You can keep bleating that you want to have your cake and eat it too as much as you want, it doesn't change the fact that if you choose to have sex, you bear the consequences of it, ones you are well aware of.

[Avicenna]

And there are plenty of women that don't want to have kids these days. I'm seeing one right now.

[inhua]

why are you so adamant on killing your unborn baby?

[gothbxtch]

if possible, drive to a state where abortion is legal. if not possible, give it up for adoption.

[gothbxtch]

for real 😭 there’s a lot of republican bullshit on this site in general

[Cuminginside]

Maybe they both need to learn to keep it in their pants but that's just me.

[chicken_nugget24]

She will go out of state or risk her life with an illegal abortion

[Anonymous]

There are about a thousand companies that will take her out of state and pay for it.

[Asker]

I can't afford to go to another state, to pay for it

[Opinion Owner]

Awesome. lol

[Asker]

Thanks?

Also, they making it so you can't anyway, it would be illegal to

[chicken_nugget24]

Please don't risk an illegal abortion then. The whole anti abortion law is ridiculous

[Opinion Owner]

@chicken_nugget24

Illegal? lol

[Asker]

@chicken_nugget24 That's my point hun. Republicucks, are fucking douche bags

[Opinion Owner]

Abortions are free. lol

[chicken_nugget24]

Abortions are illegal or limited in most states in the US now @pink anon

[Opinion Owner]

@chicken_nugget24

Is English your second language? What's with you people.

[chicken_nugget24]

Yes. Actually it is. But you have to pay for abortions in the US

[Opinion Owner]

@chicken_nugget24

You're not an American and English is not your first language. Abortions are 100% free. Did you miss the part where I told you that a thousand companies will drive you to an abortion state and pay for all of it? Do you even know how to Google?

[chicken_nugget24]

It's free with insurance lmao

[Asker]

It's illegal to go to states, or they're trying to make it illegal. At least texas is. And no, abortions are not free

[Asker]

Not anymore

[Asker]

www.kff.org/.../

[Opinion Owner]

@chicken_nugget24

All Americans know that abortions are free.
A thousand companies will pay for them. LOL
How is it possible you as an "American" doesn't know this?

[Asker]

I'm an American, and no insurance doesn't HAVE to pay for abortions

And no, they're not free

If having kids, isn't free, aborting them certainly wouldn't be

How are you this dumb

[Opinion Owner]

You win. Companies don't pay for abortions.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

Googling is very hard for some. You're right.

[chicken_nugget24]

@Pink anon I'm not American. And u need to apologise please

[Anonymous]

You can go to another state or have the child.

[Asker]

I can't afford to go to another state to have an abortion

[Opinion Owner]

Then wear a condom or make sure she's on birth control.
Look I understand why you just rather cum inside. I'm a guy that does with girlfriend. But she's fixed. You gotta grow up and take responsibility.

[Asker]

That's besides the point
BC fails, and maybe she doesn't want to do it.

If I don't want a kid, i shouldn't have to have one. Republicans are coming after both, as well

POINT BLANK

[Opinion Owner]

Then get a vasectomy

[Asker]

I shouldn't have to modify myself, to prevent kids

That's called CONTROL

[Opinion Owner]

You will always cum. So wear condoms or she needs bc.

[Asker]

That's my point. You can't trust both

[Opinion Owner]

Have to trust one or the other or both. If not, never have sex or again.

[Cuminginside]

The control is interesting point that's why they want us to do maybe it's time for you find another girlfriend if you do not trust her to come inside her then find someone you can trust.

[exitseven]

You start thinking up baby names.

[Jazzy54]

Yes, adoption is definitely an option.

[Anonymous]

You have the baby and raise the child.

[Asker]

so i should be forced to have the kid against my will, even though im a guy?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah. Be a man. Take responsibility for your offspring.

[Asker]

right, and im sure you're doing the same with yours?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. Yes I am.

[Opinion Owner]

Just go get a vasectomy if you’re so worried about the horrors of parenting.

[SmokinAces2000]

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