Why do guys hardly/never compliment girls to their faces?

[BrunetteBabe1005]

When I am with my guy friends, they will always say "Dude she's hot" and I will find out behind my back what guys say about me, and I am always getting the "She's hot!" about me. Like this one guy said behind my back that he liked I was a "good girl" he also said I was "Beautiful" behind my back, but he never said it to my face. Why is that? It seems like guys are always complimenting girls behind their backs instead of to their face. Just curious as to why you fellas do that lol!

[Meedo]

This is a good question. But .. most women have some paranoia and insecurity. and this makes it hard for men to communicate effectively with them. Specially if they don't know each other from a common social setting.

1- If they get a compliment from a man they don't like.. they can label him creepy, desperate, 'below their league, loser.. etc..

2- They might think he wants to rape them .

3- They might think that all he wants is sex.

4- They might think that he can't see behind looks.

So men ... wanna save their reputation, wouldn't compliment you unless they are ready to go all the way and risk everything for you. They know women brag between each other how she got approached by this guy and suddenly this guy has a reputation among the group being the desperate guy that goes around giving compliments and approaching women. If guys knew that women would treat their conversation with respect and secrecy then they would lay it all out . But guys know you like to brag between each other and this is dangerous for our reputation :)

When you hear about a guy saying something about you , he can always deny it. You just heard this from a mutual friend. So you can't be 100% sure. But when he says it to your face. You are confident of the truth and thus he has risked everything for you .

Let me ask you .. a guy you know took you aside and complimented you sincerely .. you are not interested in him... would you keep it a secret or would you tell your girlfriend about the interaction? be honest :)

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Very interesting answer! I see more clearly now... and I get why, and us women do over react. Actually I wouldn't tell any of my friends, you should've saw my previous question lol! It was "What do you think of girls that keep their lives private?" or something along those lines, but I did ask a ? about that cause I am a very private person. If a guy complimented me sincerely, I would definitely appreciate and be flattered that he meant it sincerely, but no I wouldn't discuss it any further :)

[Meedo]

Thanks for the best answer ;)

[Theguyoverthere]

Different girls have different reactions to it.

One guy can compliment a girl and it will make her feel awkward especially if she's not interested in him.

Another girl can let it get to her head and cause her to get really cocky after a while. We got "questions" around here proving that.

Plus for most guys, compliments are better saved for relationships. If we go around complimenting girls openly and randomly, it can mess up our chances with another girl because she'll see it as we're interested in another girl and we'd get accused of "settling" for a "lesser girl." If a girl sees a guy complimenting a girl and it causes the other girl to pursue heavier, it's a red flag and she'll end up just being a hook up because she's a competitive dater and those are nothing but trouble.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ahhh interesting! I hear that a lot that guys will keep it to themselves cause they think the girl will get a big head if they say it to her face. But interesting answer, thanks man! :)

[Anonymous]

They are scared of making you feel awkward. Even if they think you are hot doesn't mean they plan to hook up or ask you out so they don't want to give the wrong idea. I do this too I talk with my friends about certain guys being hot but I wouldn't want to date them or hook up as sometimes we can just admire someone's look without it being more.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

True! But I thought women were only capable of complimenting a guy, and just admiring their looks, hahaha! I thought men can't just admire looks, like they have to have sex with you, lol!

[Opinion Owner]

they can say she is hot or beautiful doesn't mean they don't want to stick it in!

[Anonymous]

He might not say it to you're face since it might freak you out

[BrunetteBabe1005]

True! Thanks for your answer! :)

[HandsomeRaj]

Can't say about others but I always make it a point to tell the woman in person i.e. if I know her :D rather than discussing it with friends but telling a woman these things has various reactions. A few of them tend to get creeped out, they think I'm attracted to them etc the way Meedo has said. I've faced these so I know. Ofcourse after that I never fraternize with them if they don't accept it in a good sense :D

