Apparently I hit my best friend while drunk and I am so stressed out and ashamed of myself (will award MHO, bit long, sorry)?

[Anonymous]

I went out last night and apparently I was being horrible to my best mate but it just doesn't make sense to me. What she alleges I did is so uncharacteristic of me and nobody saw any of it either.
A large group of us went out and apparently I was calling her a slag and a slut which I remember because that's how we usually talk to each other, we insult each other like that a lot for the laughs. She claims I was being malicious though but I swear I wasn't. A friend of mine heard us doing this but he saw it as just banter.
She claims I slapped her, but I definitely don't remember that, in the past when I have done anything like that it was purely a joke and it's never been anywhere close to any sort of pain. Nobody saw this either.
She claims I kept pushing her when dancing but nobody saw that at all. I certainly don't remember doing that and if I did it was mostly down to it being crowded and just joking around. Everyone said I was in a great mood and I had no beef with her so I don't see why I would maliciously do that.
Then we went to another club and apparently I hit in her in the face because we had a spat. Now by this point I was gone and I have no recollection of leaving the club at all when I supposedly did this. Nobody saw this either but apparently I hit her and for the life of me I don't know why.
I really don't get what is going on? I've never hit anyone in my life, even when drunk. I don't see why I would hit her as she's my best mate by far and I have no motive too. Plus, everyone said I was happy and nobody saw me being violent at all.

[Mgoods]

I think for the most part, she probably misinterpreted your intent earlier on and then everything from then on, she interpreted as you being a cock- alcohol does that. Makes situations messy.

What you don't wanna do, is accuse her of lying, because you really km don't remember much about the end of the night- you might've done it jokingly, but she was already sour from earlier.

You should apologise that you upset her and assure her that you genuinely didn't mean her any harm and you never would, ever want to hurt her.

[Asker]

Yeah, I really didn't mean any harm. At no point in the night from what I remember was I ever angry with her so I think she's misinterpreted that part at the very least. Unfortunately, she got angry at me when I said maybe she misinterpreted it and accused me of being in denial and told me to fuck off.
I really can't imagine hurting, when she told me about the last part this afternoon I was shaking and on the verge of tears. I feel so awful, I would never ever want to hurt her.

[Mgoods]

Hey, thanks for MHO- I hope everything works out for you guys :)

[Asker]

Thanks, it has done. There were a lot of misunderstandings and it's cool now :)

[Anonymous]

It is hard to believe it happened if no one seen a change in your behavior. And if you wear being hurtful before the alleged slap why did she stick around. I wish I could help you more but to me it sounds like she s making it up maybe for attention I'm not sure.

[Asker]

I hope she is, but she hasn't told anyone. In fact, she mentioned nothing to anyone all night about it and everyone said she looked like she was having a great time. It just doesn't add up to me. I really don't get that nobody saw a change in my behaviour either, surely one person would have done but nobody did.

[Opinion Owner]

That is strange and you sound like a really nice guy and I can tell you really care for your friend. Alcohol can alter moods but normally it makes people relax not hit there friends.

[Asker]

Thanks, I just feel so ashamed though. She means so much to me and earlier in the night she said I was her best friend and now I have fucked it up but I don't get it because none of what she says adds up to me. I would never want to hurt her and I just want us to be back to normal, she means so much to me and I care about her deeply.
I sometimes can get a bit agitated when drinking too much but I've never hit anyone and I don't see why I would be mad at her.

[Opinion Owner]

Try talking to her again tell her you don't remember it and your sorry that you would never hurt her on purpose. I really hope things workout for you both of you cause everyone needs their best friend.

[Asker]

Thank you very much, I really hope so too. I sent her a message saying how sorry I was but she's not responded, just ignored me.

[Opinion Owner]

She may just need some time

[Asker]

Hopefully, I just want to be friends and back to normal.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand that I'm sorry your hurting hun.

[bryon]

Not making light of your situation brother but in all honesty I don't think it ever happened. With the crowd you mentioned hanging about there is NO way it happened without someone seeing something. The puzzling part is why would she say you did something so bad if you didn't , that makes no sense at all

[Asker]

That's what I don't get, why would she make it up? All of these incidents happened with no-one around and the insults one was most likely just a joke misinterpreted.

[bryon]

The odds of that many people around , yet so many things are said to have happened !! I don't know dude , something just isn't right

[Asker]

Yeah, it just doesn't quite add up. Not one person said anything about me being violent.

[bryon]

Don't be thinking you did something you didn't. I've got out of sorts drinking more than I care to recall but I would know it I got mad enough to hit someone

[Asker]

But what if I did though, I feel disgusted in myself and I'm just ashamed of myself right now.

[bryon]

It just not possable that no one saw such a thing. Being in a good mood that's just not the mind set of someone who assaulted someone