For how long can a girl be too busy to meet up?

[Anonymous]

When you have a girls number and are trying to arrange a date with her but she seems to always be unavailable, for how long should I keep asking her out before I should give up and realize that she is just making excuses and isn't interested anymore?

[Elcristoph]

call her twice, lets say you call her on wednesday for a date on sunday. if she says that she's to busy on sunday and does provide you with another date. simply say

"well hun, wednesday is the only day I have, have a good night"

then put the phone down and call her the following week on lets say tuesday. and ask her out for thursday

if you get the same response ie to busy and she doesn't provide a counter date. just say the same thing as before, then put the phone down and delete her number. she gets 2 shots and if she makes the mistake of turning you down then she's missed out and its her loss.

However if on the second time she does counter offer it may be becouse she has nothing better to do that day so see the first call as a red flag and be mindfull of her actions. if you get another red flag on the date then delete her number and move on.

dont chase a women who doesn't want you, Unless you want to waste your time, money and end up heart broken when she calls after 2 months saying she's in a relationship with someone else.

Good Luck

-Chris

[Asker]

Thanks for the help but I am not into playing games. And I am not worried about being heart-broken by the way.

[Deeplove55]

Ok well it is clear that we are trying to tell you that the girl is not interested. So just let her go. If she comes back, she needs to prove herself by asking you out or setting a date to meet up if she is really into you. Don't ask her out no more. See if she will show some effort because you did a lot already.

[Elcristoph]

Freind you need to stop rationalisng this girls responses to you. there's an old saying "Woman don't lie and men don't listen". its means that women will tell you there not interested without saying "Im not interested" the problem is your not hearing what she's saying

your asking her on a date, she's turning it down. its that simple. put your ego aside and let her go, spend your getting more numbers.

Good Luck

-Chris

[Elcristoph]

Let me put it this way, if Brad Pitt called her and asked her on a date, do you really think she would say "sorry I'm too busy" Hell No, she would cancel an afternoon with her grandmother for a few hours with him.

[Anonymous]

Stop now because anytime a person says they are too busy to meet up means that they are not interested in meeting. Someone into you will make time regardless of how busy they are but yeah she is tryting to tell you she is not intereted in ever dating you. So just stop.

[Asker]

Well, that is obviously not true because sometimes people really are too busy, especially students (I know because I have been very busy at points in my life).

[Opinion Owner]

Look it up in google or yahoo. put "Signs a girl is not interested." If every time you ask to see a girl and she is always busy, she is not that into you. She could make time if she really wanted too. Evegn you said yourself that your thinking she may not be. Too much asking could push her away too thinking your desperate. Its all about effort and if the person doesn't seem to be trying to see you, they are not trying to see you.

[ak2020]

3 times max. If she's still 'busy' after the 4th call I suggest letting her go. Leave your number with her (even if it's in her inbox/voicemail) and let her chase you. You've put in more than enough. If she really wants to see you, she will.

[Asker]

That sounds reasonable.

[kriskahn21]

Great answer ak2020

[theback2u]

sorry to break it down for you but she's simply not interested.