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Yeah, I notice that women do over-react to compliments, I just experienced that the other day with my friend. My guy friend complimented my girlfriend and she said to me "He said it in a stalker kind of way he's so weird!" When all he said was she was "Beautiful" and "Fascinating" I think it was just a sweet compliment, lol! But she was upset about it the whole day, and I was like wtf? lmao! So I understand why guys kinda keep their compliments hidden, but that's good you make a point of it. :)

[HandsomeRaj]

It is very much 'woman' to suspect a compliment but nature has granted them that since they are prone to assaults, being manipulated for sex etc like nature has granted women with loving compliments :) guess it's nature's way for defense against certain elements :) I'd say it's a good thing :)

[Anonymous]

For me I have only had two girlfriends. Girl #1 I would compliment her to her face and she would giggle and blush so I would compliment her a lot because it was cute. Girl #2 on the other hand when I complimented her she would just go oh.. yeah thanks and act really strange like why am I complimenting her. Eventually I figured that was the way she was and I stopped after a while because she would act strange. Now when I meet women or go on a date I never really compliment there appearance because I realized some people just don't like compliments.

[Anonymous]

Girls are too needy. If you pay one a compliment to her face, you had better never stop or there'll be hell to pay.

As well as that, try complimenting a woman to her face. She'll deny it, say you're kidding, and that you're just saying it to get something.

Face it- you CAN'T compliment women to their face. Guys know this already.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awww :( but some women really need the compliments! But there are some who just like compliments cause they know they are hot...yeah those types maybe not compliment cause they are already cocky, but OK, I see. Interesting answer! Thanks man! :)

[whatyousaid]

Ive complimented women to their face. This married woman where I work said she's trying to watch her figure and I told her she's hot cause she had nothing to worry about and her worrying about it annoyed me so I told her straight lol. But saying that I'm the kinda guy who will tell people straight what I think. However if I really like a girl I will never compliment them. Its weird.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Haha! Well that was nice of you! :) Yeah I do the same thing, if I like a guy a lot I won't compliment him, but if I am friends or just casual with a guy I will say whatever comes to mind, haha! I only say compliments though if I truly mean it, cause I don't believe in being phony, lol! But that's interesting! Thanks! :)

[OldboyJon]

idc I will say it to her face...but depending on the girl if she really attractive and I know for sure she knows and guy have told her that before I won't cause she knows if I do I will be goofy about it when I compliment her

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Awesome dude! I give you props! :)

[cavmanier]

I think a lot of people are scared of rejection. I don't tell a girl that normally because it isn't relevant. Also, I feel like they may think it's a bigger deal than it is.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Ahhh Interesting! Thanks for answering! :)

[Anonymous]

Some guys fear that she might take the complement out of context and press charges.

And many guys lack the confidence for it, and will do it when they've mustered up the courage.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hahaha! She'll press charges, yeah women can over react...but thanks for the answer! :)

[martyfellow]

Because we often are checking out yur backside when we talk to other guys about you!

[BrunetteBabe1005]

OHHHH SHIT SON! Hahahaha!

[martyfellow]

Best Answer, right?

[Anonymous]

Because they're afraid of rejection/sarcastic comments/insults back. I complimented a few and they were horrible.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Aww sorry about that! But I understand why guys keep it to themselves, women are bitches, hahaha!

[Anonymous]

Two reasons. Many guys lack the confidence to do it. And many guys fear that it's politically incorrect to do it.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

I'm sorry I am so dumb, can you please explain why it would be politically incorrect? Haha sorry, I am so stupid.

[whiteknight01]

Because we think that you'll take the compliment the wrong way.

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Haha! I do see more clearly that us women tend to over-react and blow things out of context, so I do understand why men are cautious in that area. Thanks for the answer! :)

[jaegerffff]

because they are afraid, duh

[BrunetteBabe1005]

Hehe...Well I am shy too! So I kinda fall in that catergory of saying things behind guys back and such but not to their face, however, I do compliment a guy if I truly do mean it :)

[Anonymous]

why do girls only want model looking guys

[BrunetteBabe1005]

LOL I don't want a model guy...I want your mom ;)