A guy who's been cheated on by his previous girlfriend will behave in just the same way a girl would. He might not trust in love for a bit immediately after. He'll have his guard up, but I don't think he'll treat the next girl he starts to like any differently. He won't necessarily be afraid of certain things that led to or remind him of being cheated on, but will likely be hyper-sensitive towards them.
Like if you're his next girl-friend, he'll be a little more uncomfortable when you're hanging out with guy-friends until you show him that he can relax and you're with him and not them for a reason. I don't see why he play hot and cold if you don't give him reason to. Over time and with a little bit of extra effort at the beginning, once he sees that he trusts you in not being overly flirty and that you really do care for him and his well-being, he'll go back to normal.
I say all those things from experience as my current boyfriend actually caught and walked in on his ex of 1.5 years cheating on him. Don't let you guys' past experiences stand in the way. It should only be an issue if you let it become one. :)
Im in the same situation.. it's so hard.. he's keep telling me that he don't want a relationship because he's afraid to get hurt again.. so difficult.. good luck!
Honestly, its base on how he sees the girl. And it goes back to how bad he has been hurt. For some being cheated on hurts, but they get over it. Unless they really really like the girl then, like anything else, it will take time. But if he understands that you didn't hurt him, then he will care for you or the next girl but with fear of it happening again. You can't tell him you won't hurt him, he heard that before from the one who hurt him. You will have to show him. But understand that time will be a major factor. He will become cold when he see a pattern that he saw in the past. I know its not fair but he will have to get over the pain or it will be the same thing over and over again. Hurt people Hurt people. Hopefully he will see that you won't hurt him. Just be careful.
He would probably have his guards up. It's not easy to know that you trusted someone completely only to be cheated upon. Thankfully I have never experienced this, try to treat him as you'd treat yourself in his situation. He'll eventually clear up, just be genuinely nice and let him know you respect how he feels. :)
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From my personal experience (I have been cheated on and ridiculed my my GF) I can tell you he may be really nice, but he will ALWAYS keep his guard up. He may want to trust or love again, but he never truly will. Everything the person he is with does will be questioned. He may even be so hurt that he pushes people away: You can't be hurt by someone who isn't in your life.
Yes he would have his guard up and probably would prefer to play it safe and not have a relationship.
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