How is it so easy for men to turn off emotions?

Ever watch MMA? A lot of fighters say that the fight is won during the 3 weeks prior to the fight and won or loss in the stare down. One of GSP's (a great fighter) criticism was that he was never emotionally prepared for fights.

Your Boyfriend just wasn't emotionally ready for the big fight, if you go in with doubts and fears then you aren't going to be able to last.

There's really nothing left to be said or analyzed, just mend the heart.

It is hard to imagine but one of the main problems between male and female responses is that we all seem to have an ideal reaction which may or may not reflect others reactions. There are many non expressed things happening in all people, but one of the larger problems happening today in the relationship arena is that women expect men to react like women. On the same note guys do not like it when women continue exasperating their emotions through words. There is a definitive line between effectively communicating and simply talking a lot. Pop culture seems to confuse the over expression of emotion to be a universal standard. There is no reason to repetitively become a victim of one's own emotions.

In your defense as many guys will eventually confess is that he obviously cared about you or else he would not have invested time in you and he most likely cared very much despite the nonverbal response which you would like (because it is your ideal form of expression not his). The hug he gave you (specifics aside) is most likely a facet of him still caring about you as a person. He got to know you and the sight/sound of you crying, or the thought of someone he cared about in distress might prompt a hug, (and a genuine one at that).
That hug seems not to represent the fact he has deep yearning feelings for you, but may indicate you have touched him in such a way that you have lost a boyfriend, but that hug was affirmation that you are a person worthy of comfort and he did have an emotional investment in you. It shows that he cares about your current mental status which indicates he found admirable qualities in you (they may not have been congruent with his ideal).


I had a friend in your position, and I reminded her that in order to make memories with him you had to first have the ability to make those memories. This means you still have that ability to make new memories, but you have the advantage of past experience to guide your new journeys.

It means what it says. Also, a hug is a hug. don't read into any of it.

As a guy when we grow up we are told buy every male we know not to cry or get emotional. But we do. I put on a show for everyone I know so they don't see it. Most likely that's what he is doing. As for you hang out with friends just try not to think about it. But if you do think about it. Cry be sad. But don't let it fester in side of you. I can only imagine what your going throw. I am truly sorry.

It will get easier and you know it will. If someone feels something they feel it regardless if they hide it or not. I was taught early on to "never let them see you sweat". I was taught no matter what I did in private, in the outside world be a wall and never show your pain. It is a defense mechanism and doesn't mean that our emotions are turned off.

Hes just trying to prove to you that he is better off without you. He is "showing off". Sorry for your loss but he's just trying to prove something to himself. And he probably does care, but he doesn't show it. Or that's how I think

Here's a little something I've been taught in school, men are just as emotional as women but men suppress those emotions or display them differently.

When a man gets angry at work, he's deemed passionate or too competitive.

For a women to cry or even become angry at work, she's deemed a bitch or too emotional.

It's the same thing except interpreted differently. He's going through emotion just like you but boys have been trained to suppress emotion all of most of our lives, we usually hide it for a private time.

Another key concept is that men are taught to think logically before emotionally. I know it wasn't until 3 weeks later before I opened myself to feel the pain my ex caused me.

How do we suppress it? It's just something we've been trained socially since we're young, it has it's advantages and disadvantages.

It's better you feel it now then bury it, only to have it boil over later.

Tips: I cursed her with my buddies while drinking excessively. *shurg worked for me.

ITS MAN PRIDE.
they're not so easy to let their emotions out because they're basically somewhat programmed not to wear their emotions on their sleeve.

Example: When a 5 year old boy is running around in the playground and he suddenly trips. Guess what his dad says? "Get up and don't cry. Its nothing" but if its a 5 year old girl that trips and hurts herself. Dad says "oh come here honey, its okay".

So basically. Women are conditioned to be emotional and to express it openly but men aren't. They have to conceal it to keep their ego and pride.

Let me start by saying I know where you're coming from when you say that all of your friends are married. I've been there and they'll try to comfort you by inviting you out or over, but it feels kind of weird now that you don't have your partner. My suggestions to you is to get out and meet new people. If you feel this is too hard to do then. You still have your baby girl. Do stuff with her. Take her to the park. The library. Amusement parks. Kid friendly restaurants like Chuck E Cheese(if available). Um just some suggestions. I know this is about your hurt, but I'm sure she'll appreciate it and her happiness will make you feel a lot better. Good Luck

He's feeling it I know that for a fact he's just not letting you see him all emotional. You see most guys are taught growing up that as men they are suppose to control their emotions and think logically and that is masculine. And him letting you see how he's really feeling isn't being manly. He's probably dealing with it by drinking and partying. He's just suppressing his emotions in public. LostandConfused just cry and mop let everything out right now! You'll get over this guy in no time

Trust me, he's feeling it. His partying is his way of trying to get over it. When I broke up with my last boyfriend I cried for weeks straight and we worked together so I had to see him constantly.

It seemed like he was fine when I would see him at work. He would go out to lunch with other chicks and everything and still try to talk to me like we were best friends. I found out a year down the road from a mutual friend that he confessed to her that that was a hard time for him and he still had feelings for me.

I agree with That-guy. Men suppress a lot of their emotions because their taught that is the right thing to do. Cry now and laugh later sweetie. You'll get through it, trust me. :)