Ok I'm 60 kg wanted to get to 50. I used to have an eating disorder so I don't like being controlled about food at all.
Boyfriend came to visit today to find out that I'd been water fasting for 4 days now. I was happy cos of the weight loss, but I had a high fever cos of toxins being released.
He said eat or he'll break up and he made me eat a massive sandwich, smoothie and chicken. I am mad because it is my own body, I need to lose weight and tone up for myself and for the relationship, I've been stressed recently because a few other girls have been hitting on him. Then he makes me eat and wastes my efforts?
I friggin feel so helpless right now. Help!!!
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I'm sorry but if you feel you need to lose weight to save the relationship, well it sounds like you may still have an eating disorder. They don't really go away, you just learn new techniques on how to live with disordered eating. It's not like a light switch where you can just turn it off. There are always going to be things that trigger you (like stress) and you have to find tools and tricks to deal with those things.
It's not right of him to try and force you to eat. Forcing is not really helping the problem, it's only going to make you want to fast more. The best way is to find someone who you trust to talk about this. The best would be to talk to a professional.
The problem is you reacted to your boyfriend getting hit on by thinking it means you need to do something to prevent him from leaving. In your head, that meant losing weight. But it sounds like he's happy with you as you are, or else he wouldn't be with you. But that's the problem with having an eating disorder, it's hard to see these things.
I totally get the worry he will leave. I've been anxious in past relationships because I'm a bigger person and I always feel like I'm not good enough. But the thing is, we are all good enough. We just have to ignore those voices in our heads that tell us we're not.
I would seek out some help. There is nothing wrong with being healthy and wanting to be fit. But not eating for 4 days isn't healthy and it's not a sustainable way to keep weight off. You're body needs nutrition.1