Tinder Example: I'll match with someone on tinder, send a message, but then they won't answer... Yet they stay on my matched list? Wtf?
POF Example: Well this one, barely any girls reply and if they do, the convo lasts a few responses, then they disappear. Wtf? Then you try sending them another message a few days later and they dont respond wtf is that?
Another example: Some women gave me her number off POF. We texted that evening then she didn't respond. 2 days later says she had dropped her phone in the sink and left her phone in a bag of rice. I replied, she didn't. I text her 2 days later and no reply. Wtf
Well, with dating sites I'll only answer some guys back. I get an overwhelming amount of messages daily/nightly. I try to answer those that seem legit, like took time to read my profile and asked about something I wrote. I don't respond to the ones asking for sex. If I have been talking back and forth for a bit, and the guy doesn't seem like a good match, I'll let him know it's not working, I don't stop communicating. Something like
"Hi, [name]. You're a nice guy, but I'm just not feeling it. I wish you the best of luck." and usually have gotten mature respectable responses.
If they aren't answering back, they may be talking to other guys more and you just didn't keep their attention I'm afraid. Keep trying, though.
When I do that it's often a indication that someone else has caught my attention and I'm not so focused on a person that I'm not even interested in others at that point. Also sometimes I read through the profile again and realize it's maybe not such a good match.
My app doesn't tell me when I have a new message so I can forget about Tinder for days before I decide to go on it to check (most have unmatched then). So that's a major reason. I don't know why a girl wouldn't reply if she's matched with you. Maybe she doesn't use the app any more, she's not interested in you any more and she's too nice to tell you or your message has been lost.
The girl you're texting now may genuinely have damaged her phone and is unable to reply or she's no longer interested but maybe give her the benefit of the doubt.
I hat ewhen people act like that in general I think many people are just too much don't give a fuck to give a person a straight out no caue it might make them feel bad so they go with that method, pretend it didn't happen, ignore, forget, oblivion sometimes a lot of people just don't know what they want
A lot of girls tend to swipe right on 'eh he'll pass' or 'cute, but not my usual type' guys as well as 'definitely my type' guys. So that's why they selectively message; there's a sort of hierarchy (in terms of priority) in their match list. Also, some girls especially the attractive ones, get messaged a lot, and therefore cannot possibly reply to all their messages and some go unnoticed accidentally.
Sorry if this sounded harsh, the balls now in the girls' court, and you better just move onto the next pretty girl!
I had a guy ask me this on POF once - why was I stalling about going out when we had a good conversation online. The honest answer was 'cause I was deluged with messages and a number of the guys seemed interesting enough to go on a first date, but I can't fit five first dates a week into my schedule, right? So if there are ten different guys I'm talking to online, somebody's got to be at least two weeks in the future. This sounds harsh, I know, but the only way I know to avoid it is to reject more guys at the first messages... For the record, he got mad and told me he was done talking to me, and I guess what he really wanted was that he was the only (or most) interesting guy on the whole millions-of-men site, and I get why he'd want that (even though I'm certain I'm not the only woman he was talking to), but you know so little about a person after three Plenty of Fish messages
go out and meet someone don't use apps or anything
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Blame it on other guys, it honestly sucks. Since guys generally prefer the hotter girl, an attractive girl would get more messages. Since guys are generally more driven by their egos then their looks, even if they are in the bottom 20% of guys looks wise, they will still try to get with a girl who might be in the top 20% looks wise. Therefore you get this effect that 80% of guys are messaging 20% of girls, so the obviously attractive girls are getting 80% of the messages because they are attractive and every guy wants them. Not only does this make it frustrating for guys because every other guy also wants the girl, it also leaves out not so attractive girls who might only get messages from creepers who are all alone and just want sex. So as a guy, if you are messaged on tinder you think its a big deal because women dont message that often (why should they message you if they have 10 messages in their inbox, 5 of which are from guys just as attractive as you (assuming your average)), but to women if they receive a message from a guy, its not a big deal because it happens every day, they just kinda file it away. Honestly some guys are just so stupid, they are almost like animals. Just go online and pretend to be a girl and see how many sad virgins message you, heck, make a tinder account as a girl and you will see what I mean when I say girls get a TON of messages. Its sick, I wish guys weren't so annoying in that regard.
Women get bombarded with messages on dating sites. It's pretty sad, actually. And if you want to understand it for yourself, completely, then create a female profile and watch.
Women often stop checking their messages because they get so many that it's ridiculous to try and keep up. So don't take it personally, but they literally get bombarded with 20+ messages per day if they're active.
I created a profile, made one semi-sexual comment, and within an hour I had over 100 responses. That was on PoF, Whisper, and Meetme. It's pretty sad, actually.
Girls have many more options than guys. Probably more than they can handle. If she had to react to every guy she would not have time for other basic stuff like eating and sleeping. It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like you. She may not have had time to react yet or she might not have decided yet or she might not like you or she might like somebody else more.
Just accept it, be patient and in the meantime keep swiping. You may find somebody you like better than her.
Maybe your opening message sucks. Maybe they weren't that into you. Maybe some other guy has beaten you to it.
I know how you feel. It seems like nothing you say or do works, even with girls you seem to have a lot in common with. Eventually I learned to not be bothered by it and move on with my life. Tinder especially, the conversation died before it even got going in 90% of cases, which was infuriating at first given I'd swipe right and be immediately told they'd already swiped right for me.
If something isn't working, you have to change what you do. Best thing I learnt from online dating is make the 1st message short and simple. You don't have to win her over, sounding like the funniest guy with the best job from message one. You just have to say a basic hello like you would someone IRL and mention something in her profile.
The first message is hard but once she responds, conversation usually comes easy. When I first started I was lucky to get 1 response per week I sucked that bad trying too hard, giving away my life story and asking too much about her. I'm not the prettiest guy, but now if I so wished, I could get 5 responses per day. Which still isn't heaps, but more than enough to start getting some dating options.
Try a different approach and you will get there. All the best ☺
It's frustrating but it happens. I imagine it's because they either are busier talking to ones they're more interested in or they accidentally swiped, which I have done as well. What's worse is when you start talking to a tinder match or someone on a dating site and you ask them a question and they flat out ignore you for whatever reason.
No idea, it's really competitive on those dating sites though. You have to imagine how many messages the more attractive women receive in a day. Being an ugly guy, or an ugly girl on a dating site makes it much harder to find someone. Dating is mostly based on looks, personality comes second.