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I got out of a long term relationship about 3 months ago. My ex girlfriend of 9 months decided to completely ghost me without warning. Deep down I knew our relationship had an expiration date and I was planning on talking to her about it (too many differences... age, culture, distance) but I sure as hell didn't want it to end that way.
Anyway I met my last two long term gfs on dating apps (1 year for one and 9 months for the other). I'm actually a good looking, athletic and have a successful career. However I'm also busy as hell, so the accessibility of dating apps is very seductive. And lets face it, it's less intimidating to get turned down on a dating app vs. walking up to girl in public and being shot down. I'm not afraid of the latter because I've been around when that used to be the only method.
So anyway I went straight back on the market after things fell apart with my ex... and I got slaughtered. I used dating apps nothing but flakes and freeloaders... and not all the shitty girls were young either (3 of them were in their 30s). I did have two quasi hookups (hands only) with two girls I didn't find that attractive... but I just wanted to do something. The final straw was when I went on 2nd date with an attractive brazilian girl (I'm american). Despite having an inexpensive yet textbook perfect first date (good convo, good kiss, she offered to pay half, etc) the 2nd date was a complete disaster. She turned out to be yet another spoiled, selfish freeloader.
Anyway I want to quit dating apps and do the real life thing again. But there are no available women at my work, hobbies or places I frequent (I love jazz). I guess I could try meetups or something. However even those were hit or miss. Where can a early 30 something find a decent woman when I have a BUSY schedule? Most of the women I date are in their 20s... but they are either hook up material (not complaining) or mooches. Sick of both... ESPECIALLY the latter. I want something real.
Anyway I met my last two long term gfs on dating apps (1 year for one and 9 months for the other). I'm actually a good looking, athletic and have a successful career. However I'm also busy as hell, so the accessibility of dating apps is very seductive. And lets face it, it's less intimidating to get turned down on a dating app vs. walking up to girl in public and being shot down. I'm not afraid of the latter because I've been around when that used to be the only method.
So anyway I went straight back on the market after things fell apart with my ex... and I got slaughtered. I used dating apps nothing but flakes and freeloaders... and not all the shitty girls were young either (3 of them were in their 30s). I did have two quasi hookups (hands only) with two girls I didn't find that attractive... but I just wanted to do something. The final straw was when I went on 2nd date with an attractive brazilian girl (I'm american). Despite having an inexpensive yet textbook perfect first date (good convo, good kiss, she offered to pay half, etc) the 2nd date was a complete disaster. She turned out to be yet another spoiled, selfish freeloader.
Anyway I want to quit dating apps and do the real life thing again. But there are no available women at my work, hobbies or places I frequent (I love jazz). I guess I could try meetups or something. However even those were hit or miss. Where can a early 30 something find a decent woman when I have a BUSY schedule? Most of the women I date are in their 20s... but they are either hook up material (not complaining) or mooches. Sick of both... ESPECIALLY the latter. I want something real.
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