How to refuse to send nudes?

The guy that I've been seeing for a couple of weeks asked me to send him nudes. We've never been on a date, and we only made out once. I think it's really too early. My friend called me a prude for thinking this way. Am I being too prudish? And how can I politely refuse without losing him (I really like him)? Thank you!


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Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't think he really is into your if he can't get that you guys have only been together for a minute and he's asking for nudes. I think he's more interested in the body than anything.

    And no you're not being a prude. It's good to see a girl that doesn't say okay, find something sexy, and take pictures to send first time asked. Really nice to see a girl with some class.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • first of all he's testing you, and it doesn't sound like he's too serious about you. Second of all what friend says that? do not send him nuds if you're serious about him/wanting something more then a casual relationship

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What Guys Said 19

  • No you are not being prude. You are being reasonable. Honestly, you should tell him so he understands you have boundaries and he should respect that. The fact that he is doing what he is doing and calling you prude tells me that you should think real hard about whether or not you "like" him cause he sounds like an ass to me. I'd never think to as someone for nudes before I've ever taken her out on a date and I sure as hell wouldn't start pressuring her by calling her prude. The boy needs a smack down.

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  • Tell him that each time he asks for nudes he is pushing the day you'll first have sex with by a month.

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  • Don't do it ever. Tell him no you don't do that. If he loses interest then you know that's all he wanted

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  • You can't. There's no way to refuse them. You have to send them. It is your destiny.
    *plays Star Wars music in the background*

    But seriously. Just tell him you're not sending any. Letting him know that you feel uncomfortable (and aren't going to feel more comfortable by him "wooing you") by taking them at this point in your relationship is all you really need to do. If he's not okay with that, then let him know you're not okay with the relationship. Simple as that.

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  • "There's only one way you'll ever see me naked and that's in person."

    Sending nude pictures of yourself has to be the dumbest things you can possibly do. It can be copied and shared easily.

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  • If you're not ready for nude-sending, don't do it. Just tell him not yet for whatever reason.

    After all, he has his imagination.

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  • Let's see: shouldn't it be him the one who got worried about losing you when asking for nudes? Newsflash: he doesn't give a damn about you. Have some self respect and get that garbage out of your life.

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  • Just tell him"if you are a good boy you might get them eventually" this is neither no or yes but more like a "maybe latter" this will keep him expecting them while giving you more time to feel ready

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  • Saying "No" is all you have to do.

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  • you tell him I am not ready yet, or say no

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  • Just say no! Just say no!! Just say No!!

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  • Directly scold him, its not always good to send nudes.

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  • Just tell him you're not ready to send explicit pics yet. He should respect that.

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  • Say no that's weird if you give in because you like him your life's gonna be a living hell

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  • just say no, you don't send nudes. If he respects you he'll respect your decision

    don't say its too early or not yet as you're giving him the likelihood that you will in future so he'll only keep pestering you for when are you going to send some.

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  • doesn't matter what we say. i can tell you're gonna send him nudes anyway.

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  • Just say that's something you have no interest in doing. it should be as simple as that. If he persists well then just stop talking to him.

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  • Tell him he's gotta put a ring on it :)

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What Girls Said 16

  • That's not being "prudish" at all. You have every right to not want to send nudes and it's kind of concerning to me that your so-called friend would shame you for not doing it. If you're not comfortable with it then don't. All you have to do is tell this guy that you aren't ready for that and don't feel comfortable sending nude photos of yourself. If he has any ounce of respect for you, then he will not pressure you to do it or leave you just because of that.

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  • Just say no. If he's so demanding that you lose him just because it would make you feel uncomfortable to send him nudes, then why would you want him anyway?

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  • It isn't being a prude, it's respecting yourself. I don't agree with nudes because of all of the risks personally. You should say this: "I like you and I look forward to getting to know you, but before we do that, you have to know that I am NOT that girl. I am not into that and I'm not easy, so be prepared for that if you want this to become something more. I'd appreciate it if you didn't ask me for that again."

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  • Your not being a prude at all. Your not ready so don't send them. If he's an awesome guy he will understand and not ask anymore. If when you tell him you don't want to and he leaves. That means he wasn't good to begin with.

    Just straight up say your not ready to send any nudes.

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  • "I don't send nudes, sorry". It's your choice, If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. He can't force you to do anything you don't want to.

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  • Just say, "I'm on my period and afraid blood will get everywhere" or something :P seriously, if you dont want to send nudes, you dont have to

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  • Don't do it. And if he can't handle that, don't waste your time on him. Even if he gives you the "Oh, if you love me you will send me nudes" bullshit.

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  • Your body = YOUR choice = Other peoples opinions shouldn't EVER matter.

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  • Tell him your not ready, or "too early". If he can't accept that, i think he is into your body more then your personality

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  • say no its to early for that

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  • stop liking him, he only likes you for your body nothing more forget about him, i'm sorry

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  • Say no ----------

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  • Just tell him you're not comfortable giving out nudes to him right now. He should respect your decision. It's understandable not to trust a guy with your nudes, because he can show it off to his friends or on the internet.

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  • Just say no! You don't have to give him a reason for refusing to send nudes. Just say that you don't feel comfortable with it, and if he's worth your time, he should understand

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