Hot tub date night with another couple?

[MorganR1994]

This weekend my boyfriend and I are going to double date with a friend of mine and her boyfriend. We are going out for dinner then coming over to chill in the hot tub for a few hours.

We haven't talked about what anyone plans to wear. Should it be brought up? My boyfriend is usually naked and I'm either topless or naked. I don't know what our friends wear or plan to so I think it should maybe be talked about?

What should i do I do or have anyone else had this experience?

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Also! This is my boyfriends and I's tub. They are getting invited over. We aren't going to them.

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There is no swinging or sexual stuff happening here!

[ThatDudeWitt]

I can tell you right now, my girlfriend would be pissed and want to leave immediately if our hosts invited us over for hot tub time and got in there naked or topless. I can already hear her after we get in the car..."we are never hanging out with them again!"

Definitely check before hand. I don't even know why that would be a question?

[matchrestore]

Just tell them that you don't usually wear swimwear in the tub. You can blame it on the phosphorus from the soap and fibers from the fabric gumming up the filters. If they don't want to go nude you'll have to respect that, but that doesn't mean you can't try to talk them into it.

[fauchelevent]

I think the logical thing would be swimming costumes, I'd expect them to bring some too since it's not a porn film :P They're probably not gonna wanna come and get naked in your hot tub, so no need to make a big deal out of what to wear, y'know?

[Wonderer89]

Wear a swimsuit and take their lead. If someone invited me to their home and got naked I'd be hightailing it out. Until this becomes a semi/regular thing I wouldn't be bringing up nudity

[MorganR1994]

That's a good suggestion so maybe not even talk about it now but wait? We plan on doing this weekly or a few times a month.

[Wonderer89]

I'd wait a bit, after the fourth get together is bring it up if they haven't. It shows you've respected their boundaries as guests and that it isn't about sex, it's about comfort and your normal behaviour in your home

[MorganR1994]

That's a good idea. Normal behavior is nude since it's outside and private with a fence. After a few times and you were asked would you be for it or not? Or would you ever initiate the question?

[Wonderer89]

I wouldn't stop my friends but I wouldn't participate, it's not my thing around others

[MorganR1994]

I respect that answer!

[MorganR1994]

Everything worked out well! It was a fun night!

[Wonderer89]

Thanks for MHO, glad you had a good time 😊

[MorganR1994]

Your welcome! It all worked out!

[septemberangel118]

You should probably discuss it because the other couple is probably going to be wearing swimming attire and it would be rather awkward if the two of you were naked.

[MorganR1994]

I agree. Or do I bring it up in time

[septemberangel118]

You need to discuss it before the date happens.

[GingerGuy]

I would just ask them ahead of time, "we like to be naked, is this a problem?" Or, if you're not comfortable asking, go prepared with swim suits and follow their lead when the time comes. I've never experienced a hot tube date night unfortunately, it would be awesome! Especially if we were all comfortable being naked!

[Red_Arrow]

In that situation I would tell them before getting in the tub that you and your guy usually do not wear anything in the tub, but you will wear suits if they prefer, No surprises, no pressure.

So how did it go? How did you end up?

[MorganR1994]

We wore suits. It all worked out! It was a nice night

[Red_Arrow]

Very glad you enjoyed it. I once went to a party where there were many people. The hot tub was on the opposite side of the house from the main group and those in the hot tuba all went naked. But then we sometimes went around to the other side where the food was. But everyone had fun.

[MorganR1994]

That's cool! My boyfriend and I plan on having the couple over again and might invite another.

[Red_Arrow]

I hope it goes as well as this one did. :-)

[MorganR1994]

Yeah. I'm sure I'll be asking more questions about the next one. Lol. I don't know how well it'll be if there are 3 or 4 couples total

[Red_Arrow]

It is best if you know a bit about them as far as how they would feel in that situation.

[MorganR1994]

I think they would all enjoy it

[skiflydive]

Just tell them. "By the way, we don't wear suits in the tub. It clogs the filter over time." Let them decide. We're going to our friends house tonight for the same thing. In 35 years of tubbing with them we've never worn a stitch. Whats the point? It's usually pretty dark and all your bits are under water. Besides, all of you have seen breasts, penises, vulvas, and butts before. What's the big deal? (BTW all 4 of us are nudists so it's really not a thing for us.)

