HELP!! I think I have a BROTHER-COMPLEX.. What should I do?

[Nonik]

I think I have a brother-complex with my 2nd big brother..
It's not that I attracted to him physically.. I just love his personality and characteristics..
It's because my 1st big brother is having some problems (related with money and his personality) so I tend to be closer with my 2nd brother..

When I was little, I didn't like him because he's always tease me and often make me cry with his tease..
But, as we grew up, I always have a good time when I'm with him because we always make jokes together; whenever, wherever..
I know that he's the one who can make me calm when I deal with my problem.. He help me with provide some choices that I can make..
And he's the only one who can make me re-think of my decision or what I've done when I did something wrong..
He looks so mature, full of responsibility and consideration, and he always try to make a diplomatic decision so it's a win-win solution for everyone..

He's married now and live a healthy-happily marriage.. He also be a good husband for his wife and a good father for his childrens (the very opposite from my 1st brother)..
I REALLY admire him and want to be like him..
But, the problem isn't only that..

Now when I'm attracted to someone, I'll try to find my 2nd brother's personality in him..
And I'm searching for a man with my 2nd brother's personality even though I know it's wrong and impossible..
What should I do then? I’m not planning to “move on” too.. It's like a "guilty pleasure" for me..

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Is there anyone experience the same thing?
How you deal with it?

[Anonymous]

I don't think its wrong just unrealistic if you are expecting to find someone exactly like your. Your brother has some good qualities though. I can see why you would want a guy like that.

Have I experienced the same thing?
Kind of. I don't really want a guy who has the personality of any of my brothers but I would like him to be able to fit in with them. Also all of my brothers are tall and skinny and I'm only attracted to tall and skinny guys.

[Yokoneko]

I have a loli complex
Lol we should hang out
And see if we can spark an anime series

[OlderAndWiser]

There is nothing wrong with appreciating good qualities in family members and looking for those same qualities in a potential mate. Just be sure that you are not looking for someone to take your brother's place in your life or someone who is exactly like your brother.

[detlef]

That's my answer too.

[KidanisCortes]

hmm most girls find guys with personlities close to their parent but you seem to do it with your brother, totally normal