I met a guy online a little over a month ago. I know, lame. I've never had a problem with meeting guys, or dating in real life, but me and this guy just seemed to "click".
Two nights ago, he drove two hours into town to meet me (I was touched and impressed). We drank beer, split a plate of food, flirted, and he asked where I would take him for our second date. "Great!", I thought. The date was going well. So well, that when we took a nice romantic stroll in the park, things got a little heavy.
We found a secluded bench and sat and talked for a little while, and found ourselves making out. I told him that I didn't usually do that kinda thing (I know every skank girl says that, but it's very true in my case), but I was obviously very attracted to him, and it seemed by the state of his pants that he wanted me, too. I stopped mid-kiss and told him that I couldn't keep fooling around with him until I at least knew his last name (so at least I wouldn't be fooling around with a COMPLETE stranger) He hesitantly told me. I don't know why he was so hesitant, but he did.
I told him my name and that I wouldn't be having sex with him on that date, or the second, or the third if he didn't already find me too easy to come back and date again. He said that I was definitely worth coming back for more, and that he expected nothing and thought nothing less of me.
Today I went to send him a thank you e-mail for the date (just the polite thing to do). First, I went to see his online profile, though (just curious!) and it was freakin' gone!
Why did he delete his online profile after meeting me? Does making out on the first date constitute as "easy"? Did I turn him off?
I really liked this guy, so it really upsets me that he no longer likes me because just because I didn't tell him "no".
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I think it could be two reasons.
1) He was just after sex. Some guys will say and do anything to get sex (including driving 2 hours). I once had a guy offer to fly cross country to sleep with me and he meant it. So there was nothing you could've done or said to keep this guy around for more than sex.
2) It wasn't you making out with him that did it, it was your explanation. I believe that you don't do that sort of thing often, but when you go into overtime to convince him of that then it seems fake. He's wondering why you're trying so hard to prove you're not easy, and it came across as fishy. He saw a little bit of your weaknesses when you told him you wouldn't be having sex on any of the other dates. It seemed like you were setting all these harsh rules because you felt vulnerable when he's just trying to enjoy a first date with a girl he barely knows.
I couldn't really tell you which one of the reasons it was. My instincts say the first one, as a guy who is interested in getting to know you would at least give you a chance to redeem yourself. I think he was just after the sex and when you told him there wouldn't be any for a while, he was on to the next.0