Can I tell the guy who stood me up off?
I got stood up last night and let me tell you it feels horrible! I am a pretty attractive girl who has no problem finding a date. This guy was... Show More
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This just happened to me too! In my case, I think, although he would never admit it, that he was hungover/still drunk from the night before and he even said to me that his explanation would never be "good enough", cos lets face it it doesn't look that good does it. "Er sorry I'm actually throwing up, I've lost a shoe and look like sh*t because I got a bit carried away with the tequila last night, so I think it's best we don't do dinner".
See we know that honesty, even in a slightly prettied up version, is ALWAYS better than nothing but guys, they don't get that. They avoid admitting anything that makes them look bad.
Whatever you do, do not send a 'have a nice life text'. He may be embarrassed to tell you the truth because if that is the case, it doesn't paint him in the best of lights. It could of course also be that he's not interested, but this isn't about him. Are you interested? Is it worth giving him another shot? We've all been in situations where we meant to have one or two beers and it turned into 10 because really after 4 we just feel like nothing can go wrong and of course we'll be up bright and early to jog around the park?!?
If you do continue this, you definitely need to tell him it wasn't cool...but fear not, he will remember he made plans and he will know he fu**ed up, so you don't need to labour the point. I know what you mean about the testing how far they can go. I agree, a little, but men are so much simpler than us and I don't mean that disrespectfully, they just don't think things through so much. It probably seemed like a great idea at the time to ask you for dinner.
Be cool. Be mature. Tell him you had a great night but it's a shame you didn't do dinner, his night would have been better if he'd spent it with you. The fact he is texting at all, kinda indicates he is still interested. If he was blowing you off he wouldn't bother, would he?
Maybe he was a little put out you didn't join him and his friends...have you met them before? Was that actually going to be a big deal for him?
It really comes down to whether you like him enough to even give him the benefit of the doubt. And call him on it, and see what he does from there...that will be your answer as to whether he is into you, or not.
And don't be clouded by the fact you were planning to have sex for the first time. He didn't know that. It throws other emotions in there about trust, and stepping things up that he could not be aware of.
What Guys Said 2
you know what you need to do. Tell him what you think, and be done with it. Ya dnt need to waste anymore time on this guy, as he don't give 2 craps enuf about you to be real with you in this case.
File this drama under "O" for Oh well. Why feel the need to tell anyone off, if he isn't into you just drop him like a sack of potatoes and move on already. your puting way to much energy into a person that is pretty indifferent towards you.
The angrier you respond the more of an ego boost you are going to give him. Just move on, pretty simple. You're too mature for this baby crap.right?
What Girls Said 2
hmm like you said he was drunk, maybe he had a really bad hangover the next day and didn't feel up to it and was reluctant to tell you this was why or said he would cook for you even though he had no food in and just felt it was easier to not go through with it. or maybe he was that drunk he forgot he made the plans at all, it seems like he's still intrested otherwise he wouldn't have text you again.