What kind of guy is this--is he an abuser? we first met and he wanted to hang every single day. Then, one day he got weird and sort of controlling and decided to not go to any restaurants we agreed on and just took me home. Saturday, he said his dad had to go to the hospital.. right when we were supposed to meet. It was obvious he was lying. He said he'd text later but never did. He did in the morning. I was upset and asked him if it was true. So he goes from hanging out all the time to standing me up.. then threatened to stop talking to me when i confronted him.
He admitted he was sexually frustrated. We talk again and even get intimate one day. Again on the weekdays he wants to hang out all the time but we only did twice. Saturday comes around. We have plans, he even says how much he wants to see me and come earlier. Yes he didn't sleep that night I think, but at 6:30pm he disappears and at 11pm he texts me. He says he fell asleep and if he can come over now. I went out of town upset. He then asks if im going to see my ex--my ex who i haven't seen in a month who was a psycho.. it upset me... first he stood me up, then accuses me of seeing my ex.
he ruined my whole weekend twice- i did nothing except get upset.. he didn't see me Sunday then- he was still picking fights with me and said he went out of town with his brother in law. I was even more upset then. Apparently, on weekends he stands me up and thinks it's ok. Then he said "maybe we shouldn't talk anymore" i said thats a mature way of handling something. He's the one that harps on how he wants a relationship.. but he's lying manipulative worse, he's mia on the weekends and screws me over.. he even accused me of playing games. what kind of jerk is this... cheating? lying.. idiot crazy?
Guy has stood me up two weekends in a row?
What Guys Said 9
Pump your brakes gurl! Red flag red flag... you are heading for trouble someone who loves you does Not control you.…. that is a narcissist... if he truly upsets you and you feel anxious around him that is your inner voice saying whoa!!! Trust it ! If you feel that he can change express to him your issue judge his actions does he change? Or does he continue his current behavior? As I always vote Love I want people to find their match but being hurt or disregarded is not Love... guys you too it isn't just a girl problem it's a world problem... Hugz people smiles as always... be kind and love one another...🍀🐶🍀1
Stop wasting your time and find someone else. If you have been stood up twice and then you have to say WTF... looks like red flags all over the place to me.
Some people are like that. I think they get off knowing that you are waiting for them someplace.0
I'm not sure if he's an abuser, but he does seem to be a loser. I don't know what bug he has up his ass, but you might want to avoid him for the time being.0
He sounds like a roller coaster... why bother! Unless you are just looking for a ride? LOL1
If you want him let him make all the effort in contacting you. Make him work for you attention. He might appreciate you. Otherwise move on to someone that will treat you better.1
This matters why? Move on with life.0
he's a crazy idiot. fuck that loser.0
Sounds like he doing all the right things to give you those vagina tingles and keep you interested.
After all. A lot of you girls don't seem that receptive when guys stop playing stupid games and are direct and honest.
What Girls Said 10
He definitely sounds mentally unstable, and very possibly an abuser. I'd cut him out of your life cold turkey before he can cross the line from asshole to violent asshole.0
Drop him. I was in a situation kind of like this a while back. He's the one playing games and shit.1
Sounds like a douche bag0
He ain't worth it! Find a new guywwho isn't abusive0
He sounds like a lying jackass. Move on he may be crazy!0
Date other people. Or become otherwise busy for him.0
A few questions:
You tolerate all of this because you love him?
How old are you?
How old is he?
If you don't mind, which state/city do you live in?0
This is a guy who you need to stay away from. And I think you know that already. He is neither the boyfriend nor significant other nor any other kind of human being other than a manipulative jerk who by the way is a liar. Whether he is cheating or not is irrelevant because you are not seeing him in the first place. Please move on your better than this0