My boyfriend is a little old fashioned for me- what do I do?

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So, my boyfriend and I are a little different. He likes things really traditional: paying on every date, baby names to be strictly male or female for that gender respectively, and makes it obvious that it'll be a turn off if I get a pixie cut as opposed to my girly long hair. He's going to enlist in a year, and I just got a well paying job, yet he refuses to buy himself a nice car with 'his girl's money' cause he'd feel 'like a wuss.' It wouldn't be much of a problem, but I'm extremely independent and it hurts his feelings if I don't let him be 'the man,' but I hate feeling like females aren't 'to his standard.' I don't know if I'm taking this too far.. But should I confront him about it? Or what?

justbanANNAz · Accepted Answer

look id honestly rather a man like him than someone who dont give a shit about u baby girl. guys like that are rare. u dont necessarily have to conform to all he wants, like he will eventually learn that he will have to meet u halfway, but consider urself blessed that u have a man who treats u this way.
i get where ur coming from completely. but i really think u should talk to him and tell him u love all he does for u, but with little things a compromise should b made between u both. good luck xx

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Accepted Answer

You are under 18 so don't take things too seriously because chances are that he isn't your soul mate. Everyone dates someone who isn't their up of tea , just do what ever you want to do. If you let someone limit who you are as a person you are going to regret staying with them for so long. So tell him politely how you feel. Its not the 50's any more for christs sake

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

He sounds like a really great guy and his way of thinking is not wrong.  There is nothing he needs to change there.  With that being said, you aren't wrong either.  You two just have different concepts of how you want your relationship to be, so ultimately you won't be compatible.  You're young, I doubt you've met 'him' yet.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

I don't think you should 'confront' him. but I think a honest conversation but each of your values, wants, expectations, etc is necessary.

It would be a concern to me if the person I was with was so vastly different in terms of the way they saw gender roles within a relationship.

I think it's something that can be overcome but there are also a lot of relationships that fail because two people basically have different perspectives on their roles within the relationship

bDizzie · Accepted Answer

I know you're under 18 but this is how guys should treat their girlfriends. Nowadays most guys act like jerks and only want sex. You should be happy you got a good one!
And please don't get a pixie cut! (Sorry I had to add that)

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

You're under 18.  There's nothing wrong with his opinions on the roles of  men and women in his relationships.  It has nothing to do with a 'standard'.  If you don't like a person who thinks that way, then he's a poor boyfriend choice for you.

Anonymous · Answer

You two are not compatible. Odds are neither of you are ever going to change and you will eventually be miserable together.

There are submissive males out there and you need to find yourself one or you're never going to be happy in a relationship.

Red_Dragon · Answer

Ahh I hate that old fashioned BS. I don't do it and I don't expect a female to want me to be that way. You should definitely talk it out with him.

kambo_trick3y · Answer

You should punch him in the face, that'll set him to rights.

JohnWhilkins · Answer

Doesn't sound very "manly" to be that easily stubborn or to ever feel like a wuss. Just turn it on him, you might break up, you'll get over it in a week once you find something else. BAM, cold answer!

Anonymous · Answer

He sounds perfect to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly Every guy wants to be "THE MAN" lmao

Sex_Panther · Answer

Just leave him.

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