You deserve respect. It's not high maintenance or too much to ask to be respected.
This take is for the women who have ever felt inferior or mistreated in a relationship.
People find themselves treated in ways they don't like because:
-On occasion, they receive the love they want, and they put up with poor behavior the rest of the time to get a crumb of love at some point in the future
-Their self-esteem is so low, they feel (consciously or subconsciously) that this is "all" they deserve
Know your worth
Don't let someone step all over you because you think you can't do better. You can. No matter how inferior you think you are. If someone is ignoring you, taking your kindness, love, and affection for granted, then it's time you take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship.
I was in a toxic relationship for too long. Kept convincing myself that they were "the one", that sometimes, yeah, they mistreated me, but that the passionate "love" would make up for it. I kept thinking they were out of my league, that I would never find anyone as great as them, and that I would never have that kind of chemistry/connection with anyone. For this reason I found myself forgiving them over and over and over again. I kept brushing off mistreatment, and blatant cheating. I kept thinking:
"If I just try harder, they will eventually love me the same way."
But one day, they just said something a certain way and it felt as if the lights were turned on. I saw them for who they really were. I was no longer blinded by my own thoughts, my brain no longer fogged by my low self esteem. All I saw was truth.
Every girl has that one guy she goes back to, heartbreak after heartbreak, and nobody knows why, not even her. And she just can't let go."
I know this message won't get across to the girls who currently have these problems. In order to really understand they must go through their own moment of enlightenment.
My advice for young women who are entering the dating world
1. Know yourself before entering a relationship.
You have opinions. You have convictions. You have morals.
Don't let him change your character. Don't forget who you are and what you stand for.
Don't change your way of being just so he can like you better.
Example) I did a lot of things I was uncomfortable with in hopes that he would like me
(Sex in public, sex in his workplace, sending him naked pictures, sexual things I did not enjoy)
I changed my morals and my beliefs for him. This is the worst thing you can do because you start to lose yourself. Hold on to your personality and don't change for him.
2. Work on yourself before entering a relationship
Many abusive relationships are due to codependency. Codependency is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner. (I'M TALKING ABOUT YOU, NEEDY PEOPLE)
Work on becoming a self sufficient, independent human being who needs no one but themselves to feel content and complete. Treat relationships as an addition, not the core to your life.
3. Have a life
One way to be a well rounded emotionally independent person is to HAVE A LIFE! What does this mean? It means don't make your partner the center of your life. Have hobbies, have interests, specialize in something. Obtain a craft or master the art of something. Have friends, have a job, focus on your education, focus on improving yourself. Have goals. If you go into a relationship having no life, chances are the relationship will consume you and it will be unhealthy. Plus, nobody likes having a relationship with someone who has no hobbies. They will get bored of you because you have no life/personality. You need to have a life outside of your partner.
4. It's really important to have friends.
Entering the adult world, some of us experience an intense loneliness. Sometimes this loneliess leads us into the arms of the wrong person and the wrong relationship. People settle, people sleep around, people make giant mistakes, all because they are lonely and have no one to talk to.
Don't enter a relationship out of loneliness. This is why it's really important to have friends. Most of the time we seek sexual relationships when what we really want is companionship. Someone to care about us, love us, and hang out with us. People who just want sex and people who just want love, don't mix. If a person tells you they just want sex, be honest with yourself and them and don't agree to something in hopes you can change their mind. It won't happen.
Don't beg for someone's love. You have a choice.