My ex is engaged but says he loves me. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend is engaged,but I asked him if he was married he said no far from it. lately he has been emailing me and telling me he misses me and that he loves me and he always will and that he can't wait til he can see me again and sleep with me. what should I do? i still love him

[TheDigitalSaint]

If he really does love you, you need to be concerned for two reasons. First, he already committed to another woman and is considering leaving her for you. Lets say he does and joins you. What's to stop him from finding yet another woman or going back to his fiance? Does he really know what commitment is?

Either way, he owes it to the other woman to break it up with her ASAP if he no longer loves her. It is very dishonest to get in the middle of a love triangle instead of holding him up to a higher standard and getting him to leave the other girl, if that's really your end goal. Just be warned that he might do the same to you in the future.

[Asker]

He didn't tell me he was engaged I found out online.does that mean he is ashamed of her or he just wants me to think he is single?its hard because I have loved him for 9 yrs.i looked at his profile on fb the other day and he no longer has a picture of the 2 of them in his profile pictures and he deleted the album where she shows off her engagement ring

[TheDigitalSaint]

It could mean either. He could really love both you and the other woman. Who knows? You should try talking with him in person and let him know that you know about the other girl. There's only one way you should consider going out with this guy, that is, if he is 100% willing to cut it off completely with the other girl. You need him to say it to your face, no ifs ands or butts.

[Asker]

He lives in the states right now so how we do is email and lately he goes into detail of what he wants to do with me.by the sound of it she doesn't live with him.unless they broke up.he thinks it's hot that I am a mom.after all these years I still get butterflies when he emails me.

[TheDigitalSaint]

If you have no chance of meeting in person soon, email him and let him know you know about the other girl. Tell him you are willing to give him a chance, but only after he gives you a completely detailed reason as to why he would be willing to dump a woman he already said was going to be his for life. You need to make sure he doesn't dump you in a similar fashion in the future if he gets bored with you.

[Asker]

We already dated twice and I have a boyfriend that's why I don't know what to do because I love my current boyfriend but he barely comes here

[TheDigitalSaint]

It sounds like a real disaster waiting to happen on all sides. The only way this doesn't get really out of hand is if you email your guy and get him to own up with the other girl. If he's willing to do that, you need to break it off with your current boyfriend ASAP. It is the only honest thing to do. Send that email right away, no delaying.

[Asker]

I wrote him and told him I herd he was engaged lets see if he admits it but I have a feeling he will and it's gonna hurt like hell knowing the truth.thats what happens when I don't play hockey like her

[TheDigitalSaint]

It might hurt, but you did the right thing. We'll just have to wait and see.

[Asker]

I won't be surprised if he denys it or he might tell the truth I am beyond scared to find out even if he admits it I am still gonna be torn I know it's stupid but it's real hard

[BirdofParadise]

Unless he actually breaks up with his fiance and comes back to you, its all just talk. So long as he is telling you these things, he will have you waiting there for him in case things don't work out with his fiance for whatever reason.

Tell him that he needs to figure out what he wants and stop saying these things to you. You are not together anymore, its inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

open your eyes, he's being an a**hole to you and his fiance.