Guys, do you ever develop feelings later for someone you initially rejected?

[Anonymous]

Men, have you ever been asked out by a girl, rejected her, and then later on (after some time has passed, maybe months or even years) become attracted to her/interested in her?

I'm not talking about a situation where someone improves themselves such as losing weight etc. Assume other men already find this woman very attractive but she isn't your type.

She isn't a stranger either, you have known her for a couple of months and you are friends.

If any of you have experienced this I'd be interested to hear about it, feel free to comment below. Thanks :)

Yes

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I just want to see the results

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Thanks guys, these are really interesting answers so far :)

[ManOsteel8821]

Yes this happened to me once when I was younger, but I considered her more of a friend at the time like "one of the guys" but after I had rejected her "not in a mean way" I developed an attraction for her years later. But at that time we were in different times in our lives so nothing ever happened and now I have moved on and married. So I guess a part of me wishes that I had been more aggressive in my feelings. If your in a similar situation I would be persistent it's not always about attraction but sometimes where the guy is mentally does he consider you a friend more than a sexual option?

[Asker]

Thanks, I appreciate the advice, but I'm trying to put him behind me and move on. I'll just try to get over him and hopefully meet someone else.

I don't want to hope for something that might never happen, but I was just curious to know if it is possible.

I think so. I'm not sure but he has seen me wearing nice dresses etc. so I think I'm probably just not his type. He said he's focused on his career at the moment and not looking for anyone, but I think he just doesn't fancy me.

[matheus_mb]

No, it never happened. Well, I didn't have to actually reject a girl directly because none of them have actually asked me out, but I have already pretended I didn't understand the "advances" of some of them... and no regrets so far nor have I developed feelings later.

[Anonymous]

I have been there.. girl acted like she couldnt stand to be in the same room as me... I dropped it and after awhile she starts hitting me up asking how I'm doing. I thought why is she being nice NOW... unblocking me and everything... did she change her mind or using me for something? Now THAT is hard to discern as the behavior is all over the place.. she has a boyfriend and knows i like her

[Asker]

Thanks, I have heard of it happening to women too, but was actually asking if it happens to men.

[Anonymous]

even tho it was extremely rare to be approached by a girl, I never rejected any of them. but one time I was moving out of state, and a girl approached me and confessed her feelings, sadly I had to let her know I couldn't be with her, but I don't consider it rejection because if I wasn't moving I would of dated her.

[Blueeyes81]

If I turn you down there is little chance that I'd ever change my mind. Hasn't happened with the handful of women who I rejected and I don't ever see that changing.

[Asker]

Thanks, I'm like that too, just wondered if most men are the same.

[cddude]

no but i have had a girl that rejected me come back 6 months later telling me we should have dated the day she graduated...

[Asker]

Thanks, I've heard of it happening to women too, but I wanted to know if it happens to men.

[cddude]

yeah I've never had it happen to me. I've only had girls try to get me back.

[AlphaMale1]

Sort of like thinking the grass is greener on the other side then realizing you let a good one go. I have done it more than I care to think about...

[lucky1234567]

Practically, this can happen but only on one condition if the girl went to become very hot. If the looks of the girl are same then he might be looking her for sex only

[Asker]

Thanks for replying, but as I said in the question, she is already hot. A lot of guys fancy her except that one.

[lucky1234567]

Yes, it is possible then.

[Asker]

Thanks, that's interesting to know :)

[twotimestwo]

I have personally never had that happen, but I have heard of it happening to others.

[HarrisonWells]

I've never rejected anyone and have been rejected more times than I care to remember

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[scooogy]

Kind of, because I'd have felt bad for having rejected her for such dumb reasons

[Anonymous]

Yes, I've known my ex for few years before she managed to get me to go out with her. We've been together for 2 years untill she broke my heart (things change huh?).