[martyfellow]

Never had a double hot tub date myself. Those are usually pretty intimate.

OF course you had better talk about it!!! The other couple may very well not want to be naked with people they don't know... or at least, don't know quite that well!!!

[martyfellow]

Especially inviting them over.. they'll want to know the protocol.

[MorganR1994]

I think so too. I guess I don't know what they would do or what they would expect

[Lelaila]

Since the double date is meant as friendly, there should be no nudity in the hot tub.

[LittleSally]

Ask them if they're okay with that... If they're not - then either wear a suit or just don't go in the tub...

[MorganR1994]

Simple and easy lol

[RJGraveyTrain]

My default would be a swimsuit. Showing up nude suggests you're going for something else. Lol.

[MorganR1994]

I sadly agree. I just don't know what they think they might wear ether. So that's why I ask lol

[ravedave]

Depends on what everyone is comfortable with. If you and your partner prefer to be naked/semi-naked, talk to your friends and see how they feel about it 👍

[MorganR1994]

Thank you! Would you do that?

[ravedave]

Yeah, definitely

[IwanderIwonder]

If it's just a friendly thing, then standard swim suit, bikini stuff.
If this is swinging, then I guess y'all can tub as you usually do.

[SarahsSummer]

Out of respect for the other couple, you should all start out in bathing suits and go from m there.

[MorganR1994]

I agree. Would you feel awkward if the host aka me asked about going without suits after a few times?

[SarahsSummer]

I probably would feel awkward if it wasn't mine or my boyfriends idea to do it. I mean if if my guy said to, I probably would, but if a friend guy or girl told me to, I might decline.

[MorganR1994]

Yeah! I am not saying I want to have it either way. I just thought it was a interesting thought. I'm perfectly fine in a swimsuit. They have all seen me wear them when it's not even a pool day lol

[SarahsSummer]

I have been in that situation and have gone both ways, but always started in a bathing suit first. Unless it was just the two of us.

[MorganR1994]

What was the transition for that? What was it like for you?

[SarahsSummer]

I think my guy pulled his shorts off under the water, then the other guys did, then one by one the other 2 girls did, so I did too. There wasn't really anything said. its was more like, oh well, I guess I will too.

[SarahsSummer]

And it was fun. Turned me on.

[MorganR1994]

Oh haha. So it wasn't like a planned thing

[SarahsSummer]

Not at all. We were all at a friends mountain house with a bunch of other people for the weekend partying and they had a huge hottub out on the deck so a few of us just opted to hang out in it for a while.

[MorganR1994]

Oh nice!! Mine will be a bit more planned lol

[SarahsSummer]

What exactly ARE you planning? Lol

[MorganR1994]

A date night lol

[SarahsSummer]

But I mean, why do you want the others to be naked? Are you gonna do a foursome or something?

[MorganR1994]

Ohh. No I don't want them to be. I just know that my boyfriend and I use the tub that way and didn't know if others followed that way or not

[tan_n]

baithing stuits obviously 😛 even if I was alone I'd wear a baithing suit

[MorganR1994]

lol thanks. It's a comfort thing for us.

[tan_n]

but ic you are infront of others that might make them uncomfortable too

[ATuairiscean]

I would clarify things - There is a huge distance between chilling with a few drinks and swinging - Everyone should be on same page

[NicolaJ35]

To be on the safe side, i'd wear a bikini. Especially as there is nothing sexual in it!

Later, after the first couple of times if you ALL feel comfortable then perhaps try topless!

[TacosRAwesome]

If there are people I would wear a bikini. I won't mind being nude if its just me and my partner but other people (especially other men) require cover up a bit.

[eurochick]

Depends how well you know the other couple and if they would be comfortable being naked too.

[titsataki]

give them a heads up as not to be any surprises.

i agree naked gives a nice sexual sense but maybe they do not think it like that..

[titsataki]

probably then put a bathing suit on..

[Caaarl]

Are you trying to swing because that's the vibe you guys give off to me.

[Caaarl]

I wouldn't suggest trying to get nude in front of them without things turning a bit sexual. Plus it's a hot tub things always get a little freaky in there.

[mi2precious]

add another couple. or just dont go naked. yeah talk it out

[Regular1]

It's obviously going to turn into an orgy, so what difference does clothing matter?

[DopeDuck]

Just wear what you feel is comfortable and doesn't embarrass you