Do guys lose interest in a girl when he finds out she's a virgin?

[Anonymous]

This guy I was just talking to well what happened was I texted him saying "that's why we're friends" just to see his reactions because I wasn't sure what he wanted and then he texted back saying "oh no, I'm friend zoned" and well I told him he's not firendzomed and well we were flirting and stuff and then all of a sudden he asks when the last time I had sex was and I said I didn't have sex and well he was surprised but he said ok and the convo changed from there, were still talking but he stopped with the flirting and he's relying back slow now" so I was wondering do guys loose interest in a girl when they find out you're a virgin? This is not the first time this happened. I'm 19 years old by the way so should I just have sex to get it over with so this doesn't happen?

[strwberryktten]

I'm 19 too and was a virgin before i started going out with my boyfriend (6 months together now). I always made it clear to anyone I went out with that I didn't want to engage in sexual activity until we were in a committed relationship. I wanted to go all "slut for one person" kinda thing lol. Sadly many people eventually just stopped talking to me because they didn't want the same thing as me, which was commitment. I really dont judge people that do have casual sex.. I just wanted my first to be with someone who actually cared about me. If my relationship were to end I probably wouldn't mind casual sex now. If you want to lose your virginity soon and have some fun then say so. However the guy may not be ready for the responsibility of "popping your cherry," since everyone makes it out to be such a huge thing. But if you want someone who is serious about you then it's all trial and error. The right person will come along one day.

[Tellmeaboutitstud]

Girl I totally get you! I am 19 and also a virgin I too have thought about losing my virginity because it feels like a drag but all my friends whom have had sex always tell me to do it with someone who means something to you because you don't want to live with regret. I thought I had found a guy whom I really like and I was like this guy is going to be the one at the same time another virgin friend of mine found a guy whom she liked. After 3. months I ran into her she told me she had sex with him and regretted it she was completely heartbroken about it, I on the other hand didn't have sex with the guy and he too did somethings that hurt me but I can not begin to tell you how grateful I am that I didn't have sex with him. I feel it would have been the biggest mistake of my life.

[NyomiMcClinton]

I would not worry about a guy like that. He seems like a guy that just wants to have sex with you. Its good that he has shown his true colors to you before you got attached to him, because it will be easy for you to move on. Dont be pressured into sleeping with a guy who has expressed no interest in being committed with you. It will not a make a difference if you give him or sex or not, because he still has made no commitment in wanting to be with you and he can still cheat or leave you. So why bother even wasting your time on a guy like that. Its pointless.

[RandomGuyAnswering]

It's pretty simple to be honest. There's only 4. ways a man will see this when presented to him. 1. He thinks you don't fool around and won't and way more work than he's willing to put in and doesn't relish the thought of having blue balls every night. 2. He likes women that can have a sexual relationship on a weekly basis because that's what he's used to. 3. Wow finally a woman that hasn't been all around town, this might be worth looking into. 4. Challenge Accepted. If you like this guy, just talk to him about it, say wether you are open to it or not and don't beat around the bush or bullshit him. Don't have sex to "just get it over with", not saying stay a virgin, just at least make the attempt to make your first worth a damn.

[Asker]

From what it seems like it seems like he sees it as #1 or 2 since he's not replying back lol and it's been an hour (not to that but to something else) he only replays fast when it was him taking about sexual stuff and now he's replying back so slow after he found out and I do wanna make my first worth a "Damn" but no guy has ever liked me and no guy would ever like me for more than just sex for some reason

[RandomGuyAnswering]

Yeah I don't believe that to be true with "no guy liking you and only for sex". That's your self esteem talking right there. As cliche as it might sound, I'll say it anyways, you haven't met the right guy or been around enough guys that actually do want more than just sex. You have to be patient and don't be concerned with looking. When you aren't looking for a relationship is when you get contacted. Also for future hookups, don't mention the virgin thing until you are actually looking to take it to that level, you shouldn't even have to mention it. You can tell a guy no just because and you don't need to give an explanation and if you want to, tell them you don't want to. If they can't deal with it, then fuck them and move on to the next dude because clearly not worth your time.

[Asker]

I've never really been in a serious relationship before tho and that's because guys only
Want me for aw and I tried looking everywhere but yet somehow every other person in the world has dated someone or something but yeah I agree with you overall and yup I never mention it unless they ask

[RandomGuyAnswering]

I feel for you I do. Don't give up, people suck in general, it's what makes finding someone worth a damn so awesome.

[Asker]

Honestly I do feel like giving up it's not worth it. The cycle goes the same, I meet someone who seems great, we get along and stuff and we hangout and then we talk some more and it seems like we both like each other but then later on they either ask if I have had sex before or they want it and after I say no well they ignore me and it hurts sometimes because this only happens to me it makes me think there's something wrong with me or if I look ugly or something. I do personally believe everyone will find that special someone one day but just not me

[Bananaman177]

Virgin is a good thing.

