so, I've started 'seeing' this girl. on the surface she's the perfect 'take home to meet the parents' kinda girl. however she (like all of us) has her problems, but, she is a self harmer. now i made it clear to her when i found out that i couldn't date someone who self harms and made her promise me she would never do it again... so far she kept her word. she is a very anxious person who worries about everything, where as im generally a very laid back person but i feel myself getting more and more anxious by having to carefully select my words, facial expressions, tone of voice so that i dont make her anxious, so she doesn't get upset, sona really nice convo turns into me trying to cheer her up... its hard work that ashamedly i am just not up to. I've done a lot of soul searching and i realise my heart is not in the relationship like hers is. i know i need to break it off as its not fair to string her along... but i dont want her to cut because of me... other deets... we live in different countries and met whilst i was in her country, we speak for hours every day online and have done since i came home. she is planning to move here to be with me towards the end of this year and i was all for it but i just dont feel the same way anymore... no travel/move plans have taken place... just ideas so far.. so its not the fact of a big change looming nor is it a commitment issue. im really just not into the relationship as much as she is. so... in summery how do i break up with a girl that self harms whilst being 1000's of miles away not knowing her friends/family and not being able to keep a distant eye on her for her safety? we both deserve to be happy... this just isn't THAT relationship.
How to end a relationship with a self harming girlfriend?
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