Guys, do you ever regret acting like a jerk?

[Anonymous]

Guys, have you ever regrettet acting like a total jerk towards a girl/girls?
If she was nice, cute, friendly etc. , what drove you to acting cold, distant etc. (jerk behaviour)?

[Bob5555]

Yup. Had a few incidents like this. I feel bad about it now but honestly most of it was usually a knee jerk reaction to something else. There was this one girl I was friends with for years. She was pretty cool. We'd talk about our relationships/sex, funny shit etc . Nothing was really taboo so it was pretty educational actually. Anyways, eventually of course we had sex. Everything was cool after that at first and we just went about like usual. This went on for a couple of months. One day I was on the phone with her and she was telling me about some guy she slept with the other night and how awful it was, 2 pump chump, etc ... we were both laughing about it but I couldn't help that it actually kind of bothered me. Like I was genuinely surprised that it bothered me and I couldn't believe I was actually kind of angry about it. Of course, I never mentioned any of it to her or anything and I think I played it off pretty well that I wasn't bothered. I started to distance myself though. Not completely jerk wise I don't think. Just not be as quick to answer calls\texts. Not as available to hang out as much. Stuff like that. Finally, there was one day I hadn't seen her in a while and called her up, asked if she wanted to hang out. She said no which she hardly ever said no unless there was something really important going on so I asked why not. She just said she didn't think it was a good idea. Well, that set me off. So we got into this stupid argument. She was mad too and asked if I'd just gotten into the friendship so I could have sex with her. Being the dumbass that I am and how angry I was about her sleeping with someone else and now this shit I said yes. That was the reason behind being friends with her. So, yeah we never talked again after that. Sucks too. Wish I would've handled that a lot better.

[Asker]

Did you ever try to apologize?

[Bob5555]

Thanks for BA! No I never got the chance. I wanted to but there was a long period of time where I felt trying to stay in touch would do more harm than good. Trying to track her down now and talking to her would just seem creepy now. Oh well, you live and learn :P

[Asker]

Just do it! No risk no fun, lol. No, seriously, I think she would be happy to hear from you :)

[Anonymous]

Yes, I was the only guy in a class of several people, on an out-of country trip. The whole time I heard about how bad this or that type of person was. One girl would make instigating remarks all the time, little sarcastic jabs or just disagreeing with whatever I said, and never addressing me directly, turning away to speak.

Eventually I got fed up after one remark and pointed these things out to her.

I regret doing it, but more than that I regret ever signing up for that class. It left me with a bad impression of college.

[honeyltsme]

I was ungrateful in a couple of cases - I do cringe thinking back about those things.

I'd bullied a person on a few occasions and I regret having done that.

Other than that, I regret trying to be too nice, esp to the opposite sex - they seemed to prefer guys who were trouble and who did not respect them at all.

[Vish123]

Some guys do, some don't. It really depends on the type of the person he is, if the guy in question is moody no it won't bother him as much as it'd bother the consistent social guy.

[Thatguy321]

I never act like a jerk to a girl like that, and Even if he wasn't nice to me, i usually always take the high road

[Asker]

good one

[Thatguy321]

I know

[PowerpuffJohnnyBravo]

There was this chick that used to stalk me at practice. She was hot...and austrian. I moved thing up a little but then she told me she wanna "wait till marriage"

[Lukepritchard706]

Yup I called her the c word shee was being one and even though she was being mean I totally regret it

[Asker]

I understand it if someone is a b***/a c***. Have you ever done it to a girl that was nice?

[Lukepritchard706]

Oh she was nice just being a c***

[Asker]

I don't get it (probably because I'm a girl :P)
You mean she pretended to be nice? I think that's a difference

[Lukepritchard706]

I overated I am prone to calling women that word when I am angry? Like my mom and my sister

[Lukepritchard706]

Overacted

[Phoenix98]

I never act like a jerk so I have nothing to regret.

[llorando]

No, as I don't act like a jerk to girls, at least I don't try/mean to.

[Anonymous]

you see all this time I've been quite friendly to be honest but I've always received jerk behaviour which I didn't understand why

[Asker]

what is jerk behaviour according to you?

[Opinion Owner]

rude language, game playing, not meeting up at said location, tons of stuff

[Asker]

either insecure people or assholes/b****
They probably can't deal with kindness? lol
I've also received a lot of jerk behaviour even though I was nice, which left me wondering why lol

[Modernman2006]

Oh yeah, I burned bridges with women.

[Asker]

why did you do it then?

[Modernman2006]

Because back then, I was inexperienced with women. Cause me to do mean things and/or say some things I can't take back. I didn't always lead a normal life like everyone else. I was sheltered from life, until I was 18. Ran away to the Army became someone different. Came back a changed man and something better, learned from my mistakes. But that's life, I have no regrets except one girl. Maybe someday I could make it up or maybe it doesn't matter anymore.

[Asker]

you should try

[Argus14]

Nope. Never regretted being a jerk to a girl.

[Yang-gwang]

Yes all the time not just to women but everyone.

[VENOMMM]

no , no i dont.

[Asker]

why not?

[VENOMMM]

because whoever i was a jerk to , deserved it.

[Asker]

that person was a jerk too, lol?

[VENOMMM]

probably lol either way the deserved it