Is it stupid that Im still a virgin? do guys like virgins or is it stupid that I don't have much experience... Should I tell the guy I date? It's making me so insecure.. Im dating a guy 5 years older than me and yes it's legal here so please don't post stupid comments. I think he's experienced.. thats what making me so nervous to tell him I'm still a virgin.
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In terms of whether or not to tell him, Id say thats totally up to you. I didn't lose my virginity until i was 19, and while id hooked up with guys and done pretty much everything els, I was apprehensive about having sex i think mostly because i saw how most of my friends were treated like such dog shit by so many guys. And at the same time, being a virgin still made me feel kind of left out and like there was this disconnect between me and the rest of the non-virgin world, that there was something basic about the people around me that i just didn't relate to. Sure I was overdramatizing that in my head, but at the same time, in a way I was. Anyway my point it, there are good and bad points to the whole virgin thing, certainly even more than I covered here. And I totally understand if you dont want to tell him, and also if you do. To some guys the virgin thing would make you special, in a way itd sort of make you less disposable to him i think. however to other guys the virigin association seems to make them feel a lot of pressure because they assume that means you'll expect a lot from them in the relationship and/or be clingy, which can scare some guys away. Id say just do whatever makes you feel most comfortable given your particular situation. For me, I didn't tell the guy i lost my virginity to that i was a virgin and im glad i didnt. The reason that was best in my case was that i lost my virginity because i was in a place in my life when i was more secure in myself and i felt ready to just do it and quit making such a big deal out of it. I think if id told him, that wouldve made the whole thing a big deal, which is exactly what i didn't want. I think by not telling him, I could actually enjoy myself a little because i wasn't so anxious or building the situation up in my mind. But if you're losing it b/c you r in love & not for strictly personal reasons maybe its best to share w/ him :)0
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