Same happened to me, I found brunette hair in the bathroom twice in the past 2 weeks and we just moved in together. I politely asked him about it, he kindly said he's not cheating and that he really doesn't know whose hair that is. Now, I sometimes shed hair and I understand how that could happen, at work, for example, it's enough to sit on a chair someone shed hair on and boom, it might as well stick to your pants and you can carry it home. I think you should only worry if you find a lot of hairs that seem to come from the same person, again and again. Otherwise, this hair thing could happen anytime, anywhere, without him cheating.
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follow your instinct.
my boyfriend before was like that too. I found blonde hair strands on his car. Obviously its not mine. I asked him whose hair was that. He said its from her mother.
I have big doubt because I could feel there's something wrong and I'm not at peace but i believed him since I didn't meet his mom yet and i trust him. I ignored my instinct.
The following day i met him coincidentally at walmart and he's together with his mother. His mom has black hair and too far from blonde.
Now I don't believe him anymore.
Lesson learned: to trust my instinct more than anyone else.
The real question you should ask yourself is do u trust ur man not to cheat? If u are having trouble trusting him not to cheat then maybe he isn't the guy for you. If there is no trust in a relationship then something is wrong. You will never be truly happy in your relationship if you are paranoid about him cheating whether its a feeling in your gut or finding a hair in the bed that isn't yours.
Could it have been his mom's or does he have any sisters? Does he have any female co-workers and maybe got the hair on his clothes and that's how it got in his room?
It's not good to just assume that someone is cheating based on something like that. It does seem like you're being a little paranoid in my honest opinion. That's not really strong evidence that he's doing anything wrong.
I read all your comments... And i really think that he is cheating or somehow that hair came in your house and landed on your bed... is there a balcony or a open window mear the bed? Cause sometimes the hair can fly off and land on your bed?
Now i tell you what.. plant a small camera in your room and catch him... cause that's the only way you can know if he is cheating...
Other wise you can't accuse him cause you got no proof..
And you shouldn't have shown him the hair... You could have taken it for a DNA examination...
Are you in college? If so, get the hair and take it to the Criminology department. Use gloves as it could be a pube (you know the hedges don't always get trimmed). Have them do a DNA extraction and run it through the database. It should be 48 hours. In the meantime, set up surveillance and pay someone to watch your boyfriend to see if anyone comes over that is female. After you get the results and with a week of watching the answer would be in: You're batshit insane. Relax and trust unless your instincts say otherwise.
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Don't start freaking out, it's weak. Instead, understand why would he cheat on you? I like my girl and I would never cheat on her. My girlfriend has no reasons to cheat on me because I don't give her any reason to do so. If he is doing it, understand that sooner or later he would already do it anyway and trying to fix him won't work. If he truly likes you, he would never do it. Keep looking for evidence and when you are absolutely sure about this, kick him in the balls and go away, unless he shows regret and willingness to not do it again (it's important to give a first chance), if it happens again, just leave the person
Here's an interesting little factoid for you. Under stress, folks typically do not use contracted speech when lying. "It's definitely your hair. You're too paranoid," has the ring of truth. "It is definitely your hair. You are too paranoid," is probably a lie. What were his exact words?
he could have just got a hair on him!
and than it fell on his bed or something
i think this could be evidence, if he has been acting strange on top of it, but he might not be cheating"Stop it. It's definitely your hair. You're too paranoid"
Few questions here. First, are those his exact words? Second, does he have a reason to call you paranoid? Have you been accusing him a lot lately?
"Shifting the blame" is a classic tactic used by abusers/cheaters. Making you feel like you're too paranoid/crazy is exactly what a cheater would do... but I don't know your entire story. Maybe you are truly paranoid? I don't know. Just have my facts in mind.Keep cool and put some hidden camera in your room :P
Although now it will be harder to check if he's actually cheating, since IF (I underline "IF") he's cheating, he'll be more careful now.
Well, unless he's an idiot.You need to stop watching csi
and the only thing that does as much damage as cheating... is accusations of cheating.It could be his friend's hair or his sister's or his mom's. Girl's hair gets everywhere so it could've just been on his clothes and fallen off when he lied down
Ill tell you my opinion by the way you acting I don't blame him for not answering your calls but it is weird he insisted it was your hair even though it wasn't but I wouldn't worry about it
basically u've gone 2 far in my opinion by examining her hair... but do whatever u want since he's your guy...;-)
Break up now because after your suspicions it's only going to get worse for the both of you.
Yup it's time to ope your legs to his best friend or his brother. Make him pay.
You've got to be fucking kidding me. He should dump your psycho ass before it's late!!!
He's cheating!! Break up with him!!! Do it now while you still have some crazy in you!!! Stalk the bitch and tear at her clothes!!! Infidelity!!!
Compare it with your hair for DNA analysis.
You need more evidence. That isn't conclusive.
It could be one of his family members hairs?
No, you're just being a crazy bitch.
Probably cheating.
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