What's the best way to chase after a girl who just broke up ?

[flealancer]

Hi there guys,

There's this girl whom I knew for about 2.5years. A very sweet, witty & funny kinda girl.

About a week ago, she told me that she broke up with her boyfriend whom she said that she had wanted to marry & be together for the rest of the life.

However, the guy, asked for the breakup, citing that there was no more hope for the relationship to carry.

To be frank, I had feelings for her because she was the perfect girl to me. Okay let's put that aside.

So, I've been the one comforting and talking to her for the past 1 week, trying to convince her to move on slowly.

I know it's tough for her but I'm hoping that ex of hers will fade slowly.

3 days after breakup, suddenly, she smsed me that she's not ready for a relationship with me or anybody for now. She also said she doesn't want to lead me or disappoint me. She texted me at 4am & I was confused for a while.

So, few days back, we went for dinner after I asked her out as I thought we had never meet for a long time & perhaps, I could take her mind off considering she's been feeling so depressed for the 1 week.

While on my way back, she asked me to be frank with her if I did like her. And I admitted that I did like her before she had a boyfriend and still have feelings for her (I don't know if that was a good one to tell, however, I felt I had to be frank with her as she had requested). She asked, why I didn't tell her earlier but I just couldn't answer her.

Still, I have feelings for her but I know she's in a tough situation I have to give her time. But guys & girls, I need your help.

What's the best way to go for her since she just break up since she knows I still have feelings for her?

I hope you guys help me man. :)

[verychatty30]

ok I'm gonna try and help as much as I can ok.

right at the moment this girl still has feelings for her ex which is natural she's hurting and very confused and at the moment she needs a friend and sadly she looks to as that friend. it's gonna take time for her to forget about her ex but she will with time you just have to be patient have you ever heard the saying " good things come to those who wait".

ok when she asked you to be frank with her and you told her that you had feelings for her she was probably more confused the she was already as she has to have been thinking of you in a certian way to ask you that to begin with, unless of course she is very good at reading people and you wear your heart on your sleeve! which is not a bad thing.

your doing the right thing in giving her time to get over her ex and I also understand it's gonna be hard for you but just remember while you have feelings for this girl your willing to put them on hold for now so you can be there for her and I bet when she is over her ex and she will be soon she will turn to you.

i wish you good luck and I hope everything turns out the way you want it too

[flealancer]

Thanks for the advise.

now this girl it seems like she's getting confused.

she tells me she's deleted the ex's photos but the thing is, she still answers his calls.

just recently, I called her up when she was on another line and it was her ex.

her ex asked who called and it was me.

she told him she's moving on & seeing someone else (that's me)

and her ex-bf started saying he misses her.

what's wrong with the ex-bf ?

is he hindering her from moving ahead ?

[verychatty30]

It sounds as though her ex doesn't want her to move on so fast he doesn't wanna be with her and he sure as hell don't want her to be with anyone else but that's his problem not ur's the important thing is she is telling people that you are together just give her time and everythign will work out the way it's supposed too

[Anonymous]

I think you should start off by making sure you are NOT the re-bound. Unless all you want from her IS sex or a phsyical relationship. If not, I'd say to start off by trying to be her friend, and just support her through her breakup. After a couple weeks just ask her if she's over if, if not then a a month, or as much time as she needs. It doesn't hurt to hint that you like her, but don't make a move untill you are certain she's emotionaly ready to take your relationship seriously.