Long term boyfriend wants to see other women...Need Advice!!
I've gotten a lot of feed back from girl friends, and although I would love some female feed back, I would really appreciate the feed back of guys.
So here's the info, bare with me on this:
Situation = My long term boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for two years exclusively. I live in Colorado and he lived in New Mexico. We saw one another every month and spent holidays together and summers together.
A month ago he moved to California for graduate school. Last week he asked me if he could see other women because 1.) his school in NM was nearly an all boy school and he feels robbed of the general dating experience and 2.) because he wants to make sure that I'm really the one for him while I finish my last semester at school and 3.) He misses female contact.
He promises that this situation in only temporary while I'm in Colorado, that our relationship will be more serious and exclusive once I move out there, that there will be no sex with these other relations (although kissing isn't out of the question), that he will disclose all details of the dates with me, and that he will inform the women (eventually) that he has a girlfriend. He also says I'm free to date as well.
Issue = I don't like this.
I have been loyal to a fault in the relationship, given 100% and bent over backwards for his happiness. He's asked so much of me in the way of cooking, cleaning, the way I dress (practically domestication before I drew a line in the sand). I have never cheated, never wavered, and have been there for him when ever he's needed me. I'm not the kind of person who can half-ass it in a relationship and I would drive all night if he were ever in trouble.
On top of that, he says that if I wasn't willing to compromise with him on seeing other women that he would resent me and possibly break up with me. That sounds like an ultimatum no matter how you slice it.
He asked me to start seeing other women a week ago and I agreed for the time being. Yesterday he went out on a date with a girl and asked her for a second date without telling her about me and I had a little stress break down with him on the phone. I HATE this!
Question: His logic makes sense the way he describes it, but my insides are screaming foul. What do I do? Am I "over reacting" as he puts it, or am I lying to myself? Is this a typical thing men, specifically young men at 22, need to figure out or am I being played?
What's Your Opinion?