The alternative is that you've already had some other dude's dick in you, how is that a positive?

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[navychick2006]

Wait until you're ready to have sex hon. I lost mine at 23 and regretted it. I had a lot of guys say douchey things to me for having waited that long, but that's just the society we live in... sexual promiscuity is the cultural norm for some reason and if you don't sleep around, there's something wrong with you. However if you do have sex, the same people will also turn around and call you a slut so it's kind of a double edged sword unfortunately.

I know you said you are still a virgin, but there is nothing wrong with you whether you are or aren't. If a guy stops talking to you because of that, he's not the guy you want anyway.

[WalterRadio]

There are two aspects of your write-up.

The first is the F-word. When you say "friend", you are announcing that there is zero possibility of romantic involvement.

As far as whether someone who says she is a virgin, that is not a turn off, just an obstacle, potentially minor, as some virgins I have been with have decided not to be a virgin on our first date.

[Asker]

I only said friend to see his reaction since he always seems to cancel plans when I ask him to hangout and doesn't talk to me unless I message him first. But after he said if he's friendoned I told
Him he's not

[WalterRadio]

Now you know not to call him that.

[Asker]

He's cool with that but he's just ignoring me ever since I told him I haven't had sec before

[WalterRadio]

He thinks you are not worth wasting his time for. He thinks there are other girls who will be much easier to get into bed.

[Asker]

Ohhh ok well in that case then he's only looking for a hookup right?

[WalterRadio]

Whether that is all he wants or not, I can't say. Just that to him, someone else will be easier.

[TripleAce]

Under 25 sure its fine. Anything past 28 for a women is a little suspicious. Because it indicates some of the following

1. She's not capable of sustaining a relationship to the point of a sexual connection
2. She is socially awkward
3. Locked in a comfort zone

Which are all red flags. Unless she is conciously waiting for marriage or religious

[Anonymous]

I would greatly prefer a virgin for a lasting relationship.
Maybe he was just planning on a hook up at first, but once he found out you were a virgin, he started taking you more seriously than just a hook up. That could be why he wasn't talking as sexual after he knew that. Maybe now he wants to get to know you for more than sexual stuff.

[Asker]

I hope so! But he's replying back really slow he used to reply back really fast tbh i don't even know if he'll reply back

[Opinion Owner]

Tell him that you want to be sure you are with the right person for a while first before having sex. That way he will know it is still possible later on.

[GraveTruth]

It's not the virginity that stops the interest.
Its the fact that a guy doesn't want to get in a situation where they can't have sex or try to pressure someone into doing it.

[Asker]

I don't mind having sex tho if we date as long as safety things like condom and stuff is used properly

[GraveTruth]

I (and most guys) would assume that you didn't have sex because you won't.

I wouldn't want to pressure you and I wouldn't want to only cuddle for 5years.

:)

[UkBeenThereDONEITX]

Not really no I think he will be amazed at you beena Virgin men love a Virgin woman but I wouldn't loose your virginity until your old enough and you've meet a decent person not someone else that just wants to pop ur cherry it's a special thing once it's gone you can't get it bk

[Anonymous]

I really doubt that unless he is a player and all he wants is sex from her.

[__Victoria__]

If he is want you just for sex don't be with him. These kind of guys just want for fun they don't want serious relationship. I hope you will find someone who will be in love you. Best of luck

[Asker]

Thanks girl! 😊

[__Victoria__]

Your welcome 😊

[meatballs21]

Unless she had made it clear she wanted to lose her virginity and soon, I wouldn't be interested.

[laurapalmer]

I think that if a guy is truly interested in you he won't care how much/how little sex you've had.

[GoWebGo]

I would prefer my girl to be virgin since she feels "clean" in a way and it would almost be an honor to take it away lol

[jacquesvol]

I didn't lose interest.
But if she said it's for religious reasons I'd lose intrerest.

[lumberman9]

Not at all, in fact I actually find touching although I would want to have sex with her at some point if we start dating

[Chris1456]

depending if the guy truly loves her or no.

[Asker]

Well just a guy you're talking to so he can't really love you

[Anonymous]

I my opinion it doesn't matter. If a myth ng I would be the total opposite. First sex can be a special thing. If its a deeply in live thing then virgin is better? This it really doesn't make any difference whatsoever.

[icebear1801]

Hmmmmmmm maybe it's a disease that makes guys lose interest in virgins
Maybe I don't know

[Break_yoself]

He probably thinks you won't put out now or something

[Wilhelm03]

it depends on the guys preference. some guys just don't like girls without any sexual knowledge.

[Sanity43217]

Virginity is a good thing. It shows that you will be faithful

[Introvert94]

Depends on the guy, but I'd prefer a virgin.