He's shy like you said. If you want him to hung out next time, its easier to ask his closest friend to hung out then hints/tell his closest friend to ask the shy guy to hung out as well, If you want time alone with the shy guy then bring a friend and tell your friend to walk away with the shy guy's friend. Hope it make sense lol XD
Please don't take this directed exactly at you, because I have never seen you or know you. Just cause a guy is shy doesn't mean he is desperate. He still has a choice on who he wants to like and date. If he doesn't have the same feelings as the girl who asked him doesn't mean he is obligated to say yes. Same as if a shy girl got asked out by a guy she wasn't attracted to, she would say no like everyone else. I am not saying he doesn't want to be a friend, he just doesn't want to be anything more than that.
A shy guy would say no because he'd be afraid of how to communicate with you when you're hanging out. That's why we're shy, lol. It takes time to wear them down and get them confident enough around you to be willing to go "hang out".
Isn't that soo true! I gave exchanged numbers with this shy guy and called him first and he has yet to return my call! I know he likes me because he stares at me every chance he gets and I'm just like "dude, it's just a phone call! " I'm pretty much at the point of giving up. I've tried numerous times to connect with this guy and nothing. A girl can only put herself out there so much before she just starts assuming that " maybe you're just not into her. " LOL. - 6 months ago
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What type of things have you done to "try and connect" with this guy? When he stares do you make eye contact at all or does he look away and try to play it off? Because if he's pretending he wasn't looking you, then he's not ready to ask you out yet. You might have to ask him out. Or be extremely direct and just tell him if he asks you out, you won't say no. Its not conventional but if he's this shy. Lol
Wish the girl I was interested in was as clear as you are to this guy. Haha - 6 months ago
That is soo true see I ask out a shy guy and he was like not right now I am really bussy I mean that's true that he was but he was very nevous when he reponed and that was 3 weeks ago and I am stil confused lol
This exact thing happened to me and I agree with "Anonymous" there. I know he likes me but said no because he was nervous of how we'd be together just the two of us - how we'd interact etc. Which was completely unfounded in my opinion because we NEVER have ever run out of conversation. He's just a really nervous guy, on top of being shy. He prefers us to be together in a group first or in a different setting where the pressure is a little off like a concert. Seems a little childish to me to be honest (he's in his late 20's) but I have to respect that he's very shy and nervous. I'm very shy too and I would feel nervous just going out on a date with him - but I wouldn't care - it would be worth it in my eyes. It wouldn't stop me. I don't totally understand it but I know shy guys do it. He asked me out before to a festival day with him which is obviously more comfortable then just sitting alone with someone at a bar or whatever hoping you don't run out of conversation. At a festival it doesn't matter cos there's so much music going on. I guess it is more what they are comfortable with. Still quite frustrating though.
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