My ex leaves me messages but then never bothers to respond. What's up without that? He'll message me about something, I'll respond with something he could easily reply to but he simply doesn't bother. Is he wanting to talk to me or not? Before we where together he would do the same thing, he'd just stop talking. I don't get it. He'll often compliment me, like he sent me a message about a photo I was tagged in making a private joke and adding that I had a gorgeous smile. we've been apart for 3 months, I was the dumper. I realize this has been all over the place and rambling so I'm sorry haha. Anyway, what do you think?
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Well, it could really be a multitude of things.
Simplest answer could be that he is just generally flaky with his phone. Short and sweet. Maybe confront him in a "it makes me feel... when you do this..." so you set your self up for a little vulnerability but you can get an answer. He MAY not even realize he does it, or how it makes him feel.
Also, if you were the dumper it could be that he is trying to either build a friendship with you because he DOES like who you are, or he could be trying to rebuild your relationship but doesn't want to smother you with CONSTANT messaging. Men are fearful, and women can be confusing, and men are afraid of that fine line between smothering, and being too distant.
My guess would be that he still likes you. He wants to talk to you. But he doesn't want to get his hopes up too high. He doesn't want to be hurt/rejected. I hope this helps!